Can I please just whine?
DD is 7 months... SEVEN STINKIN MONTHS. seven glorious months of a happy, good sleeping (REALLY GOOD SLEEPING) baby.... Stinkin months because the doctors visits are every week, if not every other week...
ready for this? my daughter is not even 14 lbs. yet. I am sooo upset. I have backed down off the BFing since obviously that wasn't helping. We are on the most expensive formula known to man due to her allergy to cow's milk protien... and she still.WILL.NOT.GAIN. she's eating cereal or 1.5 jars of food every meal.
I'm tired of bringing her to the doctor. Luckily, it's only for a weight check. but still... 2 weeks ago, DH brought her with MIL and DS. Pedi. said that a) she should have gained more than 3 oz. in 2 weeks- yeah, we know... we were much more happy with the 7 oz. in 8 days that we got 2 weeks earlier, maam. thanks. and b)that she should be sitting, crawling, etc. by now. She's not. So pedi said we needed to work with her but might want to consider physical therapy. CONSIDER. so why did ECI call my house 2 days later to set up a consulttation and evaluation? We have been trying to make her sit, propping her with just one of our hands,she's been bouncing like crazy in the exersaucer thingy...utilizing her bumbo, you know... all the crap that's suppose to help.
My theory- she's 14 lbs. most of that's probably her HEAD so how hard is it for her to sit and hold that thing up? oy.
Like i said, she's not unhappy. she doesn't cry a lot. Oh, and since Cali posted her daughter cut 2 teeth, my daughter, who's barely older, none.
I'm starting to think something just might be medically wrong with her and I am a bad person for cancelling her barium enima way back when she started gaining instead of losing. What do you think?
Her next weigh in is tomorrow. THey moved into a building which is practically in front of my school, so I'm going during lunch tomorrow to get her weighed with DH.
WWYD?!?!?
Re: Can I please just whine?
First off... Teeth mean nothing. Neither of my older girls had teeth until they were 10-12 months old, so don't try to guage anything by that.
Secondly, you can still schedule the barium enema and try to get to the root of the problem if she's still not gaining weight. If she's still not gaining as they think she should tomorrow, schedule the appointment and move forward from there. I agree with you that a lot of milestones are weight based, not 'age' based so the fact that she's not up to speed yet on physical milestones is probably largely from the fact that she's still so small.
Are you seeing a specialist or just the pediatrician? If just the pediatrician, I would push to find a specialist that can help you get to the bottom of her lack of weight gain.
Keep your chin up, all you can do is keep searching for an answer and a way to help her start gaining weight.
I'm so sorry, I don't really know what I'd do. That sounds incredible difficult and stressful. Developmentally there is a huge range for when kids hit milestones. There is also a large range for what size is normal. What are your family members like? Are you big people or little people? I would definitely not worry about the teeth thing, Cooper still only has one! My pedi says 2% of kids get a tooth before 4 months, 2% not until after 12 months and all the rest fall somewhere in between.
I *think* I'd visit w/ the PT just to see what they have to say. My BFF from college is a pediatric physical therapist and I called her when Cooper was showing signs of torticollis, she gave us some simple things to do and his neck straightened out super fast. My feeling is that it never hurts to get a second opinion---collect all the information and opinions you can then in the end you have to decide what you think is best. Trust your gut. (BFF the PT also advised against using bouncers and walkers and the like, but we use them anyway.)
I am so sorry you are dealing with this and that you are worried about your little one. It is always easy to second guess what you should have done or what you are going. I agree with the PPs, go with your gut. And just because you didn't do the test already, doesn't mean you can't do it now.
And when it comes to age appropriate milestones I have trouble with these too. Evan is a tad bit older than your LO, and he isn't crawling. He can sit up if we put him there, but if he falls over he still can't get himself seated. And he still refuses solids.
You are doing the best you can, and when the time is right your LO will hit those milestones.
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I'm so sorry. The weight gain issue must be horribly stressful for you.
But all the other stuff? Your pedi is full of crap. Neither of my kids were crawling at 7mo. They were *barely* sitting. DS is my "early" crawler and he started at 8mo. DD did not crawl, scoot, or move across the room in any shape or form until 11.5mo - just 2 weeks shy of her 1 year birthday. She was a bump on a log and always was right where you left her. And there is not a blessed thing wrong with her. Oh, and she was toothless at 7mo too, got one around 8.5mo, but my friend's baby is cutting his first at 10mo. No biggie. It's all normal. My pedi said she looks for baby to have 1 tooth by the 1yr checkup.
Yes, there may be an issue with weight gain. But don't start freaking out thinking it's all related and there's some horrible issue because all that other stuff is really really normal.
while i'm not sure what to do about the weight thing, hopefully she'll just start to put on the weight?!
i agree with other posts, don't get to tied down to how old you kid "should" be when they hit those milestones. and don't let people tell you LO should be doing things. unless something is wrong, they'll do it when they're ready. my dd didn't crawl until 10 months and my ds crawled for the first time on his 1st bday. dd walked at 16 months and ds isn't walking yet. be thankful for the time you have when they're not mobile.
as for teeth, both of my kids were 11 months before getting first tooth. although they then both got a total of 6 teeth within weeks! that's the way it normally works with that sort of thing.
just be the best mom you can be and advocate for your little girl when it comes to medical care. they're only doctors and may need to hear a squeaky wheel.
I'm so sorry you're going through this! If you're truly concerned and worried about her weight gain, I recommend following up with a pediatric gastroenterologist and doing any testing they recommend. Better to get in with a specialist early on than to wait until you're in crisis mode. My older DD Sarah had a vomiting problem between 12 to 24 months and we finally went to see Dr. Bryan Vartabedian at Texas Children's. He's fantastic.
I hope your DD continues to gain weight and that this problem resolves itself. I imagine it must be so stressful to not know what's going on with her!
I wouldn't worry at all about teeth. That is not a developmental thing at all, it just happens when it happens. My DS was exactly a year when he got his first tooth. They actually say that it is good to get them later.
I think that you are right about her not meeting milestones because she doesn't weigh enough. I would still let them evaluate because it can't hurt and maybe they can offer some insight.
As for the weight gain, i'm just going to say this and you can totally ignore it. Have you tried waking her to feed her at night? I've noticed before in your posts that you have said that she sleeps long stretches at night. I know that you work and waking up a sleeping baby seems like a bad idea for both you and the baby, but when DS was first home we had to wake him to feed him and they wanted us to do that until he was at least 13 pounds. They said that it would help with his weight gain (he was a preemie) and it seemed to work. It could also be a medical thing, I just wanted to offer my advice.
Actually, it's better to get teeth later. My dentist said that kids who get teeth late have stronger teeth and are less cavity prone so she is totally doing that right!
I think you should go ahead and reschedule the barium enema and probably also get a 2nd opinion. If nothing else, it will give you some peace of mind. I can't imagine how frustrating this all is for you but you're doing everything you can and that is the most your daughter will ever ask of you.
HUGS!