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tips for introducing 5yo nephew to our baby

fallen_in_lovefallen_in_love
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We have a 5-year-old nephew who lives nearby and I'm wondering how to introduce him to the baby when she arrives.

Here's my concern: his mom has a VERY relaxed parenting style, so I'm not sure how (or if) she'll talk with him about how to treat a new baby.

So far, I've thought of asking him to sit next to me while he holds her (basically she's laying in his lap), asking him to use both hands, and to emphasize being gentle.

Other suggestions? I don't want to overstep MY bounds since he's our nephew, but wanted a few ideas in case nobody else prepares him. 

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Re: tips for introducing 5yo nephew to our baby

  • DandRDandR

    this post is just funny to me.

    he's 5, not 2.

    I'm sure a simple "make sure you hold his head and be gentle!" will be enough....and correct anything as you see it happen.

    I mean, what do you think a 5 year old is going to do?  Throw the baby in the air? squeeze the baby???  I don't know...unless the kid is a completely out of control dog kicker, I think you are overthinking this.

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  • littlemermaidlittlemermaid member
    When your nephew is in the home I'm sure you will be holding the baby or nearby to make sure he doesn't touch the baby without being supervised.  If you would like him to hold the baby just have him sit next to you and you can transfer the baby into his arms and then take the baby back after a few minutes.  His mother's parenting style has no merit in your home.  Your home, your rules.  If she allows him to carry around his siblings without supervision in her home it doesn't mean he can do that in your home.  You can correct him if he is doing something that could harm the baby.  I know all of this is new but remember to relax and enjoy.
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  • fallen_in_lovefallen_in_love

    Yeah, I am over-thinking this. His behavior can be unpredictable and he's rarely told no, but you're right...he'll never be alone with the baby. It will be okay.

     

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  • shouldbworkinshouldbworkin
    Your baby, your rules.  If he wants to hold the baby, he needs to do it in a way that you're are comfortable with.  Ask him to wash his hands first and come sit next to you on the couch.  Chances are the baby won't be put down when he's around, that's just how it is when family comes to visit a baby.  Everyone will want to hold her.  I'd just keep an eye on her, if he gets too rough or isn't watching what he's doing, I'd give a gentle reminder.  If he still can't be gentle, then just pick her up.
    DS1 age 7, DD age 5 and DS2 born 4/3/12
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