I don't get it

GenaBoBenaWife · October 2010

Maybe it's b/c we're Team Green, but I don't get why everyone is so eager to find out the sex super early? I mean, I'm very excited to see LO again on the u/s but why is it so important to try and find out before 20 weeks?

Scout05 · October 2010

I'm not Team Green, and I agree with you.

I know shopping is fun and all, but those that want to know will know soon enough.

heathert323 · October 2010

I'm not team green either, but I wouldn't want to know so early. I'm all for waiting until 20 weeks to be sure for sure, but on Friday, my doctor is giving me an u/s. Doesn't mean I am going on a huge shopping spree until after the big u/s, though.

inque223 · October 2010

I agree. People need to get just a small amout of patience...a few more weeks isn't so bad.

And for everyone who had a correct 14 week u/s guess... there are just as many that were wrong. There are several on 2nd tri right now going thru that.

I can wait 3 more weeks. It took my many years to get even this far...3 weeks is a piece of cake!

aplus816 · October 2010

ITA with you, but also thought that it was because I'm Team Green as well. I'm still excited to see LO at my big u/s as well!

Mine is on the early side (17w, 6d), but it's just what worked for me and my OB. If I were actually finding out the gender, I think I'd want it a little later just so they'd be more sure!

MamabirdtoBe · October 2010

My Mom will not get off my case about this. I haven't even scheduled the ultrasound yet, and every other day she's hounding me about it.

virginiagirl11 · October 2010

The #1 question I keep getting from everyone is - are you finding out the sex and, omg, if so, when??

My boss literally asks me at least once a week when we're going to know.

I'm excited to know but obv. I can wait as long as I have to for the u/s.

LadyXaverian · October 2010

Not sure. Once you find out, you'll know forever. It's just a few extra weeks. I mean, I get being excited to find out, but I don't understand the impatience.

lilylow · October 2010

I'm finding out on Nov. 12th and laughed at the lady who said I could get a "fun" ultrasound to see the gender earlier if I wanted to.

ckolak:-) · October 2010

I don't get it either. I wouldn't trust it so early, so I might as well wait til 20 weeks, you know? And we're not team green.

jayme88 · October 2010

virginiagirl11:
The #1 question I keep getting from everyone is - are you finding out the sex and, omg, if so, when??
My boss literally asks me at least once a week when we're going to know.
I'm excited to know but obv. I can wait as long as I have to for the u/s.

I get that all the time.. And my response is "I'm only X weeks, but we aren't finding out anyway." Some people think it is cool we aren't finding our, others can't believe we are not finding out. Like it is the craziest thing to not find out. Lol.. I haven't scheduled the u/s yet, but will do so on Mon, my next Dr appt. I just saw my LO last week for the NT scan, so I'm good for a while.. I also got a doppler from a friend and listen to the HB every few days..

ailidespain · October 2010

I have had my 20w u/s scheduled for like a month now and it is two weeks away. The Dr. did offer me an earlier one for extra money but H and I decided to just wait it out. It's giving us something to look forward to.

RunningGal900 · October 2010

My Dr's office won't even let you schedule until at least 19 weeks because they want to be sure that they get all the shots they need. I'll be just shy of 20 weeks when we have mine done. We have names picked out, so I'm looking forward to being able to call the baby by it's name instead of it, but I probably won't even buy anything until after the shower in February and I see what I need.

I am visiting family that I see once a year at best right after we find out and they are the ones that are most excited to go shopping. Hope LO cooperates!

hhhmmm · October 2010

My dr.s office doesn't even allow you to have it until 20 weeks, and DH and I are more than happy to wait to be sure on the gender. However, It's exciting for people to find out, aspecialy if this is their first, so I wont say people are necessarily impatient, but perhaps just really excited. Big Smile

DucatiLeah · October 2010

I agree! But I can also relate because it is frustrating to have everyone ask several times a day if we know yet, when we'll know, etc. And I'm having a hard time picking out the nursery without knowing if Sprout is a boy or girl. My office lets me schedule after 16 weeks, but I went with 19 to "be safe."

