I feel like my kid hates me:/

Christakim · October 2010

I started working this week (just seasonal) so Ella has to go to daycare.

All she talks about now is daycare. Then, she cries when she has to come home. She even said "I don't love mumma" on the way home yesterday.

Don't get me wrong, I'm so so so happy she likes it at daycare and I KNOW I can't do lots of fun things with her by the time I get home cause I'm so pooped, but I want her to at least like coming home.

Ugh, this is more of a vent than anything, but does anyone else's kid like daycare THIS much?

sommerrayne · October 2010

I'm sooooooooooooooooo sorry you're going through this....mainly because I am too but without the daycare - she just "hates" me, is mean to me, speaks rudely to me, disobeys me all day long.....everyday!

I've done a lot of reading about "differentiation" from the same sex parent (daughter to mother, son to father) along with some reading on their age and stage (my daughter is just slightly older than yours.

Furthermore, everyone I talk to (professionals and moms alike) say that when there's a big shift in life (like daycare, new baby, or in our case, changing into a big girl bed) the other aspects of differentiation are bound to pop up as well. Almost like, "You expect me to change and pull this new role? Okay, what ELSE can I do differently".

Its sooooooooooooooooooooooo hard. I lost it today, yelled, etc and then sat on the floor bawling....in front of her.

All I can say is, add some new tools to your "toolbox" and know that you're an excellent mama doing the very best you can and this is a phase that will pass. And I do not say that lightly as I have to CHANT it to myself daily.

HUGS MAMA!

Christakim · October 2010

sommerrayne:
I'm sooooooooooooooooo sorry you're going through this....mainly because I am too but without the daycare - she just "hates" me, is mean to me, speaks rudely to me, disobeys me all day long.....everyday!

I've done a lot of reading about "differentiation" from the same sex parent (daughter to mother, son to father) along with some reading on their age and stage (my daughter is just slightly older than yours.

Furthermore, everyone I talk to (professionals and moms alike) say that when there's a big shift in life (like daycare, new baby, or in our case, changing into a big girl bed) the other aspects of differentiation are bound to pop up as well. Almost like, "You expect me to change and pull this new role? Okay, what ELSE can I do differently".

Its sooooooooooooooooooooooo hard. I lost it today, yelled, etc and then sat on the floor bawling....in front of her.

All I can say is, add some new tools to your "toolbox" and know that you're an excellent mama doing the very best you can and this is a phase that will pass. And I do not say that lightly as I have to CHANT it to myself daily.

HUGS MAMA!

Ugh, you have this emotional mommy in tears right now. Thank you. It's good to know someone can empathize, even though it SUCKS that you are going through it too. This too shall pass I guess.....thank you again!

sommerrayne · October 2010

Christakim:

sommerrayne:
I'm sooooooooooooooooo sorry you're going through this....mainly because I am too but without the daycare - she just "hates" me, is mean to me, speaks rudely to me, disobeys me all day long.....everyday!

I've done a lot of reading about "differentiation" from the same sex parent (daughter to mother, son to father) along with some reading on their age and stage (my daughter is just slightly older than yours.

Furthermore, everyone I talk to (professionals and moms alike) say that when there's a big shift in life (like daycare, new baby, or in our case, changing into a big girl bed) the other aspects of differentiation are bound to pop up as well. Almost like, "You expect me to change and pull this new role? Okay, what ELSE can I do differently".

Its sooooooooooooooooooooooo hard. I lost it today, yelled, etc and then sat on the floor bawling....in front of her.

All I can say is, add some new tools to your "toolbox" and know that you're an excellent mama doing the very best you can and this is a phase that will pass. And I do not say that lightly as I have to CHANT it to myself daily.

HUGS MAMA!

Ugh, you have this emotional mommy in tears right now. Thank you. It's good to know someone can empathize, even though it SUCKS that you are going through it too. This too shall pass I guess.....thank you again!

Isn't it nice to know we're not alone?! I mean I don't want anyone to feel the way I do but at least I know I'm not off on some planet alone going insane and no one can relate!

BTW, I'm getting a massage tomorrow....yes, I'm PAYING someone to like me for an hour

I wish I could invite you along! I hope you do self-care too!

Christakim · October 2010

sommerrayne:
Christakim:

sommerrayne:
I'm sooooooooooooooooo sorry you're going through this....mainly because I am too but without the daycare - she just "hates" me, is mean to me, speaks rudely to me, disobeys me all day long.....everyday!

I've done a lot of reading about "differentiation" from the same sex parent (daughter to mother, son to father) along with some reading on their age and stage (my daughter is just slightly older than yours.

Furthermore, everyone I talk to (professionals and moms alike) say that when there's a big shift in life (like daycare, new baby, or in our case, changing into a big girl bed) the other aspects of differentiation are bound to pop up as well. Almost like, "You expect me to change and pull this new role? Okay, what ELSE can I do differently".

