S/O names: Hyphenated names..

Melly Mel · October 2010

Sorry in advance if you or your LO has a hyphenated name...but I think it can be a pain in the a** for a child. As a teacher, I have seen kids get made fun of for this and it is difficult for them to explain why they have two last names.

MrsWindyCity · October 2010

My name is hyphenated but I didn't do that to DS. It sucks. In fact, I wish I would have kept my maiden name entirely and not bothered adding DH's name to the end of it. Total PITA.

VanderLaan · October 2010

I agree! And I dont understand why a wife doesnt take her husbands last name. I know that is so old school....just the way I feel! I think its confusing for the kids.

DrinknDerive · October 2010

I think the kid should not take on the mom's hyphenated last name. I also think a woman should keep her maiden name completely or at least hyphenate.

MrsWindyCity · October 2010

VanderLaan:
I agree! And I dont understand why a wife doesnt take her husbands last name. I know that is so old school....just the way I feel! I think its confusing for the kids.

My name is very Greek and very me. I see no reason to just do away with it because I married a man. Also my mom had a different last name than I did (because my parents got divorced when I was 2) and it was not confusing. I definitely always knew she was my mom. :P

Pocky874 · October 2010

This exactly. I have a hyphenated last name, but DD's last name is DH's last name. I wish I had kept my maiden name as well, but DH wouldn't have it.

ETA: oops, failed to quote Mrs. Windy City.

angiegail78 · October 2010

VanderLaan:
I agree! And I dont understand why a wife doesnt take her husbands last name. I know that is so old school....just the way I feel! I think its confusing for the kids.

I really wanted to keep my last name, because it's been my name and who I am for my whole life. DH really wanted me to take his and I caved.

How do you feel about the husband taking the wife's last name? I really like that idea.

VanderLaan · October 2010

MrsWindyCity:
VanderLaan:

I agree! And I dont understand why a wife doesnt take her husbands last name. I know that is so old school....just the way I feel! I think its confusing for the kids.

My name is very Greek and very me. I see no reason to just do away with it because I married a man. Also my mom had a different last name than I did (because my parents got divorced when I was 2) and it was not confusing. I definitely always knew she was my mom. :P

Very good point!

Melly Mel · October 2010

angiegail78:
VanderLaan:

I agree! And I dont understand why a wife doesnt take her husbands last name. I know that is so old school....just the way I feel! I think its confusing for the kids.

I really wanted to keep my last name, because it's been my name and who I am for my whole life. DH really wanted me to take his and I caved.

How do you feel about the husband taking the wife's last name? I really like that idea.

I never liked my last name so I was happy to take DH's. I guess taking a wife's last name would be just as fair.

funcop · October 2010

Agree! A coworker gave his kids hyphenated names even though his wife kept her name. And both the names are long and odd. I have a long italian last name that I kept and DH has a plain easy last name. DS has my hubs name tho.

VanderLaan · October 2010

angiegail78:
VanderLaan:

I agree! And I dont understand why a wife doesnt take her husbands last name. I know that is so old school....just the way I feel! I think its confusing for the kids.

I really wanted to keep my last name, because it's been my name and who I am for my whole life. DH really wanted me to take his and I caved.

How do you feel about the husband taking the wife's last name? I really like that idea.

I never thought about that before! That would be interesting...hhhmmm. Wonder how many men would actually do it! And to clarify- I come from an italian family where we do not have middle names (the girls). When you get married your maiden name becomes youe middle name and you take your husbands last name. I also gave my son my maiden name as his middle name (all the boys int he family do this). Hope that makes sense!

angiegail78 · October 2010

VanderLaan:
I never thought about that before! That would be interesting...hhhmmm. Wonder how many men would actually do it! And to clarify- I come from an italian family where we do not have middle names (the girls). When you get married your maiden name becomes youe middle name and you take your husbands last name. I also gave my son my maiden name as his middle name (all the boys int he family do this). Hope that makes sense!