ManiacMcGee · October 2010

eh, I get it. They're excited. I bet it is more palpable to first time moms too.

But being impatient about the u/s is one thing, a girl on May just posted that she had a genetic screen that told her the sex of the baby through a blood test at 12 weeks.

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/44402462.aspx

ETA: placenta brain made me say "their excited". I blame it on the p-brain.

Mrs S 08 · October 2010

I got to "find out" early, but I wouldn't have been upset if I had to wait until 20 weeks, and if it changes it wont be a big deal.

For me finding out early was a comfort thing, my husband is deployed, and he was able to call me right after my appt to see if we found out anything. I got to tell him they think it is a girl, I feel better knowing that God forbid something happened to him, he knew he was going to have a daughter. He knows it could change, but heck even the 20 wk ultrasound can say one thing and you get another. I bought a couple little things, and wont be purchasing anything big until closer to the birth just because we are moving and don't have room to store things here.

Scout05 · October 2010

ManiacMcGee:

eh, I get it. Their excited. I bet it is more palpable to first time moms too.

But being impatient about the u/s is one thing, a girl on May just posted that she had a genetic screen that told her the sex of the baby through a blood test at 12 weeks.

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/44402462.aspx

I don't really understand her answers here. It sounds like it was the routine NT scan, and they don't run blood work to determine gender with that test.

She's either confused about what testing was done, or something else isn't adding up with that.

elottino · October 2010

I'm one of the impatient ones. I have the anatomy scan at 18w4d, but that's when the office scheduled it for me, I didn't force having it sooner.

I want to know so that I can start calling the baby by its name, and not "it." I also don't want to get caught up in "feeling" the baby is one sex or the other, I think I will feel guilty if I'm wrong. I guess it's similar to being impatient for my belly to get bigger. I've wanted this for so long, and now I want it to go faster! I want to hold my baby- NOW!

ManiacMcGee · October 2010

ambrandau2:
ManiacMcGee:

eh, I get it. Their excited. I bet it is more palpable to first time moms too.

But being impatient about the u/s is one thing, a girl on May just posted that she had a genetic screen that told her the sex of the baby through a blood test at 12 weeks.

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/44402462.aspx

I don't really understand her answers here. It sounds like it was the routine NT scan, and they don't run blood work to determine gender with that test.

She's either confused about what testing was done, or something else isn't adding up with that.

I know right? I was going to post a side eye, but then I googled it. Apparently there is such a test. I don't know of any doctor that would do it routinely, but since it exists I didn't want to open my big fat mouth just to stick a foot in it later.

Scout05 · October 2010

ManiacMcGee:
ambrandau2:
ManiacMcGee:

eh, I get it. Their excited. I bet it is more palpable to first time moms too.

But being impatient about the u/s is one thing, a girl on May just posted that she had a genetic screen that told her the sex of the baby through a blood test at 12 weeks.

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/44402462.aspx

I don't really understand her answers here. It sounds like it was the routine NT scan, and they don't run blood work to determine gender with that test.

She's either confused about what testing was done, or something else isn't adding up with that.

I know right? I was going to post a side eye, but then I googled it. Apparently there is such a test. I don't know of any doctor that would do it routinely, but since it exists I didn't want to open my big fat mouth just to stick a foot in it later.

Interesting.

Not sure why that needs to be done, it's not like the sex is paramount to the health of the pregnancy, which to my mind should be the focus at that stage of things. But whatever. I guess it doesn't hurt anything either. And maybe there's more to the story that I don't know or something.

(Small side eye, I admit it)

beccamcafee · October 2010

When people ask me about what we "want" I say "a healthy baby". I was anxious a week or 2 ago about learning the sex but have gotten over it. The only reason I want to learn the sex before the baby is born is to know what to have on hand.(This is our first) I am a picky shopper and I have a feeling that after the baby is born I won't feel like shopping for baby clothes. I am not comfortable sending someone out to get us things for the baby to wear either. I have looked for gender neutral bedding online and haven't really found anything I liked. and I really don't care for the colors green or yellow. I also think that my "advanced maternal age" has taught me patience. We have waited 8 years for this day and a few more weeks/ months isn't really going to make a difference. We will love our baby no matter what the outcome...

