so irritated!
can anyone recommend a good ob-gyn???!!!
i live in honolulu, but i'm willing to drive if i have to.i have my own doctor right now but i just don't really feel comfortable with her. my first appointment she tried to convince me that i HAD to get a flu shot or i could die,after i was very clear that i wanted to do everything naturally, and not have any shots or medicine, then she said the reason i was showing so much was "not from the baby" and i should "just eat healthier." i was so offended! my husband and i only eat organic, and i am by no means over weight. she also liked to use big medical terms, and then ask me, "if i knew what that meant." with a very, "im better than you" attitude. this is my first pregnancy, and i'd really like to have someone that i felt completely comfortable with, and who actually genuinely cares about me. thanks so much for any advice!
1 Corinthians 13:13 Three things will last forever --faith, hope, and love-- but the greatest of these is LOVE.
Re: so irritated!
yikes! sorry you had to put up with that. I'm not local - hopefully somone who is will chime in - but I know a while back there was some talk of one of the Oahu hospitals offering midwifery services with the possibility of in hospital water births. I would certainly look into another care option - you don't want to get nervous and stressed at every appt.
My first midwife dumped me at 15weeks so I know how stressful it can be, but looking back I'm so thankful I didn't have to deal with our personality clashes (hindsight is 20/20). I did give birth at a hospital with no interventions (not even an IV or heplock) and being able to walk around, labor (and birth) in any position I wanted and sitting in the tub was bliss - probably how I got through the pain. I wasn't allowed to actually birth in the tub but I'm not sure I would have wanted to. My midwifery practice was wonderful but I'm thinking I would still like to explore other options for any future birth because I still wasn't comfortable with the entire experience.
eta - regardless of your feeling on a certain intervention or procedure (ex. flu shot) I don't think any patient deserves to be talked down to or bullied in a way that is not helpful or informative.