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madelyn07
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NIFR: My in-laws
madelyn07
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They informed us last night they are thinking about coming down to Auburn for Christmas.
This is the first year DH and I are not going home (Minnesota/Iowa) for the Holidays and we were really looking forward to it. Normally when we go home it is just so super stressful...trying to get everywhere to see everyone, spend equal time with my family and his family, trying to please everyone, dealing with the crappy winter weather/roads. So we just said enough is enough and we staying home this year. No one has ever seemed the least bit interested in coming south for Christmas so we assumed this year would be the same. We were thinking of taking a cruise but because we don't know which bowl game AU will go to, we don't want to book a cruise and then risk missing the game. So we've talked about going down to the beach for a few days over the break, spending lots of time together, creating our own holiday tradtions.
MIL called last night and said even though they were just here for Labor Day (and couldn't afford to come down then, even though they did) they want to come down for Christmas. Now my two week vacation just went from super fun and relaxing to stressful. They are just so hard to be around, especially FIL. He makes everyone uncomfortable and every situation tense. To top it all off, he just got fired from his job last week so he'll be even more difficult to be around than normal. MIL even said "We flat out can't afford to come down but we are still planning on it...since we reaaaaaaaaaaaaaally want to see you guys."
UGH!
TTC #1 since June 2008 *SAIFW*
TI, IUIs, IVF = c/ps and BFNs
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Re: NIFR: My in-laws
Dx -Ute cancer, DOR from cancer treatments, and embryo quality issues. NOV 2010 CANCER FREE
2005-2011= 3 Rounds of Clomid, 5 IUI's, 3 IVF's- ALL BFN's
After 7yrs TTC, 5yrs of ute cancer, and 11 failed IF treatments, we got a surprise BFP! So thankful!
Gemma Grace born 09/30/12
Phillipians 4:6,7
He said he is going to try but I don't want him to come right out and say that we want to spend the holidays alone..they won't see it as us needing time alone, they'll just take it as us not liking them and not wanting to be with them. And then my MIL, who is infamous for holding grudges, will always hold it against us [me].
TI, IUIs, IVF = c/ps and BFNs
can you say you already got cruise tickets or booked stay at hotel or something?
Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles, It empties today of its strength. ~Corrie ten Boom
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow. ~Mary Anne Radmacher (thank you beadinglady)
It's been a long journey. TTC since 9/06. multiple IUI's and IVF's and 4 m/c's. IVF#3 = BFP, twins, induced at 34w6d due to baby b passing away (no explanation). Delivered on 35w1d, Baby A - baby girl, and Baby B - baby boy, our little angel.
MTHFR A1298C & C677T, Immune Issues and Factor II
Nope, they are sneaky like that. MIL asked if we had booked our cruise yet and DH said we decided not to do the cruise because of the bowl game and then she said "So you'll be spending Christmas at home?" and he said "Yes" and she said "Good because are planning on coming down!"
yea...she's fun...
TI, IUIs, IVF = c/ps and BFNs
Ugh ! super sneaky!
Can you say that you're sorry for not mentioning it, but you were looking at that time/potential cruise/trip as a second honeymoon and that though you'd love to spend the holidays with them, that a gathering in the new year would work better for you?
Maybe they'll see that traveling off season will be better for their pocketbooks, plus it's less stressful. Plus they get to see you. Plus you get your alone time. Plus you don't get your own parents upset for leaving them out of your holiday.
sneaky little witch
sorry cutie
Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles, It empties today of its strength. ~Corrie ten Boom
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow. ~Mary Anne Radmacher (thank you beadinglady)
It's been a long journey. TTC since 9/06. multiple IUI's and IVF's and 4 m/c's. IVF#3 = BFP, twins, induced at 34w6d due to baby b passing away (no explanation). Delivered on 35w1d, Baby A - baby girl, and Baby B - baby boy, our little angel.
MTHFR A1298C & C677T, Immune Issues and Factor II
Ugh - so annoying. My MIL is like that too. We almost came to blows when she tried to hijack my wedding! After waiting until 36 to get married for the first time, NOBODY was going to hijack my wedding. Fortunately she is a snow bird and only down here half the year so two days after the weeding she was gone and just cme back this week (joy!)
Maybe you should tell them that you and DH are trying to make a baby and plan to be F-ing the whole time. That would shut them up! I never say things like that - but I sooooo want to all the time! Good luck with it. Sounds like yu may be stuck!
Ooh! Maybe you SHOULD fly up to see them b/c then you coudl control how much time you are there - go for 2 days and then fly to the ebach or something!
History of IF and 2.5 years TTC. The day we were to start our first IUI we received a call that changed our lives forever and 10 month old Olivia joined our family. Shortly thereafter we got a surprise BFP and baby 2 is due July 5, 2012