My husband has no filter

mesostar · October 2010

normally I appreciate this about him because I never need to wonder what he's thinking. But yesterday at the doctors office I weighed 130, which is 10 lbs from my pre-preg weight. So last night I was eating an oatmeal raisin cookie, and he was like "are you sure you want to eat that??" Trying to brush it off I just said "yep" then he proceeds to say that nobody wants to see me get unnecessarily fat. Yes, he really did. I had no response, because I really just wanted to cry. But the more I think about it, the more it really bothers me. I think we're going to have to have a talk this evening! I ran a freak marathon two weeks before I got pregnant, I still work out regularly. And even if I didn't... now is just not the time to make me feel bad about 10 lbs and a cookie. Stupid skinny husband.

Twinkz · October 2010

Indifferent

Filter what he says isn't the issue. He shouldn't be thinking things like that!! How horrible to make you feel bad for eating one cookie! And it was an oatmeal raisin, that's a healthy cookie!!

eeyoreem · October 2010

That is not nice of him to make you feel bad for gaining a little weight. Where you are in your pregnancy 10# is very normal and nothing to worry about. I would have told him to stuff it.

MrsLenau09 · October 2010

Twinkz:

Filter what he says isn't the issue. He shouldn't be thinking things like that!! How horrible to make you feel bad for eating one cookie! And it was an oatmeal raisin, that's a healthy cookie!!

lol That's what I was thinking! I made chocolate chips cookies and ate half the batch myself (DH hates chocolate). DH tries nudging me every now and then in the direction of staying healthy and exercising like I should, but he knows better than to give me crap when I don't. So sorry yours was untactful! I say talk to him about it, like you mentioned. He shouldn't make you feel that way! GL

mrswright2006 · October 2010

Wow - you were a lot more docile than I would have been. He probably would have slept in his car, if he were my husband. Then again, I am very sensitive about my weight. If you made it through half of your pregnancy, and only gained 10 pounds, that is right on track with what most doctors suggest, and deserve a cookie.

Erin2903 · October 2010

Oh no, I would be having a come to Jesus meeting with my husband if he said that to me.

I'm sorry he hurt your feelings. I think you should definitely have a talk with him tonight. There is no need for comments like that.

EMarberry · October 2010

Oatmeal cookies are practically a vitamin.... really...

and I would have seriously given him a what-for for that one. this is the 9 month period when we are allowed to eat whatever we want (obviously not the no-no's) and DH needs to learn that this is his 9months to be your indentured servant (I make sure to tell DH this at least on a weekly basis).

Tarah716 · October 2010

Wow - I have only gained 10 pounds as well and my doctor was patting me on the back saying 10 pounds in 20 weeks is PERFECT. I was strutting around after that telling everyone I've only gained 10 pounds. haha.

I would speak to him tonight, tell him:

A. 10 lbs is totally acceptable and NEEDED

B. He better not utter the words "fat" to you ever again - you're growing a child not letting yourself go for goodness sake!

RayRay007 · October 2010

Aw, that's no fun. It must have been the way he said it. MH says stuff like that all the time, but we both make fun of what/how much I'm eating and I take it in stride b/c we both know I am healthy and gaining at an appropraite rate (5 lbs in 5 wks). 10 lbs is perfectly healthy, and you are active, so maybe if he understands that, you can both poke fun and have a laugh.

MrsBeck0802 · October 2010

I would've thrown the cookie at his head for that comment and made him sleep on the couch! I applaud you for only gaining 10 pounds. And even if it was more, who cares?!? This is one time in our lives where gaining weight is totally normal and needed.

StellarStina26 · October 2010

Wow, my boyfriend would be dead meat. And now I of course want Oatmeal Raisin cookies. But, the other day I ate a bag of Cooler Ranch Doritos in two days... and he didn't say a word like a good boy.

When I was at my 14 week appt I had still been down 5 lbs from pre-pregnancy and I was yelled at to gain weight by the doctor. I am still only 2 lbs about now... but it is going up.

EAT what you want... and tell him that he can eat the healthy stuff if he has such an opinion about it.

green bean · October 2010

jeez I think I would have thrown the cookie at him as well. then probably would have stormed off the the bedroom and let dh sleep the night in the living room,. thats so mean of him. next time he is eating a treat tell him you don't want to see him get unnecessarily fat,

HoolahZinger · October 2010

A healthy amount of weight gain is necessary for the baby and you really do need to sit down and talk about this. It never helps to make a pregnant woman feel any more out of body than she already is. Sorry you had to go through that. I would have cried

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