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Another NSAIF: How old is too old for....

long hair.

 

I have long hair.  Always have.

I LIKE my long hair.

I have the longest neck you've ever seen so I hate how short hair looks on me.  Add to that the wrinkles that just keep coming and I can't imagine not having my nice distracting long hair.

I turn 40 in less than 4 months.

Is it time to give it up and get the requisite "mom cut"?

How old is too old for long hair?

 

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Re: Another NSAIF: How old is too old for....

  • My great grandmother had long hair until she passed away at 96.  No need to go short if you don't want to!
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  • I don't think there's ever a too old for long hair.  The key is just to keep it well maintained and not full of split ends.
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  • I think it's ridiculous to think that because we hit a certain age, we have to alter our looks.  I turned 40 this year and I'm actually kind of growing my hair out.  It hasn't been long in forever, adn I know it won't get very long. But I get bored. I go short, then long, etc etc etc.

    Worry more about what looks good on you and what makes you feel good! 

    And to add- I HATE the term "mom cut".  Hate it. ;)

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  • I think you can pull off long hair. it suits you.

    That being said, if you didn't pull it off, I would say go shoulder length after age 35. But WTF do I know. I had long hair well  in my 20's, and will NEVER grow it back out again. I just hated dealing with it.

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    I don't think there's ever a too old for long hair.  The key is just to keep it well maintained and not full of split ends.
      this!! if it looks good on you (which it does!) rock it as long as you want!
  • If you want to wear long hair than wear long hair. I know a lady who is older than you are (I want to say mid to late 40's) and she has the longest hair, like past her butt long. She keeps it looking nice and I don't see a problem with it. A manager at my work, who will be 40 here soon, also has long hair. Now she wears it up a lot or in a long braid, it looks good on her as well. If you want to keep it long, than do it!!!!
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    I don't think there's ever a too old for long hair.  The key is just to keep it well maintained and not full of split ends.

    this.

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  • i don't tihnk there is TOO old...really whatever you like on you and you're comfortable with is what you should have...one of the moms when i was in high school had long hair ( to her butt) and it was beautiful silver/white color!  looked GREAT cause it fit her
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  • Wow.... to the butt?

    Just so you know I'm not talking pulled back in braids or to the butt kinda long hair.

    I'm talking to the bra in the back.

    And layered with side swept bangs.

    I'm just wondering if it looks like I'm trying too hard to look young/hip, KWIM?

     

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  • As long as your hair looks healthy then I think you can have long hair for as long as you want. 
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  • imagewed23:
    As long as your hair looks healthy then I think you can have long hair for as long as you want. 

    ditto.    I think that a few too many people, however, assume their hair looks healthy as they get older.   

    If it is healthy, and not styled to look super young or trendy, I say go for it!   Plenty of celebs are rocking the long hair well into their 40s.    And if celebs are doing it....     ;-)

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  • I think around 40 it's time to update the cut- now that doesnt mean short short, a nice shoulder length that has a style is fine. I don't think its so much the length that ages people, its the lack of style. Have you seen what not to wear, a lot of times a good haircut and some color and voila they look 20 years younger.

    As for the wrinkles- botox is a quick fix for that! I have been going since Ive been 25 (im now 30) No wrinkles here!

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    I think around 40 it's time to update the cut- now that doesnt mean short short, a nice shoulder length that has a style is fine. I don't think its so much the length that ages people, its the lack of style. Have you seen what not to wear, a lot of times a good haircut and some color and voila they look 20 years younger.

    As for the wrinkles- botox is a quick fix for that! I have been going since Ive been 25 (im now 30) No wrinkles here!

    Botox scares the crap outta me.  But... I think it's time since one of my BFF's offered to throw me a "botox party" for my 40th.  When I responded with a sad puppy face she explained it's because SHE wants to do it and a botox party would give her the opportunity to but still.... ouch!

     

    So... where do you have it?

    I'm concerned about what I'd look like without my forehead wrinkles.

    My eyes are my biggest problem area - they don't botox those do they?

    Was there a noticeable difference in facial expression for you?

     

    eek!  it's just so permanent.  I had my eyebrows, eye liner and lip liner tattooed years ago and promised I'd never do anything that permanent again.....

     

     

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    Wow.... to the butt?

