Another: When you get a BFP?

ms.ashleyjean · October 2010

When are you planning on telling everyone? (Parents, g-parents, extended family and close friends) My husband and I are not on the same page with this. I am UBER impatient and will want to shout at the roof tops as soon as I POAS (which I won't of course!), but he is more methodical and well... level headed! Embarrassed

I'm interested! TIA!

Jessiree · October 2010

We made the decision that after it happens, we will not tell anyone until after the first trimester.

ginamcp · October 2010

We told our parents the next morning. We told my brother and SIL after we had our confirmation appointment at 7 weeks and I told a my bff and a few friends at work immediately. We didn't plan on telling anyone else until I hit 2nd tri. Next time we will do the same thing - I learned the hard way that untelling is very unpleasant.

nebrtwin · October 2010

If it happens before Christmas we for sure won't tell anyone until after. Haven't thought much past that, but I agree that telling people after the first trimester is a good idea.

LindsayM · October 2010

I honestly have no idea. Part of me knows that I'll have that urge to tell everyone the moment we get a BFP. But, we'll probably wait and just tell our family and really close friends at first. We don't live near any family and I want to tell me parents in person, so we'll probably wait until we go home to visit (and if we get a BFP, I'll go home that weekend, lol).

kerivp · October 2010

I think I will tell my parents pretty much right away. And try and wait until 2nd trimester for everyone else.

btsrc5 · October 2010

ideally I want to wait until after i hear the heartbeat.

ShyVi826 · October 2010

I think we will wait until the first ultrasound, to make sure everything is looking good. I know I will want to tell people sooner, but also want to be cautious in case things don't go well. My sister had a MC a couple months ago and had told a bunch of our family right away, and then had to call all of us again with the bad news. DH and I agreed at that point that we would wait much longer to tell people.

Hope2BmommyIn2011 · October 2010

We plan on waiting till the first trimester is over to tell friends and family. MIL has a very big mouth. His whole side would know by dinner. I think that I'll probably tell my sister after my first sono- we're close and I don't think I could wait that long to tell her.

Actingdiva09 · October 2010

Telling DH immediately, as well as our best friends IRL that have been praying for us throughout TTC. Family will be told after the first Dr appt (after we get the sonogram). Then work and other friends will be told after 1st tri is over!

MrsR25 · October 2010

We're not telling people until the 2nd trimester.

As someone who had an early miscarriage, don't tell people too early. We didn't thankfully. I can't even imagine how much harder it would have been if we then had to go tell people "oh... nevermind..."

BrookeBrooke85 · October 2010

I say that I will wait...but I'm a big mouth and I probably won't lol.

lmj8284 · October 2010

We'll tell our immediate family and closest friends right away. But everyone else and FB can wait until after the 1st Tri.

Ceridwen21 · October 2010

btsrc5:
ideally I want to wait until after i hear the heartbeat.

Same here. I just know that my parents and IL will start guessing the minute I turn down a glass of wine... won't be easy, but that's a problem I'm looking forward to having!

ClipperCity · October 2010

we plan to tell immediate family right away but will wait to tell everyone else until after 12 weeks. i've known too many girls who end up having a miscarriage and they regret telling everyone so soon. Sad

Telly21182 · October 2010

When we get a BFP I think we'll tell our parents pretty much right away (or relatively soon) and no one else until we make it through the first trimester.

CandacePM · October 2010

There are select friends who have been with me now in my TTC journey. They will know first. Family will have to wait until between a confirmed heartbeat and the end of the 1st tri, and then we will shout from the roof tops after that. Hope we all get to figure out how we will share our news soon! GL

bigbear · October 2010

the plan is to tell the parents pretty much right away, the rest after first tri.

good luck!

MillerMadness · October 2010

Thats hard, in my mind I would like to think we would wait until after the first tri. My job is kinda physical and I think I would have to say something to my boss, who also happens to be my dad. So of course if I told him I would have to tell my mom. It just gets messy. SO... I really don't know. I guess I will wait to see hot it goes.

Moose2000 · October 2010

If it happens before Christmas, I'd like to tell our immediate family on Christmas day (as its our first, and they don't think we want kids). The boss will find our probably between 8-12 weeks, and friends/co-workers after that.

eesome · October 2010

I'm only telling my two close friends immediately. Everyone else will not find out until after my first ultrasound (around 9 weeks).

mbritto4 · October 2010

With our first we didn't tell anyone we were TTC except some very close friends (I didn't want to hear about it all the time from the Grandparents-to-be). I told my husband that night (I tested after work), infact he got to see the stick since he was home Our parents we waited until I had the OB appointment and got everything checked out. I swore them to secrecy until I heard a heartbeat, then I let them shout it from the rooftops

With this baby we've already told the Grandparents we are TTC since my MIL planned a family vacation for February and I hoped to be pregnant by then when we started planning (back in August). I'll probably still wait to tell them until after I have my OB appointment, unless we see them and they notice I'm not having wine with dinner or something and ask. I'm planning to buy my 3 year old a "big sister" shirt and have her "tell" by e-mailing everyone a picture so they all know at the same time.

