I live on the opposite coast as my entire family. I do have lots of friends here so I'm wondering what the deal with the shower. My friends here want to throw a shower but so does my aunt back on the east coast. I should have 2 shower or what? I don't want people to think I'm greedy because I honestly don't care that much about the shower except to get all my friends and family together and visit.
Also I know what I want for the shower themes but do I let the people hosting choose or tell them my specific shower themes that I want to have?
Re: Shower here or there or everywhere?
I think it's perfectly acceptable to have two showers in different locations if people have offered to throw them for you.
As far as themes/decor, that's pretty much up to the hostess unless your opinion is requested.
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Ditto. Have 2 showers w/ 2 different guest lists.
If ASKED, you can express your theme preference. Otherwise, say nothing and graciously accept the gift (which a shower is) you are being given.
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I think it would be appropriate to have two showers...especially since people live on two sides of the country. I don't think it is appropriate to suggest themes unless they ask for your input. The only thing you should be able to voice an opinion about is the date and the guest list (but even with that you have to stick to the number of people they (the hosts) can comfortably accomodate).
You get to choose the shower themes when you host someone else's shower. That's how it works...unless they (the hosts) tell you to go for it of course.
I had one shower on the east cost with mine and H's family. A friend of mine from the west coast was in town at the same time as me and came to that shower.
I'm also having a shower on the west coast with friends out here. 1 family member and 1 friend from the first shower will be coming to the second one only because they want to come and hang out with us!
As for theme, you can bring it up to the people planning it by asking if they have a theme planned, and if not, you can let them know your idea! They may not go with it but it's worth a shot to throw it out there.