I'm totally having one of those days that just a single look could make BM's head fall off. I'm so sick of dealing with the BS that she puts SD through. Yes, I realize that SD could be exaggerating some things and playing both sides of the fence, but there are also things that we actually witness BM doing that make us both cringe.
Right now DH wants to steamroll BM for some crap she is pulling for the upcoming holidays. What kills me is that as badly as I would love to see that happen, it will only make the situation worse. She isn't thinking about her daughter. She is being a selfish jerk who is trying to keep SD from having a solid relationship with her dad. DH is an amazing father and I can't imagine why her crazyass would want to interfere with that.
I found a website called comamas.com or something like that and part of me wants to buy the book and send it to BM. Really I would love for her to see that she is NOT putting SD first when she badmouths us and keeps her from us. She puts so much pressure on SD the poor kid is so worried about pleasing her mom that she doesn't even get to be a kid.
So here is a question: Do you think that kids come to realize this craziness when they grow up? Is there any consolation for DH?
Re: VENT: Will if ever effing end?
get a lawyer and go back to court.
Go back to court and get a CO. It protects everyone's interests and helps prevent situations like these not only with the scheduling but also with the badmouthing of one parent in front of another. It can all be added to a CO.
I'm a firm believer that kids do realise what's what about their parents someday. They also realise when one parent rolled over and never fought for them. You may need to scrimp and scrounge for the money but get a lawyer and get a CO.
Thanks for the replies and info. I'll definitely look up a parenting plan.
I honestly do hope that SD will realize how wonderful DH is. We have already looked into mediation and it looks like we are going to have to move forward with it. I just really don't understand why she can't see how selfish she is being and that she is really hurting SD.