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why do I do this to myself every time?!!!!

Lucky_DragonflyLucky_Dragonfly member
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I am sooo mad at myself for even being surprised or upset over the whole thing.

One of my long time friends got married over the weekend (Sunday). I was in the weddng and it was a great time. I found out that Monday morning everyone and I mean the whole group of friends got together for breakfast and no one bothered to call me. Granted MH was at work( we have the same group of friends), but I'm enemployed right now and everyone knows this so that can't be used as an excuse. And MH makes more then enough money so that is not the issue either. I always feel like I am constantly getting left out of things because I am more of a mature person then most of them since 90% of them don't have kids. I am just really getting to the point where I don't even know why I talk to any of these people anymore.Then of course being PG and hormonal I start to wonder if it is me since I am the one that is left out.  

I need new friends. Rant over..

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  • Jessica0624Jessica0624 member
    That stinks and  has happened to me as well. I dont have many friends and mostly hang with DH's friends wives. But i need to find my own and ones that are where I am in my life..
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  • Lucky_DragonflyLucky_Dragonfly member
    Ugh.. I just feel tha because I am at a different part of my life. I don't stay up to the wee hours of the night. Only 2 other firends have kids and I am the only one that is on their second. MH and I are more responsible then alot of them and I'm actually the youngest of the "group". I did meet a few local bumpies back in January, but we haven't gotten together since. And for some reason a bunch of bumpies that I wish I could get together with all live in the Dallas area. Maybe I need to move down there.
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  • bell0ninerbell0niner

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    That stinks and  has happened to me as well. I dont have many friends and mostly hang with DH's friends wives. But i need to find my own and ones that are where I am in my life..

    If you figure out how to make decent friends as an adult, let me know!  Without resorting to making friends at work, I am at a loss as to how to make new friends as a "grown up"....

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  • WannaBeCrunchyMamaWannaBeCrunchyMama member
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    I am sooo mad at myself for even being surprised or upset over the whole thing.

    One of my long time friends got married over the weekend (Sunday). I was in the weddng and it was a great time. I found out that Monday morning everyone and I mean the whole group of friends got together for breakfast and no one bothered to call me. Granted MH was at work( we have the same group of friends), but I'm enemployed right now and everyone knows this so that can't be used as an excuse. And MH makes more then enough money so that is not the issue either. I always feel like I am constantly getting left out of things because I am more of a mature person then most of them since 90% of them don't have kids. I am just really getting to the point where I don't even know why I talk to any of these people anymore.Then of course being PG and hormonal I start to wonder if it is me since I am the one that is left out.  

    I need new friends. Rant over..

    :( I'm with ya! 

    but I have no clue why my friends having been inviting me around. They all have kids, and this is our first, so I thought we'd be closer. 

    I don't know what the problem is. 

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  • WannaBeCrunchyMamaWannaBeCrunchyMama member
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    imageInLoveWithBrett:
    That stinks and  has happened to me as well. I dont have many friends and mostly hang with DH's friends wives. But i need to find my own and ones that are where I am in my life..

    If you figure out how to make decent friends as an adult, let me know!  Without resorting to making friends at work, I am at a loss as to how to make new friends as a "grown up"....

    Ya, I sure could use some help as well .

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  • TiffanyTheMomTiffanyTheMom member

    Before I got married, the woman who was part of a DH/wife team for pre-marital counseling told me when I got married, I'd find myself having morely married girlfriends- and when I have kids, I'll find myself having friends with kids also. It's not that I'm 'outgrowing' my old/ single friends, it's that my needs are changing and I will be able to relate more with people at a similar stage in life. I remember what she said to me from time to time, and she was right- my single friends couldn't relate to my marital issues because their relationships weren't permanent. And, when I started having children, I needed to be friend with women who could help me recognize what croup looks like, how to handle a busted lip, soothe a nightmare, new ideas for beads, etc...

    If you can't relate to these people anyway, then yes- start finding new friends. Not in an 'I've outgrown you' kind of way, in a 'I need to be able to relate to my friends' kind of way. Can you join a pregnancy group at your hospital for ladies due around the same time?

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  • HoolahZingerHoolahZinger member
    That's really lame that they left you out...though head up, having a child does not make you more mature than someone else
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