The crazy MIL strikes again!

Mrs.ABC · October 2010

I guess moving half way across the country doesn't prevent surprise family visits after all. Yes, my MIL thought it was a good idea to get in her car and drive 20 hours to see us. She was about 1/2 way here when she decided to call DH and let him know but he wasn't answering his phone so she called his corporate office looking for him! I always knew the woman had a screw loose but really? When he called her back she said she traded in her Viper for a Hummer to make the drive because she has a bunch of stuff to bring us including a train set she bought from a museum for Brock. WTH! How am I going to sell a train set that was probably a couple thousand dollars?! This weekend is going to blow!

sarahmae8 · October 2010

Why don't you want to keep the train set? I think that would be a really fun thing for him to have....

Sorry she was not forthcoming with you guys. That is frustrating. I hope your week goes well with her there....is she staying with you or somewhere else?

AshSchultz · October 2010

Mrs.ABC:

I guess moving half way across the country doesn't prevent surprise family visits after all. Yes, my MIL thought it was a good idea to get in her car and drive 20 hours to see us. She was about 1/2 way here when she decided to call DH and let him know but he wasn't answering his phone so she called his corporate office looking for him! I always knew the woman had a screw loose but really? When he called her back she said she traded in her Viper for a Hummer to make the drive because she has a bunch of stuff to bring us including a train set she bought from a museum for Brock. WTH! How am I going to sell a train set that was probably a couple thousand dollars?! This weekend is going to blow!

Why would you sell the train set that she bought?

yankeebaby2 · October 2010

What's so crazy about visiting your son? and why would you sell the train set?

carney09 · October 2010

Yeah, why do you need to sell the train set? Do you not have enough room in your house?

And who the eff gets in the car and drives 20 hours to SURPRISE someone? Weirdo!!

Mrs.ABC · October 2010

It's gigantic, I don't know where I would put it. I don't really care what she does with her money. But if she's going to be spending that much money on something for him why not put it in his college fund? I'm more upset that she thinks it's okay to come in town unannounced. We have good reasons to not want to see her. I'd rather not get into that on here. I will say we do not allow her around her Grandson unsupervised. She has issues and she needs to get help.

carney09 · October 2010

Mrs.ABC:
It's gigantic, I don't know where I would put it. I don't really care what she does with her money. But if she's going to be spending that much money on something for him why not put it in his college fund? I'm more upset that she thinks it's okay to come in town unannounced. We have good reasons to not want to see her. I'd rather not get into that on here. I will say we do not allow her around her Grandson unsupervised. She has issues and she needs to get help.

Ahhh, I figured it would be a space issue. Stinker. But I'm totally with you on the unannounced visit. I hate that, no matter who you are.

PoseyMamma · October 2010

At least she gave you a little heads up. MIL has shown up to the house in the drive way and then calls and say hey I am in the drive way. Seriously???

jmat08 · October 2010

Sounds like your MIL drives you insane like my ex MIL did..

simplyatomic · October 2010

Mine brought Liam antique trains when she came to visit. I have packed them up and saved them for him for later. You can do the same with the train she bought. It isnt about you, or space but your little guy and eventually if its as expensive as you say he will love it.

froggertmc · October 2010

Yes MIL have a way of getting under your skin. I would keep the train and give it to him for Christmas. Good luck

mtbmama · October 2010

Oh wow. That would piss me right off with the unannounced visit. You'd think with being that far away it would have solved that problem of dropping by whenever. Good luck, hope your weekend goes by fast.

yankeebaby2 · October 2010

I understand you have other issues you would rather not get into but I don't get the other's outrage at an unnannounced visit.

She wants to see her son or her grandkids. Who cares when she shows up unless she is regularly waking up your kid from naps.

RadicalDreamer143 · October 2010

I wouldn't sell the train set, especially if it's a collectible. Technically, its not yours, but your son's. If you don't have room, don't put it together right now.

