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New Here with a Question
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Hi ladies! I'm usually on the AP board but I keep meaning to make my way over here!
I was wondering how long it takes to get the hang of being a SAHM?! I haven't been too impressed with myself yet! DH is great and helps out as much as he can when he is home and has never made a bad comment but it is driving me crazy that I can't seem to clean or cook anymore!
DD is 4 months but has no real schedule. She only naps twice a day and will not go in her crib for naps (though she does at night!). When she is asleep we have to be careful because our condo echos everything. I hate it! I also can't seem to do anything when she is awake because she is a pretty needy baby that wants to be entertained 24/7. No playing on the playmat or in the swing for her! Haha!
It just seems that for the past 4 months my house has been messy, we have lived on sandwiches, and all clean clothes are still in the hamper! Heck I can't even figure out how to go about joining mommy groups or doing storytime because her naps are so erratic! So my question...when did you get the hang of things?! I don't want to be a Martha Stewart but some cleanliness & home cooking would be nice!
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Re: New Here with a Question
Hi....I am not sure how to answer your question...exceot, I can give you some sites, that someone gave me.
cafemom.com
meetup.com
Both of these are great way to find other Moms in your area. Good luck.
Well, if she's used to being held, strap her in and run the vacuum or do the dishes. I got pretty good doing things with one hand.
When I was cooking, I didn't hold her, but her in the high chair.
When I did laundry she laid next to me and I gave her socks to play with. I did what I had to do. I also had to run downstairs and what not and I put her in the swing, pack n play, what have you.
She survived.
For me, the first jump came around 4 months. A glimpse of a schedule (kind of - at least in comparison) emerged around that time. Things took another jump at 6 months. By 10 months, things were back on track.
I took it slow and easy. And when I look back, I wish I had trusted even more that I would get the hang of it, given a little time. I spent too much time worrying about if I would ever X again and the logistics of things that now (2 years later) seem second nature.
If you are posting this as your DD is rounding out 4 months, I bet it is a sign that things are changing, and you are seeing that someday you are going to have the hang of it.
Take baby steps - I bet change is in the near future.
Ditto to what 'susan' said. By 4 months, things were getting better, but still crazy. Around 6 months, I set up a schedule as best I could and she fell into a routine.
I am sure you are doing just fine, just give yourself and your LO some time. Something is always changing, so there is always an adjustment period. Also, keep drying different things (ie- playmats, jumpers, toys, and the swing) to keep her entertained, you never know, one day she might actually enjoy it.
About a month ago, we finally have a schedule - So... 7 1/2 months? Around 6 months, he became much more predictable. He was a toughie, too. Colic until 4 months (pretty much, to the day), though the pediatrician had told me it's usually gone by 3 months. We had severe nap problems - Would only nap 15 to 20 minutes at a time, etc.
Things are now easy and fun. Of course there are constant regressions - Everytime a new tooth is coming in, for example, but at least when that's going on, you know it's just a phase and will pass soon.
GL and Hang in there - It does get easier!
I tossed the idea of a schedule or trying to get everything done as soon as DD came home. I get done what I can get done, and leave it at that. I'm more concerned about spending time with DD.
If we want to get a bulk of stuff done around the house, DH and I will take shifts with DD on the weekends. He'll take her in the morning so I can run errands and do some things around the house, and I take her in the afternoons so he can work on projects and get things organized. By the evening we've gotten a chunk of things done and can spend time together as a family.
I chose not to join a mom's group until DD is a bit older, as the major group in my area is geared more toward preschool and up. I try and get out with her at least a few times a week, whether that's going to the grocery store, talking a walk around the neighborhood, or meeting up with a friend for coffee. If she's asleep, she's asleep. If she's awake, and I know she'll be up for a couple of hours, I use that time to do the errands with her.
GL! It will get better as time goes on.
Noel - August 2010
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I've been at home for a year and it's not at all how I pictured. I thought I would have a clean house, nice body and creative activities planned for weekends. I need to improve some of my habits, but also adjust my expectations.
I think you will feel better and better as time goes on.