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TTC, UTI, Frustration, a little ebarassement :)
OK,
How do I put this....
My DH and are have an amazing, loving relationship and never had any intimacy problems. But lately, I sometimes almost dread the time when we have to get it on b/c it takes him so long. It's never shorter than 45 minutes! And don't get me wrong, it's awesome most of the time, but sometimes it's just too much. Like yesterday - 2 hours!!!! And now I have a UTI.
I of course never talk to him about it right before, during or right after the action but I did mention it to him a couple of times, that it just takes too long and what we can do to speed things up a bit. During the week it gets to be really "annoying" too since I then only get 4-5 hours of sleep lol
I love him, and it's awesome that he can go longer, but a quickie would be really nice, too at times. Any tips?? I've tried ALOT of things. We ended up with a toy for me to keep me going longer, not quite what I had in mind but I'm not complaining either haha 
Oh and I'm sure this has been asked before, but should I put off any "action" until I feel better? This is my firtile week though, so I don't want to miss out. Should I just go for it??? 
TIA and sorry for TMI and the rambling...
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Re: TTC, UTI, Frustration, a little ebarassement :)
Honestly your chances of conceiving while having a UTI are pretty low. Your uterus would be a pretty hostile environment for sperm and probably be on extra defense to fight off germs. Plus you'd put yourself at risk of it getting worse which can do a lot of harm.
As far as speeding things up, you should talk to him about it. Ask him what YOU can do to help him along. And maybe you should add in something like a hand job or oral so its less intercourse time. But if you do oral you'd have to clean off all the spit before having sex since you are TTC.
Oscar born October 2011
Miscarriage at 8 weeks (August 2013)
DD due September 1, 2014
Wow, 2 hours! I can understand why you are frustrated.
If you suspect you have a UTI, see a doc ASAP to get some antibiotics. If you don't, you could end up with a kidney infection. I've had one, and that was seriously the most sick I have ever been.
You can still have sex if you want, if it's your fertile week. Docs may not recommend it, but if it were me, I probably would, assuming I was taking antibiotics at the same time to clear up the infection. It might be uncomfortable a bit, but if you can tolerate it, go for it.
Also try drinking tons of water and cranberry juice.
Thanks ladies! Yeah, that's what I was afraid of. I will have to take a break until I feel better...
And we do a lot of foreplay, hand, oral etc, but still, sometimes I almost have the feeling like he just wants to keep going. So another convo will have to take place. I certainly don't want to make him feel uncomfortable or insecure as that can only make things worse. But we do have to figure something out. If I'm often in pain b/c of it or have UTIs then we do have to figure something out....
Thanks again for your imput!! Always appreciated
Actually cranberry juice can do more harm them good. Its packed with so much sugar. Go for cranberry pills/vitamins.
Intercourse was about 1.5 hrs this time.
Thanks! Yeah it gets a bit much HAHA
I do have UTIs every so often and yes, I've had a kidney infection once as well and that is NO fun at all.
I'll just stop by the clinic after work today, and hopefully that will take care of it quickly. I really don't want to miss out on TTC this week.
Thats why communication is key. I've known guys that THINK women want long sex, so they make themselves last longer.
Question though, are you having O's long before he finishes? Dh can make himself last long enough for me to O, but once that is gone he just wants to go himself! lol.
God bless you! I couldn't go longer than .5 hour, never mind 3x that! I would definitely reinforce with him that you love how passionate he is about being passionate, but each time it needn't be a marathon. Tell him you want him to save those 1.5 hour sessions for the weekends when you can spend all morning in bed and really enjoy e/o or a weekend getaway or something, so they're more special. But for regular run of the mill weeknight bump and grinding... you'd like to switch things up a bit and change the timing.
Well, you're definitely burning lots of calories
Good for you!
Definitely recommend the cranberry pills! I have a problem with UTIs too and cranberry pills are an absolute godsend. I take two every morning and then another two before we DTD. Also drinking a lot of water and peeing after sex can help prevent UTIs as well.
I agree! Or he may be focusing so much on getting there, that he gets too stressed out or something. Like I said we got a little toy for me so I can keep going so I O like 3-4 times!
And that is also not good when TTC b/c you start producing more stuff that makes it that much harder to concieve....
Well at least I can't complain that he's too quick and I'm left out
I'm getting the pills today! Thanks so much!
LOL it's not easy but yes, at least its a great workout!!
Oh really? Hm... well my period is never late (except last month so I got my hopes up UGH lol) but It could still be that the ovulation and everything gets a bit out of whack... Thanks for letting me know!