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Am I setting myself up for disaster?

MouseygailMouseygail member
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DS is great sleeper, but now I'm nervous that I am setting up bad habits. He sleeps in the RNP next to our bed. STTN about half of the time. The other half he wakes up, nurses, and goes back to sleep. Bedtime routine is usually bath, book, nurse, bed. He doesnt fall asleep while nursing. Usually I swaddle him, snuggle for a few minutes, and then lay him down drowsy, with his binky. I usually lay on my bed next to him, playing on my phone as he falls asleep. If I go downstairs before he is asleep, he will start fussing, so I end upcoming back up to lay downby him again. Is the binky and me laying by him setting us up for problems when we move him into his own room? I'm nervous that we should move him out now that he is so aware if we are there or not, but imnot ready to not have him with me! (sorry for one paragrPh...I'm bumping inmy phone while he drifts back to sleep!)
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  • gramos1128gramos1128
    Honestly he won't always need you there.  They go through such phases.  I often think about this because I still rock DS for his naps and bed with bottle.  I tried in the last week to put him down and let him cry it out but I hate it and he doesn't sleep well when I do that so I gave in.  He sleeps wonderfully 11-12 hours a night and naps 2 1/2 to 3 hours between 2 naps, so my advice "if it's not broke, don't fix it." He is too young to manipulate and I honestly feel that it makes for a more secure child to know they are secure and loved. 
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    imagegluca:
    Honestly he won't always need you there.  They go through such phases.  I often think about this because I still rock DS for his naps and bed with bottle.  I tried in the last week to put him down and let him cry it out but I hate it and he doesn't sleep well when I do that so I gave in.  He sleeps wonderfully 11-12 hours a night and naps 2 1/2 to 3 hours between 2 naps, so my advice "if it's not broke, don't fix it." He is too young to manipulate and I honestly feel that it makes for a more secure child to know they are secure and loved. 
      this is what I wanted to hear :) 
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  • SeaSoulSeaSoul member
    I think what you're doing is just perfect for him right now.  And that's what's important:  tending to his needs now.  I don't believe that it will backfire on you.
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  • gramos1128gramos1128
    Yes
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  • MouseygailMouseygail member
    imageSeaSoul:
    I think what you're doing is just perfect for him right now.  And that's what's important:  tending to his needs now.  I don't believe that it will backfire on you.
      thanks :)  and if it were to become an issue, I should just deal with it then and quit worrying so much?
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  • somethingchangdsomethingchangd member

    imageSeaSoul:
    I think what you're doing is just perfect for him right now.  And that's what's important:  tending to his needs now.  I don't believe that it will backfire on you.

    Smart words.

    Oliver is a crappy sleeper and I have spent many wakeful nights wondering what I did to ruin him.  But, he has improved DRAMATICALLY over time and I've done virtually nothing to encourage it.  He just outgrew most of his issues and I have faith that someday he'll sleep just fine. 

    You are meeting his needs and it's working for now.  If you wind up experiencing some difficulties later you will work through them (and it's likely you did nothing to cause them anyway).  One day at a time.  And enjoy your great sleeper for who he is!  :)

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  • cjsbdlcjsbdl member

    imagegluca:
    They go through such phases.  

    I agree with this. I think it's smart to try to avoid establishing bad habits, but at your LO's age I don't think what you're doing is an issue. In the first year their sleep patterns and habits can change every few weeks...if it becomes a problem just deal with it then.

    Good luck!

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  • ESTH2000ESTH2000 member
    imageMouseygail:
    imagegluca:
    Honestly he won't always need you there.  They go through such phases.  I often think about this because I still rock DS for his naps and bed with bottle.  I tried in the last week to put him down and let him cry it out but I hate it and he doesn't sleep well when I do that so I gave in.  He sleeps wonderfully 11-12 hours a night and naps 2 1/2 to 3 hours between 2 naps, so my advice "if it's not broke, don't fix it." He is too young to manipulate and I honestly feel that it makes for a more secure child to know they are secure and loved. 
      this is what I wanted to hear :) 
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