Its sooooooooooooooooooooooo hard. I lost it today, yelled, etc and then sat on the floor bawling....in front of her.

All I can say is, add some new tools to your "toolbox" and know that you're an excellent mama doing the very best you can and this is a phase that will pass. And I do not say that lightly as I have to CHANT it to myself daily.

HUGS MAMA!

Ugh, you have this emotional mommy in tears right now. Thank you. It's good to know someone can empathize, even though it SUCKS that you are going through it too. This too shall pass I guess.....thank you again!

Isn't it nice to know we're not alone?! I mean I don't want anyone to feel the way I do but at least I know I'm not off on some planet alone going insane and no one can relate!

BTW, I'm getting a massage tomorrow....yes, I'm PAYING someone to like me for an hour I wish I could invite you along! I hope you do self-care too!

I keep hinting to my DH that I want one. Enjoy yours, that sounds wonderful!!!

sommerrayne · October 2010

Christakim:
sommerrayne:
Christakim:

sommerrayne:
I'm sooooooooooooooooo sorry you're going through this....mainly because I am too but without the daycare - she just "hates" me, is mean to me, speaks rudely to me, disobeys me all day long.....everyday!

I've done a lot of reading about "differentiation" from the same sex parent (daughter to mother, son to father) along with some reading on their age and stage (my daughter is just slightly older than yours.

Furthermore, everyone I talk to (professionals and moms alike) say that when there's a big shift in life (like daycare, new baby, or in our case, changing into a big girl bed) the other aspects of differentiation are bound to pop up as well. Almost like, "You expect me to change and pull this new role? Okay, what ELSE can I do differently".

Its sooooooooooooooooooooooo hard. I lost it today, yelled, etc and then sat on the floor bawling....in front of her.

All I can say is, add some new tools to your "toolbox" and know that you're an excellent mama doing the very best you can and this is a phase that will pass. And I do not say that lightly as I have to CHANT it to myself daily.

HUGS MAMA!

Ugh, you have this emotional mommy in tears right now. Thank you. It's good to know someone can empathize, even though it SUCKS that you are going through it too. This too shall pass I guess.....thank you again!

Isn't it nice to know we're not alone?! I mean I don't want anyone to feel the way I do but at least I know I'm not off on some planet alone going insane and no one can relate!

BTW, I'm getting a massage tomorrow....yes, I'm PAYING someone to like me for an hour I wish I could invite you along! I hope you do self-care too!

I keep hinting to my DH that I want one. Enjoy yours, that sounds wonderful!!!

I quit hinting....my husband is oblivious. LOL How great is my station in life right now: "My husband is oblivious. He 'doesn't get' why I'm so stressed at the end of the week because, 'I'd give anything to be able to stay home' is his mantra while I silently laugh knowing she'd eat him alive in a week.....and my kid doesn't like me lately."

YOU DESERVE A MASSAGE! GO GET ONE FOR YOURSELF!

Do you have Massage Envy around you? 40 bucks for an hour for your 1st time.

kittylove · October 2010

Kind of. Riley does Tot time three days a week, it is mainly just a big playgroup, but we call it school and he loves it. Today he wanted to go but he doesn't have it on Fridays, he cried. We went to an indoor bounce house place but it wasn't the same, and I know if we had stayed home he would have asked about school all morning long. ((((HUGS))))) for you my friend. Motherhood is so hard.

Christakim · October 2010

sommerrayne:
Christakim:
sommerrayne:
Christakim:

sommerrayne:
I'm sooooooooooooooooo sorry you're going through this....mainly because I am too but without the daycare - she just "hates" me, is mean to me, speaks rudely to me, disobeys me all day long.....everyday!

I've done a lot of reading about "differentiation" from the same sex parent (daughter to mother, son to father) along with some reading on their age and stage (my daughter is just slightly older than yours.

Furthermore, everyone I talk to (professionals and moms alike) say that when there's a big shift in life (like daycare, new baby, or in our case, changing into a big girl bed) the other aspects of differentiation are bound to pop up as well. Almost like, "You expect me to change and pull this new role? Okay, what ELSE can I do differently".

Its sooooooooooooooooooooooo hard. I lost it today, yelled, etc and then sat on the floor bawling....in front of her.

All I can say is, add some new tools to your "toolbox" and know that you're an excellent mama doing the very best you can and this is a phase that will pass. And I do not say that lightly as I have to CHANT it to myself daily.

HUGS MAMA!

Ugh, you have this emotional mommy in tears right now. Thank you. It's good to know someone can empathize, even though it SUCKS that you are going through it too. This too shall pass I guess.....thank you again!

