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If you went from 2 to 3 kids. please come in and help me.
I now have 3 boys. going from 2-->3 is killing me. how do you do it?
my third has an extremely fussy temperament and colicky right now. that doesn't help. I feel like i am drowning. i've lost my brain and I can hardly think straight anymore. like when I have a free moment i don't even know what to do with myself. i feel unorganized and mentally lost.
when does it get better?
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Re: If you went from 2 to 3 kids. please come in and help me.
My second and third children were easier than my first. I think DS2 may have been the easiest. He has a pretty chill demeanor.
It was harder for me to go from 2-3 than 1-2 also. I thought 1-2 was easy! It is like running a three ring circus sometimes. And it is "zone defense."
I work FT, so I don't "do it" all day. I do get a mental break but it means I have to shove everything that I need to do in a very small block of time. That gets frustrating and make one feel like the are drowning too.
When I was home on maternity leave (12 weeks), I had DD in school. I keep DS1 on his normal routine at home and just worked baby around that. Today, I generally keep the same daily routine and still work Jake around it.
I find it harder to get out and about with three also but sometimes we just need to get out of the house. It does wonders for everyone. Even if its to go through a drive thru.
I has gotten better since J was so tiny but I think it will keep getting easier with time. I wish you the best! Hugs!
From 0-2 (we have twins) we were both going insane. Our kids are very high maintenance and thought we were getting a hold of the routine (3 yrs old) when I discovered I was pregnant with #3.
Needless to say being pregnant with 2 very active kids didn't help. It has been such an adjustment (he's 6 months old) and thankfully he has been a calm baby for the most part.
My motto now is: I'm doing the best I can. My DH and I were going nuts, I was driving him nuts, he was driving me nuts, the stress was killing our relationship, and the kids were killing us.
We stick to the routine of sleeping - by 8 pm they are down to sleep. Period. Everything is pretty much timed so that we keep some sort of normalcy. It's not easy and it doesn't always work, but it's definitely easier when DH and I are on the same page and work as a team. GOOD LUCK!!
I dunno. We're at 9 months with three and I'm still hanging on by my fingernails. DS is definitely an easy baby, but it's still hard with three of them. Having the girls back at school (preschool two days a week for 5 hours) has helped a ton. At least I have a routine and a schedule. Still, it's a good day if I get a shower in before noon and I get to eat lunch before 3 (and there are plenty of days when I don't). Unfortunately, since DS became mobile, I haven't been able to pee without him getting into something. I think part of the challenge for me is that my girls are so close in age. DD#1 was just over a year and a half when DD#2 was born. We didn't have tiny toys that the baby could choke on or paper books or anything. Also the girls could do almost everything together just at different levels pretty early on. Now they're a "unit" and do everything together - birthday parties, school, play, share a room, etc. So we have them doing one thing and DS doing another. It's hard!!
Best advice I have is take it one day at a time. Try to get out of the house every day even if it's just a trip to the grocery store or a drive through for coffee. Try to set a routine and stick to it. Plan ahead for everything from trips to dinners. If you try to do anything last minute, someone will be having a meltdown. Sometimes I just go ahead and do it anyway like run to the grocery store or cook dinner or go to the park. Other days, I chuck it all, order pizza and let the kids watch entirely too much TV. Just depends on everyone's mood and how the day is going. Good luck!! Hope it gets better for both of us!
My 3rd kicked my ass. But it does get better. Soon you'll figure out your new normal and establish some kind of schedule. Being organized helps a lot. I took a few minutes before bed to pack lunches and backpacks, stock up the diaper bags, pick out clothes for the next day, etc. Make things easier on yourself -- don't worry so much about housework, remember it is okay to ask for help, even use paper dishes if necessary.
I won't lie, I didn't really feel like I had it all under control until my youngest was nearly 3. But we all survived and I don't think anyone is permanently scarred.
Cr*p. I have to confess, this is the first baby (#3) I've looked forward to. With my first, I was terrified, literally terrified that I wouldn't know how to take care of her. With my second, I was terrified, and apparently justifiably so, of #1's reaction.
But, by the time this baby is born, #2 will be almost 3 and hopefully PT'd, they're both in school, I am a WAHM who can set her own schedule and both kids seem prepared for baby. I have been thinking it would be easy; I was really looking forward to it being the five of us, and have been having visions of what a happy, well-run, laid-back family we'll be.
But now this post is scaring me.