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Have you had close friends divorce?

stacynikkistacynikki member
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We've had friends that divorced before, and this particular couple are still somewhat trying to work it out.  But the more I hear about it it doesn't look like they're going to work it out.  I don't know why, but this particular couple getting a divorce is really hitting me hard.  I never thought they'd be in this situation. We were going to name them as guardians to the boys if anything ever happened to DH and I.  DH asked him to be his groomsman and really wanted him to be the best man but family talked him into having his brother be the best man.  DH wanted him to be the best man because when he thought of how he wanted our marriage to be it would have been similar to theirs.  I don't know why it's bothering me so much but I can't help but feel sad and angry and just about every feeling you could think of.  Maybe because if it happened to them it could happen to DH and I?  I don't know.  I'm just rambling.  Has anyone felt like this before?
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Re: Have you had close friends divorce?

  • emiliemadisonemiliemadison member

    I have friends who just got divorced this week. Yeah, it's hard because not only do you feel bad for them and what they're dealing with, but it does make you look at your own marriage and think about the "what ifs".

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  • shopgirl78shopgirl78 member

    I have two co-workers in the middle of a divorce now.  One found her husband in HER bed with another woman.  She had stayed the night with her MIL.   Also, my BFF is getting a divorce.  It is sad and I agree with emiliemadison about the "what ifs."

    For all three relationships, I do feel its the right thing though...


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    For all three relationships, I do feel its the right thing though...

    I really wish some of my friends had supported me like this.   I ultimately lost some friendships because of my short-lived marriage. 

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  • stacynikkistacynikki member
    I guess that's just it....there is no huge glaring reason for the divorce.  No infidelity, she just said she feels there is no connection and he said he feels like she just wants him around to take care of their daughter.  She works a ton and is always away on business trips or just working late in general.  She said they were going to counseling but DH talked to him and he's looking at apartments.  It just makes me so incredibly sad.  FWIW, other friends of ours that have divorced and I always thought it was for the best.  I just don't feel that way this time.  I guess because there just didn't seem like a glaring reason?  Or that it doesn't seem like a good enough reason?  Maybe I'm just sad that they don't want to work on it harder.  It definitely brings up the what if's with DH and I.  We've never brought up divorce and we have a good marriage but we work hard on it every day.  Some days harder then others, but at the end of the day, we feel blessed to be with each other and the boys and have what we have. 
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