nadine21404 · October 2010

My Dr's office schedules their patients for 18 weeks. Mine happened to fall on 17 wks 4 days due to scheduling conflicts and I am SUPER nervous about it being that early!

biblionerd · October 2010

Eh, I'm excited I guess. I am not having a 3D early and I told her not to make a guess at the NT. The standard was 20 week scheduling and I was a bit selfishly bummed that I could do the cheesy "surprise it's a boy/girl" at thanksgiving with all my family. When I transferred to the new dr., because of my appt timing, holidays, etc. they had to schedule me two days before thanksgiving. I'll be 17 weeks 3 days so I'm not going in ridiculously early. She said they schedule 17-20 and that I'd most likely be able to get all my measurements and see the sex. So yeah... I was happy I can tell my family at thanksgiving. No good reason other than I thought it would be fun.

cassiejo84 · October 2010

I totally understand being excited and the impatience! It's only natural for mommies to wonder about the gender of their unborn babies.

That said, I'm not rushing, because I want them to be correct when they tell me. Smile

APrice4UT · October 2010

I don't know either, but it's crazy. What is the point of finding out so early if it isn't reliable? I thought I was cheating and going in a little early (so I can know at Thanksgiving), but I'll still be 19w2d.

And FYI, there will probably be a lot of people also encouraging the baby to come early too. I will side eye every one of those mamas...

Slow down, enjoy the ride.

Temp67694062501186 · October 2010

SarahL77:
Not sure. Once you find out, you'll know forever. It's just a few extra weeks. I mean, I get being excited to find out, but I don't understand the impatience.

Agreed. Which is also why I never understand the need to know even at the 20 week appt. I honestly don't understand the "planning" that people use as an excuse. Or why people also feel like the pregnancy isn't real until they know the sex (yeah I've heard and read this), or that the mother feels she can't bond with the baby until she knows it's a he or she. None of it really computes for me. Not knowing the sex is no big deal to me.

Scout05 · October 2010

nola*Steph:

SarahL77:
Not sure. Once you find out, you'll know forever. It's just a few extra weeks. I mean, I get being excited to find out, but I don't understand the impatience.

Agreed. Which is also why I never understand the need to know even at the 20 week appt. I honestly don't understand the "planning" that people use as an excuse. Or why people also feel like the pregnancy isn't real until they know the sex (yeah I've heard and read this), or that the mother feels she can't bond with the baby until she knows it's a he or she. None of it really computes for me. Not knowing the sex is no big deal to me.

Well...I know in my case, with everything we've been through, I am having a hard time with this to some extent. The last year and a half has been so focused on Pregnancy w/ a capital P - getting pregnant, staying pregnant, taking shots/suppliments/etc to help the pregnancy, is the pregnancy healthy, the pregnancy ending - that it's hard to get to the idea of Baby in all that.

My therapist suggested finding out the sex as a way to bond, to make the Baby more real, and maybe take the focus off the Pregnancy (if that makes sense) a little bit.

I think she's right, and I do think it will help to have a name and a little person to be thinking about. Rather than just the logistics of my day, in trying to maintain this pregnancy.

But I don't understand needing to know before 20 weeks, like I said, or why people can't just be patient for a few weeks more to know for sure.

JenWen3 · October 2010

We're Team Green, and I honestly have no preference for the gender, so maybe I just don't understand the impatience either. The baby will still be a boy or a girl in another week or two (or 20).

biblionerd · October 2010

JenWen3:
We're Team Green, and I honestly have no preference for the gender, so maybe I just don't understand the impatience either. The baby will still be a boy or a girl in another week or two (or 20).

Just because you want to find out the gender doesn't mean you have a preference.

SwissMs99 · October 2010

I'm just tired of the questions of "what are you having? do you know yet? do you know yet? huh? huh? huh?" I mean - it was like when we first got married..."when are you having kids? are you pregnant yet? are you pregnant yet? huh? huh? huh?"

People need to chillax! I waited almost 4 years to get pg so maybe I'll wait another 4 to tell you the gender of our baby! lol

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