Sorry, that irks me a bit - my brother got a beautiful Lionel train set from a family friend one year, and my stepfather immediately put it away, unopened. Guess what - it's still there, I doubt my brother even knows it exists, and I bet you they have plans to sell it on Ebay, when it doesn't even belong to them.

Your MIL showing up unannounced though - that is beyond irritating. My mother has driven 12+ hours to be here with little notice, but she hasn't just called up when she was already driving. I would make sure to create some plans and be out of the house if that happened.

Bianca42 · October 2010

yankeebaby2:
I understand you have other issues you would rather not get into but I don't get the other's outrage at an unnannounced visit.

She wants to see her son or her grandkids. Who cares when she shows up unless she is regularly waking up your kid from naps.

I live far from family and my house is very rarely company ready. I might have plans. With a 10 hour drive, I would assume that she's going to stay the night. Yea...there would be some outrage from me if we had an unannounced visit and we love all of our family.

KRISTA555 · October 2010

I understand your frustration.. that would annoy me too if she were staying in my house. If she stayed in a hotel, it wouldn't bother me unless I had plans. And even then, I'd just ask her to come along, or tell her that you won't be available from "2-4 on saturday" or whatever.

On the flipside.... I would LOVE for my family to drive to see my daughter. They have NEVER met her. It makes me sad.

carney09 · October 2010

yankeebaby2:

I understand you have other issues you would rather not get into but I don't get the other's outrage at an unnannounced visit.

She wants to see her son or her grandkids. Who cares when she shows up unless she is regularly waking up your kid from naps.

Really??? Unannounced visits are RUDE. Period. I don't care who it is. What if they had plans for that weekend? Now they have to cancel them because the MIL drove 20 hours to get there. And no, you can't say "oh well, too bad for MIL" because you know the drama that would cause if they went about their plans anyways.

I'm actually pearl clutching that anyone would think that was acceptable!

Bianca42 · October 2010

The only way I can see it being close to acceptable is if MIL has a ton of family in town, is visiting everyone and staying with someone else. In that case, she has other things to do if OP happens to be busy. But even staying at a hotel...if someone came into town to see just me I would feel obligated to cancel my plans and spend time with them.

mtbmama · October 2010

yankeebaby2:

I understand you have other issues you would rather not get into but I don't get the other's outrage at an unnannounced visit.

She wants to see her son or her grandkids. Who cares when she shows up unless she is regularly waking up your kid from naps.

Really? What if they had plans that weekend? They would have to cancel, cause that would just be a huge fiasco if you told MIL you won't be home after she drove 20 hours to get there even though she didn't give you a heads up she's coming.

I guess it's one thing if you like your MIL and she came over unannounced, but to me it sounds like OP's MIL is crazy as crackers, so a visit is a bad thing announced or not.

nicig · October 2010

What a Looney Tune! Im with you on the whole "bringing giant unnecessary presents" to my house without asking. I HATE that stuff! I would probably do the same and craigslist it. If I want my DS to have a train set, I would buy it for him or put it on a bday/christmas list when asked. For the people that cannot understand why you are upset...obviously you have never had a completely nuts relative. I have a ton. I can lend you some.

spring_time · October 2010

yankeebaby2:
I understand you have other issues you would rather not get into but I don't get the other's outrage at an unnannounced visit.
She wants to see her son or her grandkids. Who cares when she shows up unless she is regularly waking up your kid from naps.

Really? You must have a really good relationship with your IL. Speaking as someone who now gets regular weekend visits that last up to 6 hours, it is an intrusion on space and time. I get that they want to see their grandchildren, but sometimes we have plans and sometimes we just want the weekend for ourselves. I don't even like pop-ins by my own family, and they live 10 minutes away. My mom decided to do one last weekend just as DH and I were in the middle of a heated argument about our parents respecting boundaries. It did not bolster my argument and only caused more problems. My mom felt terrible, and it all could have been avoided with a simple phone call. Giving someone a heads up or just asking (rather than telling) to visit is only respectful.

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