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Need serious sleep help

KelleyBeanKelleyBean member
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Jack is making us crazy with the sleeping. He absolutely will not go to bed before 11-12 every night. He's fed, changed, burped and warm. We have swaddled, unswaddled, rocked, paci, swing, carrier, but him down awake but sleepy, put him down asleep,,,,,NOTHING works. He's in the rock and play wide awake right now. Shouldn't he be going to bed at 8-ish? We do a bedtime routine of bath, massage, book, bottle of BM and then turn on the lullabye music. He absolutely will not go to bed. HELP.
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Re: Need serious sleep help

  • MskharisMskharis member

    How many naps a day is he taking? I would try and drop the last one right before bed time, to see if that puts him on the schedule you want. My LO goes to bed at about 10:30, but we have late schedules so it works for us.

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  • KelleyBeanKelleyBean member
    He generally takes one in the am (maybe an hour) and one in the afternoon (generally 2 hours). He awake by 5-5:30 but will not go to bed at night. This can't be good for his development.
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  • cour10ecour10e

    What time is he waking up in the morning? I think overall hours of sleep is more important than going down at a certain time. Not all babies go to sleep at 8...ours certainly doesn't. He has his last feeding between 9 and 10:00 but doesn't fall asleep until about 11 most nights, but he STTN until 7 or 8 a.m. It works for us.

    ETA: He is still pretty young, and will likely naturally move his bedtime earlier as he gets older. We just go with the flow for now and let him do what comes natural without forcing anything, as long as he doesn't seem fussy and overtired at night.

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  • KelleyBeanKelleyBean member
    Last feeding is generally around 10pm then he gets up at 3-4am to eat and again at 7:30-8am when he eats and is up for the day.
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  • nicobean1nicobean1 member
    I think he's probably still too young for a sleep schedule, I'm afraid. Have you read Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child?
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  • roundtheworldgirlroundtheworldgirl member
    He's still pretty young for a consistent routine.  We tried and tried, but DD didn't start going down fairly regularly at the same time every night until maybe around 4 months.  Also, she refused to sleep anywhere but in bed with us until 2 months.  After that, we were able to get her into her bassinet for the first part of the night for a bit.  She didn't start sleeping the entire night alone until 3.5 months or so.  It's all normal, and it will get better.  In the meantime, enjoy the cuddles while they last!
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  • jeffraejeffrae member
    He is still super young.  Addy did not go to bed until 10 maybe at 5 months old.  She finally got down to 8 pm at 8-9 months old.
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  • SallyCampos22SallyCampos22 member
    Your LO's schedule sounds very similar to mine at 1 month and some change. He's still going to bed pretty late (got him down at 11 tonight, which is early for him believe it or not) but he does STTN til 6 or 7. What I hear is that as they get older they'll start to naturally fall back into an earlier bedtime as they drop nighttime feedings. He has seemed to drop his 4 am feeding this week, hence the STTN.
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  • BriAZBriAZ
    My DD had a 12am bedtime up till about 3 months, where she moved it back herself to 730/8pm. I wouldn't worry about it now...
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  • hopingwaitinghopingwaiting
    My LO is about the same age and has no sleep schedule.  His feeding and nap frequency and timing vary a lot day to day and sometimes all run into each other.  I think they're just too young.
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  • KelleyBeanKelleyBean member
    Thanks for talking me down ladies. It sounds like this may just be normal for now. I guess we'll just keep doing what we're doing, reading DS's cues and continue to work on getting him to sleep. DS came into bed with DH and I and finally went to bed around 1am. I'm downstairs pumping and DH is feeding him upstairs. This schedule is brutal but like everything else, he'll grow out of it I'm sure.
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  • KelleyBeanKelleyBean member

    imagenicobean1:
    I think he's probably still too young for a sleep schedule, I'm afraid. Have you read Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child?

    We have it but I haven't gotten a chance to start it yet. Sounds like I may need to open it during naptime today. 

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