Hi, its been a while!

FutureMsReeder · October 2010

Ive had a lot go on within the last year so I have been MIA lately. I actually divorced this year. I actually still want to become pregnant and that brings me to an opinion I would love to get from you ladies. Im still going to pursue ivf with a donor. All of my friends are supportive except for one. She feels its wrong to have a child on purpose that will not have a father in his or her life. What do you think? I know that I will be a good mother on my own.

meg_koole · October 2010

I say, it is your life and if you feel like you can do it on your own, more power to you!!!!!!! As long as you have the family support in place in case you do need some help, I say go for it!

I personally am not a strong enough person to pull it off, and there is no way I could do it with my job.

Good luck to you whatever you decide to do!

whitewave26 · October 2010

Why not! If you have the support and the means to be a single parent, I say go for it. Good luck!

FutureMsReeder · October 2010

I appreciate your encouragement! I have a wonderful mother and a network of friends that could not be any better! I also have a lot of great males in my life that my child could learn from. Of course I wish my child could have a father, but I don't want my ability to become a mother to be dependant on finding Mr. Right at this time.

Missuskeekers · October 2010

If you are comfortable with it, then that is all that matters. If the doubts that your friend has are hitting home, then you might want to think some more. I think though, that when you are ready, you are ready!

Ladybug71109 · October 2010

Personally, I see absolutely nothing wrong with it. I was raised by a single mom from the time I was a year old...so I remember nothing else. I think I turned out ok

Honestly, I think I'm much more independent for it, too. As long as you have some sort of support system, I'm sure you'll do a wonderful job! Good luck!

Temp616379875002458 · October 2010

Welcome back...(sorry you have to come here..)

I say more power to you. I told my parents before I met DH to know that if I wasn't with someone by age 35, I would pursue adoption by myself.

I see nothing wrong with wanting to become a mother - no matter who you share it with! I have a friend who has a beautiful 3 yr old boy who she conceived using donor sperm and IVF. She is a wonderful mom, has a great support system, and I've never heard her say anything to indicate that she doesn't love being his mother.

A while back, there was a study published about the parenting styles of parents who had struggled with IF. I wish I could find it or knew where I read it. Basically, it said that those who found SAIF were more likely to be less neurotic and happier, with better adjusted children.....

So, basically, you would already be a few steps ahead of all of the other mommies.

You can do it!

njohnson1972 · October 2010

I was actually on that same path not too long ago. I went through a divorce and was climbing in age and single. I had great support from friends and family. I felt that I needed a better paying job before going down that path, so I ended up in Houston for a great work opportunity. While here, I actually reconnected with my first love from college. He knew about my family plan, but wanted me to give us a chance - so we dated and were married last year.

Funny thing, when I was planning this on my own, I really thought I would just need donor sperm. As it turns out, I am probably going to need donor eggs now!

Good luck!

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