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I am furious!

SpartanChick88SpartanChick88 member
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I talked to my boss today to see if she had found anyone to fill in for me tomorrow morning.  All she would say is "I'm fine"  I called her and told her that's not what I was asking.  I'm going to go crazy just sitting at home waiting for something to happen and figured I would go to work.

She told me that the boss boss yelled at her on Friday that I shouldn't be there and that he had gotten complaints from parents that I was "too far along to be at work".  Um... who died and made them my doctor?  My doctor hasn't said anything about me not working and I've been just fine with the kids and picking up after them.  Right down to sitting on the mat with the little ones and still getting up on my own power thank you very much.  One parent did complain that my boss went to the bathroom and I didn't get off the stool to go outside with the kids out there - but if I did that it meant I could see them from where I was.

I can't imagine that it's legal for the boss to say that I'm not allowed to go to work because I'm too far along... I just have to decide a) whether  it's worth it to me to do anything and b) what I would do that wouldn't affect my direct boss who is also a good friend.  I'm just soooo pisssed!!!




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  • AshleyBrianAshleyBrian member
    Um I would be pissed too.  I doubt it is legal for them to tell you that you are too far along to work.  I'm still teaching dance, gymnastics and cheerleading...
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  • mrschahbarmrschahbar

    I'm assuming you're a teacher or ECE?

    I can understand you being upset, but I'm sorry if I'm being completely honest I can understand a little why some parents would have some concerns with you still working this far along. These moms would know how exhausting it is at the end of pregnancy and also that while you may be able to get up on your own and everything you may not be able to react as quickly as earlier in your pregnancy. I would just want the person looking after my child to 100% on their game.

     

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  • NSLNSL member

    If my child was outside without a teacher (regardless of whether or not someone could see the playground from where they were sitting indoors) I would absolutely be complaining.  What if a kid fell?  How quickly could you have gotten out there?  What if two kids started to fight?  Could you get to them quickly enough to prevent one or both from being hurt?

    I'm a teacher myself, but I teach high schoolers, and as such don't need to be as physically agile as someone who works with young kids.  Unfortunately, I can see your boss's POV on this one, though I couldn't tell you if she's legally allowed to keep you out of the workplace for this reason.

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  • SpartanChick88SpartanChick88 member

    I work in a childwatch at a gym.  The only reason that I would leave kids outside unattended is if they were the older ones who I knew I could trust.  Normally there are three people in there and, it's possible at the time, that there was another person outside but farther down where the parent in question couldn't see them.  It's also possible that I go up after that particular parent left and I had signed them in. 

    The problem here is, this jackwad won't give any details on who complained and when so I can't tell you what the circumstances were. 

    And, under the Pregnancy Discrimination Act of 1978 I can't be forced to take leave from work as long as I am still capable of doing my job.




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    There are always at least two people there, usually 3 - which would mean that if I have to leave there would be 2 people left behind. 



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  • TripMommaTripMomma member
    I am sorry....but I can kind of see their point. I am only 30 weeks and can not keep up with my kids like I used to. I don't think as a parent I would be comfortable with my childs safety depending on someone who is nearly 40 weeks pregnant. I think reaction time would be much much slower, and energy and patience would be running thin....I know it already is for me.
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  • SpartanChick88SpartanChick88 member

    imageTripMomma:
    I am sorry....but I can kind of see their point. I am only 30 weeks and can not keep up with my kids like I used to. I don't think as a parent I would be comfortable with my childs safety depending on someone who is nearly 40 weeks pregnant. I think reaction time would be much much slower, and energy and patience would be running thin....I know it already is for me.

    I can totally understand that... but it doesn't change the fact that it's illegal.




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  • trinadesrosierstrinadesrosiers
    imageKredd88:

    I work in a childwatch at a gym.  The only reason that I would leave kids outside unattended is if they were the older ones who I knew I could trust.  Normally there are three people in there and, it's possible at the time, that there was another person outside but farther down where the parent in question couldn't see them.  It's also possible that I go up after that particular parent left and I had signed them in. 

    The problem here is, this jackwad won't give any details on who complained and when so I can't tell you what the circumstances were. 

    And, under the Pregnancy Discrimination Act of 1978 I can't be forced to take leave from work as long as I am still capable of doing my job.

    It sounds like the issue here is that they believe you are no longer fully capable of doing your job ( at least to the standards they expect).   As some PP's said I can see the reasoning alot of parents may feel you can't do some things or react in time, like you could when you were not as far along. 

     It does suck for your situation and they should probably instead give you assistance/ different responsibilities in fairness and allow you to do the duties that you are still fully capable of.

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  • conley81conley81
    I would be mad too. I worked in an early childhood setting until the day I went in to labor with my fourth child. I could still keep up with the children and I never had a complaint except when I had to take off for dr. appointments and after my DD was born. I would have felt as upset as you if someone told me I couldn't work other than my dr.
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  • lovemytannermanlovemytannerman

    I'm sorry you are dealing with that, it would be very stressful!

    I was a pre-school teacher until I had my son. I was in the 4-5 year old classroom and my boss moved me to the baby room for the last month of my pregnancy. Staying with the older kids was just too hard. I could barely tie my shoes let alone theirs! The baby room was much easier compared to the bigger kids. In both classes there were always 3 of us,so there wasn't a concern about my water breaking or anything like that, you always have someone with you. The baby room was easier on me I was able to do more sitting (rocking babies, sitting to feed them, etc) I started my maternity leave at 38 weeks.

    You have a point, I don't think your boss can legally tell you to stay home, but she is allowed to put you on light work or change you to a different room.

    Sorry your dealing with that and that someone complained on you.

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  • toriitorii member

    I would be mad, too! I know that I have just as much and in some cases, even MORE energy than other teachers have and I worked into my 40th week. If I were to get a complaint, I would be really upset because I know we as teachers are doing our best.

    I'm sorry you're having to deal with this crap at the end. Hopefully, your LO comes soon so you can just leave it all behind you for a while!

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