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Delivery Scheduled!
This week was really emotional for me. I have really been struggling w/ the decision to attempt VBAC versus scheduling a C-section.
Today I had my appt and after talking to my doctor, and going w/ what was feeling best for me, we decided to schedule a c-section at CW unless I go into labor on my own.
I am not 100% excited about my decision, but it feels better than when I had told myself I'd go w/ the VBAC. For those of you who didn't know my story, I never went into labor w/ Avery and I was overdue - so I just felt really uneasy about my body's ability to give birth vaginally and the risk of ending up with a c-section anyways.
I still feel like I have to defend this decision to a lot of people, and I am trying to make myself be "ok" with the fact that I may not ever experience a vaginal delivery but my experience w/ a scheduled section was really positive.
Oye. 25 more days?
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Re: Delivery Scheduled!
It's your body and you are doing what you think/feel is best for it, Ryan and with the consult of your doctor. Do NOT defend yourself to anyone. To each her own and no one should judge you.
I can't believe he's almost here!!! Crazy.
I don't think you should feel guilty, or that you have to explain yourself. Honestly, before spending a lot of time on the bump boards, I just kind of always thought that once you had a c-section, you always had a c-section. I don't think too many people would question you about the VBAC, because most of the public doesn't even know about it.
The most important thing is that Ryan is healthy and either way you have a successful delivery! I can't wait to see pictures of him!
I know how you feel. I was so upset at first when we started tallking about a c-section because I felt like I was being cheated. I wanted to feel what it was like to labor, push and all that hard stuff. LOL! Finally I decided a c-section was fine because I knew that was best for Parker. I also did not want to labor all day and then be told I needed a c-section. My doctor felt he would not fit and she was right. Now after having my c-section I will be signing up for another one with the nest baby. I think you will be fine. Trust me, I think some of these doctors know our body better than we do. Good Luck!!! Can't wait to see Mr. Ryan!!!
I'll also echo what everyone else has said...your body your decision...no need to justify anything. I can sympathize. Since my body absolutely refused to budge when having Aubrey and after laboring 14 hours and ending up with a c section I can understand the hesitancy to try the VBAC in case it happens again. I think I am just going to sign up for the repeat c-section as well with number 2.
Can't believe it's almost time. Seems like your's and Monica's pregnancies just flew by. Can't wait to see his picture
I understand where you are coming from. I still have a long way to go, but I just talked to my OB about this very thing. He prefered I didn't attempt the VBAC. With everything that happened with Lawson, he felt it was best to schedule a repeat C right around a week or so early.
My story with Lawson sounds similar to your's with Avery: I went 7 days past my due date when I was induced. I was soo against induction. I was terrified of it failing and ending up with a C-section. So, I waited...after 1 week, it was not an option anymore to wait. So I went in for induction on a Sunday night. All night SUnday I was on Pitocin and all day Monday. I never dilated past .5 cm. So, my doctor asked what I wanted to do and I really didn't want to go for the c-section unless I had to. So, he gave me until 2 o'clock Tuesday to make progress and then it was not an option anymore. So, all night Monday and through lunch time Tuesday I stayed on Pitocin. I was so miserable, as many of you know. Around lunch time Tuesday the contractions started to really hurt, so I just knew I was making progress. They checked me and NOTHING had changed. I was so disappointed. So, I opted for an epidural to help with the pain. Lawson's HB kept dropping, so I had to lay on my right side all day long. I was hurting. SO, anyways, I got the epidural and shortly after that my DOc came in to talk to me. I went ahead and told him unless I had made alot of progress, it was C-section time. I was ready for my baby to be born. So, he checked me and nothing had changed. C-section it was. At 4:29, Lawson was born. He was 8lb 13 oz and was so stuck they had to use the forceps and when that didn't work, the vacuum. His head was completely squished from being in there for so long and he was actually presenting face first. BUt, had not made it past my pelvis. His face was on big bruise. He looked awful, but of course, I thought he was beautiful. It was all in all, a safe delivery, but my DOc told me that there was NO way I could have given birth to him. Even if he had been closer to just 8 lbs, it probably wouldn't have happened. So, I was soo disappointed. I felt robbed of the birth experience and like a failure. I dealt with those feelings for a long time. I think I have finally come to terms with those feelings and am just glad Lawson was born healthy and nothing went wrong. In the end, nothing went as I had hoped and I ended up with both a failed induction and a c-section. Two things I was against from the beginning . I was taught a valuable lesson, in my eyes. I don't know the plans God has and what's best, but He does
So, to sum all that up, it was not a good induction experience at all and I do not want to attempt that again. I am very afraid that my body is just not built to give birth. Especially if the baby is big again. My Doctor agrees. So, as sad as I sometimes am about it, I know it's what's best.
If it's what's best for you and baby, that is the most important thing