That makes sense, and I've heard of other people mention how it's "tradition" for a woman to change her middle name to her maiden name when she gets married. That's something I'd honestly never heard of before.

The feminist in me just questions why it's the woman who needs to change. I've seen some couples who use neither of their last names and just create a new one for them both to use.

MrsWindyCity · October 2010

angiegail78:
VanderLaan:
I never thought about that before! That would be interesting...hhhmmm. Wonder how many men would actually do it! And to clarify- I come from an italian family where we do not have middle names (the girls). When you get married your maiden name becomes youe middle name and you take your husbands last name. I also gave my son my maiden name as his middle name (all the boys int he family do this). Hope that makes sense!
That makes sense, and I've heard of other people mention how it's "tradition" for a woman to change her middle name to her maiden name when she gets married. That's something I'd honestly never heard of before.
The feminist in me just questions why it's the woman who needs to change. I've seen some couples who use neither of their last names and just create a new one for them both to use.

I have 2 sets of friends who've done this and I think it's pretty cool.

aocain02@yahoo.com · October 2010

I'm part Irish and my maiden name had an apostrophe in it. That was a giant PITA in itself and it was a bigger pain the older I got. I don't understand the deal with hyphenating, but I was glad to give up my maiden name.

Zoie2010 · October 2010

Have had a friend who's ex husband took her name when they married. He never knews his dad and didn't like his mom last name.

Though DD Aunt, Uncle and Cousins All have Hypheanted names. DD's father and Aunt's father died shortly after the Aunt and Uncle got together and they decided the whole family would carry both last names.

My Nephew though wasn't supposed to have a hyphen and his maternal gma and mom did that one. Now his mom and my brother want to change his name any way.and drop her maiden name and give him a different 2nd middle name. At least he isn't in school yet.

DD has just her dad's name. But if we were to marry then I would just add his name, with no hyphen Due to the length of my name. I guess I am just not sure since my Aunt had both names with no hyphen, as to some coultures,

PoseyMamma · October 2010

VanderLaan:
I agree! And I dont understand why a wife doesnt take her husbands last name. I know that is so old school....just the way I feel! I think its confusing for the kids.

This is what I think. When I married DH I dropped my maiden name completely. None of my stuff has it on there at all.

KRMac · October 2010

funcop:
Agree! A coworker gave his kids hyphenated names even though his wife kept her name. And both the names are long and odd. I have a long italian last name that I kept and DH has a plain easy last name. DS has my hubs name tho.

I know. What are those kids going to do when THEY get married now?!

VanderLaan · October 2010

angiegail78:

VanderLaan:
I never thought about that before! That would be interesting...hhhmmm. Wonder how many men would actually do it! And to clarify- I come from an italian family where we do not have middle names (the girls). When you get married your maiden name becomes youe middle name and you take your husbands last name. I also gave my son my maiden name as his middle name (all the boys int he family do this). Hope that makes sense!

That makes sense, and I've heard of other people mention how it's "tradition" for a woman to change her middle name to her maiden name when she gets married. That's something I'd honestly never heard of before.

The feminist in me just questions why it's the woman who needs to change. I've seen some couples who use neither of their last names and just create a new one for them both to use.

A couple I know changed their last name to Yorksmith. One was York and one was Smith. I thought it was very clever!

kpadlick · October 2010

Myself, DH, and DD all have hyphenated last names. It can be a PITA at times, but there is reason behind it. DH did not know his father and therefore didn't really want to carry on the name. He looks up to my Dad as if he were his own, and so he actually wanted to take my maiden name. However, I didn't necessarily want to keep just my maiden name. So we decided to hyphenate so that we had our own family name. Our last name is officially hyphenated, but we usually just go by my maiden name to make it easier. When DD grows up she can choose what she wants to do. I don't really mind because it makes me feel like our little family has it's own identity.

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