Isn't it nice to know we're not alone?! I mean I don't want anyone to feel the way I do but at least I know I'm not off on some planet alone going insane and no one can relate!

BTW, I'm getting a massage tomorrow....yes, I'm PAYING someone to like me for an hour I wish I could invite you along! I hope you do self-care too!

I keep hinting to my DH that I want one. Enjoy yours, that sounds wonderful!!!

I quit hinting....my husband is oblivious. LOL How great is my station in life right now: "My husband is oblivious. He 'doesn't get' why I'm so stressed at the end of the week because, 'I'd give anything to be able to stay home' is his mantra while I silently laugh knowing she'd eat him alive in a week.....and my kid doesn't like me lately."

YOU DESERVE A MASSAGE! GO GET ONE FOR YOURSELF!

Do you have Massage Envy around you? 40 bucks for an hour for your 1st time.

No, no Massage Envy here. I'm sure my DH wouldn't mind if I bought one, I just feel guilty lately with all the stuff we have to buy for the twins spending one penny on myself. I may just bit the bullet with my first paycheck though:)

sommerrayne · October 2010

Christakim:
sommerrayne:
Christakim:

sommerrayne:
I'm sooooooooooooooooo sorry you're going through this....mainly because I am too but without the daycare - she just "hates" me, is mean to me, speaks rudely to me, disobeys me all day long.....everyday!

I've done a lot of reading about "differentiation" from the same sex parent (daughter to mother, son to father) along with some reading on their age and stage (my daughter is just slightly older than yours.

Furthermore, everyone I talk to (professionals and moms alike) say that when there's a big shift in life (like daycare, new baby, or in our case, changing into a big girl bed) the other aspects of differentiation are bound to pop up as well. Almost like, "You expect me to change and pull this new role? Okay, what ELSE can I do differently".

Its sooooooooooooooooooooooo hard. I lost it today, yelled, etc and then sat on the floor bawling....in front of her.

All I can say is, add some new tools to your "toolbox" and know that you're an excellent mama doing the very best you can and this is a phase that will pass. And I do not say that lightly as I have to CHANT it to myself daily.

HUGS MAMA!

Ugh, you have this emotional mommy in tears right now. Thank you. It's good to know someone can empathize, even though it SUCKS that you are going through it too. This too shall pass I guess.....thank you again!

Isn't it nice to know we're not alone?! I mean I don't want anyone to feel the way I do but at least I know I'm not off on some planet alone going insane and no one can relate!

BTW, I'm getting a massage tomorrow....yes, I'm PAYING someone to like me for an hour I wish I could invite you along! I hope you do self-care too!

I keep hinting to my DH that I want one. Enjoy yours, that sounds wonderful!!!

I quit hinting....my husband is oblivious. LOL How great is my station in life right now: "My husband is oblivious. He 'doesn't get' why I'm so stressed at the end of the week because, 'I'd give anything to be able to stay home' is his mantra while I silently laugh knowing she'd eat him alive in a week.....and my kid doesn't like me lately."

YOU DESERVE A MASSAGE! GO GET ONE FOR YOURSELF!

Do you have Massage Envy around you? 40 bucks for an hour for your 1st time.

SeaSoul · October 2010

oh man, that would break my heart! i honestly think it must be the age...

nicolita14w · October 2010

Hugs! I know sorta how you feel-- ever since Ben was born, James is super attached to his Daddy and pushes me away, especially when he is upset and wants to cuddle. Happened tonight when he had a tantrum at the mall and I actually started crying at the Cheesecake Factory.

I try to remember that it's normal and that he does love me, but it's so hard when they don't show it.

tina623 · October 2010

The girls tell me bye when I drop them off, yell No when I ask for a kiss and when I tell them I love them, they just walk away.

I tell myself it's only a phase and I work in daycare so I see the opposite all day. I guess I'd rather have them be like this instead of hating school and crying for me all day.

I'm sorry you are feeling bad but I bet she talks about you all day to her teachers

Mr.&MrsS · October 2010

I am sorry. It is so hard. (

My kids go to day care...but I dont usually have that issue, thankfully when I get there most of the kids are already gone so they want to come home. But Brady is going through a big Daddy phase right now, so he does push me away. Last night when we were putting him to bed he said to me, "Go downstairs Mommy." He didnt want me there when he went to bed. I wanted to cry. And last weekend I wanted to take him out for some one on one time...we were going to get lunch, go to a playground, do pumpkin painting, etc. He told me, "No, I would rather stay with Daddy and Nolan." Ugh!

I think it is just the age. I know it is hard, but try not to take it personal. You are a great Momma and Ella is VERY lucky!!

pamela-matt · October 2010

Ry runs away from me when I get there to pick him up. I really think it is just part of the many adjustments going on right now. Give her a bit of time. She loves momma!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She is testing limits and pushing buttons.

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