    Just so you know I'm not talking pulled back in braids or to the butt kinda long hair.

    I'm talking to the bra in the back.

    And layered with side swept bangs.

    I'm just wondering if it looks like I'm trying too hard to look young/hip, KWIM?

     

    You hair is about the same length as mine is and I see nothing wrong with it. I alternate between long and short hair as the wind blows. I haven't had it cut since before I was pregnant which is why it is longer. I may get it cut come spring, not because I think I am too old but because it usually annoys me in the summer since it is so thick and hot.

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  • imagehowleyshell:
    imagePrincessShay80:

    I think around 40 it's time to update the cut- now that doesnt mean short short, a nice shoulder length that has a style is fine. I don't think its so much the length that ages people, its the lack of style. Have you seen what not to wear, a lot of times a good haircut and some color and voila they look 20 years younger.

    As for the wrinkles- botox is a quick fix for that! I have been going since Ive been 25 (im now 30) No wrinkles here!

    Botox scares the crap outta me.  But... I think it's time since one of my BFF's offered to throw me a "botox party" for my 40th.  When I responded with a sad puppy face she explained it's because SHE wants to do it and a botox party would give her the opportunity to but still.... ouch!

     

    So... where do you have it?

    I'm concerned about what I'd look like without my forehead wrinkles.

    My eyes are my biggest problem area - they don't botox those do they?

    Was there a noticeable difference in facial expression for you?

     

    eek!  it's just so permanent.  I had my eyebrows, eye liner and lip liner tattooed years ago and promised I'd never do anything that permanent again.....

     

     

    After I wrote this I was like "crap shes going to think I'm telling her she needs botox" that is not the case- I was just throwing it out there.

    The first time I got it was at a Botox party that a friend had- I had the wrinkles in between your eyes (they call them the 11's) so I got that done. I always get that done and I get it on the outer part of my eyes (where you would get crows feet) the doctor said this can help with the constant tired look. You dont have to get your entire forehead done, you can do it gradually.

    I would say that other then looking more alert and less tired I look the same- most people don't know know I get it done. I have no desire to not be able to show emotion on my face. Botox isnt premanent you have to get it done about every 4-6 months, everyone is different. You could always start with a little, if you dont like it you never have to do it again.

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    The first time I got it was at a Botox party that a friend had- I had the wrinkles in between your eyes (they call them the 11's) so I got that done. I always get that done and I get it on the outer part of my eyes (where you would get crows feet) the doctor said this can help with the constant tired look. You dont have to get your entire forehead done, you can do it gradually.

     

    Don't worry!  I didn't think you were implying that.  And frankly even if you were... I'm the one complaining about my wrinkles, right?

    So tell me more about the crows feet.  How can you botox there and still show expression like smiling with your eyes?

    Am I freaking out more than I should about my face being paralyzed where the injection site is?

     

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  • I don't think there is ever an age that is too old.  Do what makes you feel your best
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    imagePrincessShay80:
    The first time I got it was at a Botox party that a friend had- I had the wrinkles in between your eyes (they call them the 11's) so I got that done. I always get that done and I get it on the outer part of my eyes (where you would get crows feet) the doctor said this can help with the constant tired look. You dont have to get your entire forehead done, you can do it gradually.

     

    Don't worry!  I didn't think you were implying that.  And frankly even if you were... I'm the one complaining about my wrinkles, right?

    So tell me more about the crows feet.  How can you botox there and still show expression like smiling with your eyes?

    Am I freaking out more than I should about my face being paralyzed where the injection site is?

     

    I think it has to do with how much they use around the crows feet area. I'm sure that it's paralyzed in that area, but because the area around it is not that allows the facial expressions to come through. I think you get that creepy no expression look when someone has WAY too much botox done on their entire face.  Go get a consult and talk to the doctor- they will tell you what they would recommend for you and show you before and after shots of other people, that way you can see what you would feel comfortable with, express to them that you don't want to look like a statute- but you just want to get rid of some of your wrinkles in very specific places.

     

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  • I want botox tooooo!!  And I have fairly long hair.  That I pull back every day. 

    But I still want botox - I don't have wrinkles - but I look tired.  Even when I'm not.  Sad  Although actually come to think of it I'm NEVER not tired. 

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