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Am I being unreasonable?

busybeegirl1976busybeegirl1976
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DD#2 just turned 7 in June. My ex (her Disney dad) just bought her an iPad. His reasoning is that it's for educational purposes. Having an iPhone myself, I realize there are educational apps out there. Fine. Whatever. It's not like they have a home computer where she could easily access her fav educational websites. I know what he does with his money is his own business but this is really rubbing me the wrong way. Am I off-base here? TIA
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Re: Am I being unreasonable?

  • Dreamsicle23Dreamsicle23 member
    Why is it bothering you?  Is it only because it's expensive or are you worried about what she's accessing?
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  • DandRDandR

    yes, I think you are bothered by it because you are jealous? or something?  I mean, its his money, his gift, who cares.

    She isn't going to love you less because you didn't buy her something. 

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  • littlemermaidlittlemermaid member
    I don't see an issue with it.  My 7 year old has her own computer.  She's supervised when on it.    Really if you are worried that she's going to love him more because he buys her expensive gifts then you really don't have to worry because when it really comes down to love, kids rather have a parent that spends time with them over material things.  Remember the saying "money can't buy you love"
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  • ValAndRyanValAndRyan
    I would be bothered by this. I think big purchases of electronics like this should be discussed. DS is 11 and I still think he is too young to have any gadgets like this.
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  • circe811circe811 member
    Take your ex out of the picture. Let's say your mother purchased this gift for her. Does it still rub you the wrong way or is it a generous gift? 
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  • ali-1411ali-1411 member

    It would bother me.  I don't think a 7 year old needs an iPad or needs unlimited access to the internet.

     

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  • busybeegirl1976busybeegirl1976

    Thanks for the replies.

    I think the reason it bothers me is that he's trying to win her love by getting her expensive things. He did it with me and my oldest daughter and that's one of the many reasons why I left him; he thought giving gifts was how you showed someone affection. Sure, it was nice for a while but it doesn't replace true unconditional love.

    I'm just afraid that she's going to learn that material things are the path to happiness and that's very contradictory to what DH and I are teaching her.

     

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