Bubs101 · October 2010

We will tell our immediate family and handful of close friends who know we're trying within the first week. Everyone else will probably find out after we see the heartbeat.

sapphirewolfkdv · October 2010

DH and I will probably tell our parents after my first appointment to confirm pregnancy. Our sensei will also know soon after that because I'll stop sparring immediately, and he'll have to know why. The rest of our family/friends won't be told until about 12 weeks, though I have a feeling it will be much easier to keep that secret from DH's family than mine. My grandma and aunt at the very least will have it figured out by 8 weeks, though I will certainly do my best to hide any symptoms from them! They're obnoxiously good at figuring stuff like that out on their own. The boss and coworkers...well we'll just see how long before the baby bump starts to become too obvious and I can no longer avoid telling!

ConfuzzledTrish · October 2010

I will tell my mom soon after I POAS. I did last time. I might tell a couple of close friends.

Everyone else can wait until 2nd tri.

gilmoregirl105 · October 2010

We'll probably tell our parents/siblings right away(or within a week of the BFP), we are really close with our family and I'd really like to have them over and announce it to everyone at the same time.

We'll wait until I'm in the second trimester to tell the rest of our family and friends and for me to tell work.

notkateanymore · October 2010

OK, no flames, but I told my mom before DH last time. LOL Oops! I had tried calling him at work and he didn't answer, so I called my mom. I'm an only child and I have a very big mouth!

Anyway, this time the order will be DH, then DD after it's confirmed by my ob, then we'll wait a couple of weeks to tell everybody else. We won't wait until I'm into the 2nd tri mainly because DD won't be able to keep the secret, but also because if anything happens, I'd like friends around for support.

mellymel12 · October 2010

We told our immed. family and a few close friends within the first few days. I had always told myself that I wouldnt tell any of my friends until the 1st tri was through...but its just too hard. You literally just want to go and scream it at the top of your lungs! The happiness is just bursting out of you

Even though we lost our baby, Im still glad we told the people we did. We've had an amazing support system these past few days, and it really helps to have people to talk to...and some of my friends totally understand because they have had a m/c as well.

Next time around I actually think we will tell the same people again right away. Extended family and friends wont know until either we hear/see the h/b or 12 weeks...if I can keep my fat mouth shut after the h/b...then it will totally be the 12 week mark.

lob · October 2010

I will tell my closest friends and immediate family after the first doctor's appointment, but wait until the end of the 1st tri. for everyone else.

brockli · October 2010

I will probably tell my sister right away. She knows we have been TTC and she has told me before her husband with both my niece and nephew. We are extremely close. Everyone else we will wait until we hear a heartbeat. I have had 2 miscarriages in the past and told people before the doctor appointment confirmed the heart beat and it was really hard to deal with.

jb2rn · October 2010

I will tell a few close friends right away (both have had m/c's before, so they would "get it" if I m/c) but our parents and others - 12 weeks.

FunNSunAZ · October 2010

kerivp:
I think I will tell my parents pretty much right away. And try and wait until 2nd trimester for everyone else.

This is how we plan to do it.

buttercup1221 · October 2010

When I finally get that BFP, I'll immediately send a picture text to my best friend (even before I tell DH) because I work with her and it is impossible for either of us to keep anything from each other and I'll wait for DH to get home before I spill the news to him so we can celebrate together.

As far as the rest of our family/friends goes we'll wait until the 2nd tri to say anything even though we'll want to shout it from the rooftops.

ms.ashleyjean · October 2010

Sorry! I didn't mean to post and run! My computer isn't working. So.. I still think family and BFF will know as soon as I POAS. The rest, as long as I can... Which I presume won't last long!

csolosky · October 2010

Well the husband gets to know first. Next probably my closest friends & sister as they will be the best support if we were to lose a child. We have this crazy idea of an ultrasound picture made to look like a snow storm as Christmas cards to announce it to the rest of the fam.

As for work, I think it would be really funny to not mention it for a really long time, even after I'm obviously showing. If someone asks, I'd tell them I've let myself go and keep casually denying it if asked until about the 3rd trimester. I know that's not too realistic, but it would be pretty funny.

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