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I Feel So Lost....
Hi, I'm new obviously. And I guess this is where people test out their signatures or tell their stories. I'm going to do the latter, not the former obviously. Well...here goes, hopefully there won't be too harsh judgment...I'm 19 years old, a sophomore in college, and this is baby number one. Our little guy is about 26 weeks 4 days now It's actually kind of amusing and upsetting the way that things have been going. After discovering I was pregnant, we (My guy and I) had/have some interesting questions and dilemmas.
Q:How did we get pregnant? I'm still a virgin!
A: Science is a funny funny thing...
Q:How will your parents take it?
A: Not well, ?obviously, at first
And finally..
Q: What are we going to do with this baby?
A: We kept him..
So now, the fun part starts. What do two, unemployed college freshmen do when they find they're pregnant? That's right, the girl gets whipped back home faster than ever and is plunked down into the community college and the guy gets the ever burning hatred and distrust from Mom and Dad until he can 'prove himself'. Doesn't help the boy lives 5 hours away.
So, there you have it. That's me, my story, and my current and constant headache.
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Re: I Feel So Lost....
This.
Not that this isn't MUD but that part isn't what makes me think it... I think timing wise you get pregnant freshman year, the baby is 26 weeks old now so more than a year has gone by, making her a sophomore now since she's in CC. That part of the story actually made sense at least.
Not that it isn't possible to get pregnant without penetration but... I mean, really... I doubt it.
I actually had a friend in HS who got pregnant and she was a virgin. Basically the skin over her vagina was almost completely covering her vagina, she has like half a milimeter whole in the middle that she had her period out of. Anyways, they never had sex until she was 6 months pregnant. She got pregnant because he got off a bit too close down there. Nearly impossible, but, she literally had a medical condition to explain how she was a virgin.
I want to private message you but I don't know how. email me. deispuzzled @ gmail.com
ya I just posted my email. haha
Okay, to sum things up :P
*I'm currently a sophomore. I found out finals week of freshmen year I was pregnant. Went to the school clinic for a simple Urinary tract infection, came out with a baby apparently.
*I mean virgin as in no penetration of any kind. Honestly, none.?
*And they keep messing with my due date so the 26 weeks is kind of up in the air now -_-
Please expound on "size issues".
And this further confirms that the universe truly is unfair. As if there was any doubt.
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
I'm gonna guess his teeny tiny weenie is too small to crack through her super thick hymen?
Especially in the belly button. If you get it in the belly button that's like Instant pregnancy.
It was, as they say, one really dumb mistake. I have an issue where I cannot insert even a tampon in due to the extreme amount of physical pain. We had one moment of sexually-related contact, but not sex. Foolishly, I assumed because he never went anywhere 'within' and I am still 100% intact that there was no way of getting pregnant, especially after one episode.
Fate decided otherwise :P
Guess that means scheduled c-section, eh?
We've discussed that actually. I've been talking with my mom, and as ideal as natural birth is, I'm not sure if I can really physically endure that. I'm not a wimp, but we're also aware of the realities of what I can and cannot handle.
Call me tardy to the party....I think you should go for natural childbirth. Who knows. Maybe it will stretch you out enough to lose your virginity after the baby is born.
natural mc @ 10w4d 3/7/10
DS2 born 9/13/12
Have you talked to a dr.? I'm sure your mom is fabulous but unless she has a medical degree with a pvssy specification she might not be the most knowledgeable.
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
The best advice I have ever learned on The Bump. It would solve all your problems, OP.
MC 9/8/10
Baby Boy Born 7/31/11
You know that your OB can surgically break your hymen, right?
And I would hope that your pre-natal care would involve something more than an ultrasound and a urine test.
Are you going to raise the child yourself or are you putting the child up for adoption?
So you're a sophomore in at the local CC and your parents are still telling you what to do? Not necessarily in relation to what you can and can't handle for natural birth and their suggestions--- but taking you back home after finding out you're pregnant?
Um, you do know that the legal age of adulthood is 18, correct? It sounds like from your initial post that you've made your story out to be dramatic and we're supposed to feel sympathy. How about just transferring to a different CC to where your boyfriend lives, or vice versa, and working it out that way? I'm sure money would be tight, and it would be difficult, but it's not totally unheard of.
If you're 19 years old, where did your parents get the legal authority to "whip you back home faster than ever and plunk you down into the community college?"
You're about to become a parent, so it's time to grow up and start thinking for yourself.
Are you a full time student at the CC? You need to worry about healthcare, as in, are you still covered under your parents plan? I believe you need to be a full time student for that, but you may want to make sure. I'm guessing your parents are supporting you and paying for your schooling, but that's a dangerous precedent to set in terms of controlling your future.
You guys really need to grow up and get a hold of yourselves. You should all be ashamed of your sarcastic and berating posts to this 19 year who posts "I feel so lost.." If you need to get off on someone's miserable situation, find yourself another board to post on. She is needing support, not idiots treating her like most people in her life probably already are.
As far as her being an adult and her parents 'whipping her back home,' they may have been paying for her college or another good reason that she agreed to go home is becuase SHE'S 19 AND PREGNANT and didn't have anyone to turn to.
Shannonah1, I hope that things get better for you. Make sure that you talk to your doctor one on one (without mom) if that makes you feel more comfortable. Also, there are usually tons of resources available for young moms- you just need to reach out in your community to find them.
Good luck to you!!
I can leave home whenever I want,but I know there would be no way for my fiance and myself to take care of baby AND college debt AND housing issues right now. It's a matter of continuing going to school while the fiance gets enlisted in the army, and we get things started. I come from a very big supportive family, and them having me at home is their way of helping me through this. I just wish I could afford to be more independent at the moment -__-
I've read about that, yes. Ever since we found out I've been going to a women's care clinic for all my prenatal needs. I've discussed my issue with my physician and his reply was "Try asking someone after you have the baby..." Which...really confused me. I don't think he understands what I'm saying. I'll be due for another appointment soon, so hopefully he better understands next time.
We're keeping out little boy for sure
The only trouble is picking out names :P
I guess most posters are assuming I'm some uneducated, lower income kid who got herself knocked up. This,ladies, is certainly not the case. I'm not living off of Mommy and Daddy, I'm working hard for scholarships and a good education so I can take care of my child much better than if I had dropped out of school. I'm a very driven, well educated kid who made a mistake, but now I'm just looking for a little advice from someone who maybe went through something similar.
I want ADVICE not CRITICISM. One is helpful, one is not. Please learn the difference.
*Ends mild rant* :P