What is your parent's story? Do you feel like it has shaped your own expectations or on the flip side, made you cautious? What have you learned from them?
The year my parents got married: they met in February, engaged in April, married in August. They've been together for 34 years, happily.
The biggest thing I've learned from them is that it's o.k. to disagree and argue. And while we know they had their disagreements, they never once fought in front of us.
And they are definitely in love...and showed it. They have dates and hold hand, express a little PDA. It's cute. ![]()
Re: Let's dig even deeper....
Mine is long and dramatic, of course.
They got married before I was born.
They got divorced when I was ten.
They got remarried when I was thirteen.
They got divorced when I was twenty.
They now live together.
They taught me infinite patience in the face of insanity.
Never knew my dad.
Mum was 19 and dad was 32 when they met. Mum had my sis at 21, and me at 24. My mum and dad married after I was born. He CAME BACK for my first bday. So they must have been married for mere months. My mum doesn't talk about it. She remarried when I was 14.
Yes, it has shaped me. I met my H 11 years ago. We were engaged after 6 years and married after 7. I learned to take my time. Make sure he was THE ONE. I've also told H that if he ever tries to divorce me or cheat on me, he better kiss his life good-bye. lol
my parents taught me to discipline your children or they will amount to nothing and be living off you when their 30plus. So annoying!
My bro is crazzy
My parents were both married before and each had 2 kids. My Mom married her HS sweet heart who was a marine and ran around on her constantly. When she found out she left him right away - they had twins. My Dad also married his HS sweet heart and she died from colon cancer.
My parents met in church and were married within 3 months - my Dad adopted my sisters. They had me and my younger brother and have been married 35 years.
They have not had a smooth relationship and have split up several times (never divorced, but close).
I've learned to always do the opposite of what they do. DH and I actually don't have any role models to look up to. Both of our parents were awful examples of healthy relationships.
Wowzers. How do you even deal with that!?
I can totally beat this
My mom and Bio Father were married a year before I was born.
They got divorced when my baby bro was still in the belly (moms...lol) I haven't heard from him in about 7 years now.
My mom met my step-dad(who I consider my father) when I was 5, they got married when I was 8. They god divorced when I was 12. We moved back in with him when I was 14. They got married AGAIN when I was 17 and divorced when I was 20...Again.
They taught me...to be careful who I trust and that people who loved eachother enough to be married twice can hurt one another really bad with out even thinking about how it could affect someone else. This is why I try to communicate, understand and be compassionate in my own relationship with DH.
um, yikes! What time is your show on? Does it conflict with Young & the Restless? Yeesh!
Wow girl yours is confusing... obviously they can't get away from each other. Why didn't they just do a separation for awhile instead of getting a divorce? or did they?
I know. Its hard for me to follow too. I still get calls once a week or so about how crazy the other is...because of course after all of that they still talk like twice a week.
My parents never married and my "Dad" (sperm donor is more appropriate) was never there for me. I saw him intermittently over my life, and he never paid any child support. Something my Mother reminded me of every time she had money issues.
3 years ago he started calling me daily trying to "rebuild" a relationship with me and shocker my Mom. 2 years ago my parents after 37 years apart moved back in together. Guess who hasn't called me since? Sperm donor. Worst of all my Mother turned into a mouth piece for him and has really changed for the worst. The Grandmother she was to my older girls does not exist anymore and in fact she never contacts the oldest one at all except to leave superficial facebook comments , she never contacts the younger ones and has alienated even my brother and that is insane if you knew their story. Recently my Mom sent me a vile horrible email that just pushed the whole situation over the edge for me and I cut her completely out of my life. I feel like she died and I am an orphan.
I don't feel like I learned anything. I already knew you don't let men like my sperm donor back, I already learned not to let a man control me and I already learned to love my children unconditionally. I also already learned a parent is a parent for life. Not for when it is convenient.
(Oh hai! I am in your morning posting depressing posts!)
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