They did it with (grandma, mother, first pregnancy) so it safe.

WannaBeCrunchyMama · October 2010

GAHHHHHH

This has to be the MOST idiotic sentence ever.

Just because your mom did something

Your sister did something.

You did something through one of your previous pregnancies.

and your baby is "perfectly fine"

DOES NOT MEAN ITS SAFE!!!!!!!!!!

It could be safe. You could have just been lucky. Or, there could be something going on deeper than what you can see.

jessibangs · October 2010

what was it?

Mrst2theB · October 2010

Is this sort of like the "I drove drunk last night and I'm OK" type thing? **SMH** My mother is the worse for saying this. The other day she admitted to something she did while pregnant with me and it aggravated me so bad!

GenaBoBenaWife · October 2010

Seriously. My mom loves to remind me that she smoked throughout all 3 of her pregnancies and we turned out fine, so that now means I can do whatever I want & my baby will be fine too? Thanks mom.

missesru · October 2010

This is the common argument for using bumpers in the baby's crib. Silly.

My MIL has also decided that "nowadays people go overboard with 'safety' for babies". Ummmmm.. what? One of her fine examples was - "we used a bassinet baby seat in the car and it wasn't even strapped in!". Right.

SarahTx5701 · October 2010

joy of being adopted! My mom has no clue...haha

I agree, it is annoying. Times change!!!

*sallymad* · October 2010

With my Grandma I would just smile, nod my head and say oh that's great. It's not worth trying to argue to her about it. But my Mom on the other hand.....

WannaBeCrunchyMama · October 2010

Mrst2theb:
Is this sort of like the "I drove drunk last night and I'm OK" type thing? **SMH** My mother is the worse for saying this. The other day she admitted to something she did while pregnant with me and it aggravated me so bad!

oh ya. That has to be the worst one I've ever hear actually.

Story time.

My uncle is a total alcohol pusher A$$ wipe.

He offers H a beer the first time they met (nice gesture right?)

H gives me a look asking if its ok.

I remind him I can't drive stick and we came in his car (bogus lie, I just didn't want him getting drunk w my Dbag uncle)

My uncle starts going off about how its one beer, he can drive fine, yadda yadda.

It pissed me off so bad I bitched him out right there

"Mike, YOU might think its cute, or funny or MANLY for my husband to drive his pregnant wife home after drinking. But I do not think its anything less than selfishly placing the ones you love him harms way. By even insinuating it might be ok makes me ashamed to even call you family right now."

This came after years of him pushing alcohol on everyone, ok mike I get it, you're an alcoholic and it makes you feel better about yourself if someone drinks with you.

I absolutely don't think its ok to drink and drive EVER, no matter how much, or little you had.

UGH. my poor H just stood in the middle with this face Indifferent

jmcdow · October 2010

If this post was geared towards our conversation about Ultrasound, I strongly suggest you go back to school before you stand on your soap box preaching about something you obviously have no education about.

violetvirgo · October 2010

it really depends on the issue, but i agree with you most of the time.

the smoking while pg and not caring about current car seat standards drive me up a fvcking wall, however i think all the food stuff and no caffeine or alcohol is under researched and docs in this country use it to cover their ass (hello, sue happy country!). i think if many of the beverage/food risks were super high we'd see statistics supporting that in other countries that consume raw fish on the regular or drink wine moderately or eat brie cheese every other meal.

blessedsunshine · October 2010

i feel ya. my mother in law is a moron. I heard THIS while pregnant with my first....and SECOND, "well i smoked through all three of my pregnancies and was around people who smoked and all my kids are fine"

uh no they're not. only my husband turned out normal!

violetvirgo · October 2010

jmcdow:
If this post was geared towards our conversation about Ultrasound, I strongly suggest you go back to school before you stand on your soap box preaching about something you obviously have no education about.

word.

kabarbanel · October 2010

violetvirgo:

it really depends on the issue, but i agree with you most of the time.

the smoking while pg and not caring about current car seat standards drive me up a fvcking wall, however i think all the food stuff and no caffeine or alcohol is under researched and docs in this country use it to cover their ass (hello, sue happy country!). i think if many of the beverage/food risks were super high we'd see statistics supporting that in other countries that consume raw fish on the regular or drink wine moderately or eat brie cheese every other meal.

This. I don't think the whole "well I did it and my baby is fine" is a valid arugment, but I do think it's ridiculous how much we worry about now.

TiffanyTheMom · October 2010

My grandmother-in-law said that to me about:

*cleaning cat litter boxes without gloves while pg

*painting with LEAD paint while pg

*lifting couches to be vacuumed under while pg

*not buckling up while pg

*not having a baby in a car seat AT ALL

The list goes on, really. I really don't know that to say to her- "My doctor told me..." doesn't cut it with her.

st.augbride · October 2010

Amen!!! This is my mom's answer to everything, and it drives me crazy!

magdalina.h · October 2010

with my first pregnancy a friend was smoking around me and said I was fine because all of her kids are fine and she smoked while pregnant. I saw her again recently and she said after what happened I'm not going anywhere near you. Her smoking and losing Aidan were months apart, but it was nice that she was a little more considerate this time.

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