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Leaving DS for four days- and freaking out about it.

ejgballerinaejgballerina member
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In college, I lived with seven other girls who are seriously the greatest friends ever.  We made a pact to get together once a year at the very least.  Well, we all live all over, so while I usually see most of them once a year, one or two are usually missing. A few months ago, we realized that everyone could get away this weekend in October without kids or husbands and have our first girls only weekend since college, so we booked it.  I leave on Thursday early morning and come back Monday early morning.  Now that it's here, I'm freaking out.  I don't know what I was thinking when I planned this.  The longest I've been away from Jude is 12 hours once or twice.  I really don't think I can do this.  I just feel like a crappy, selfish mom for going through with the trip- especially because I work fulltime outside the home anyways.  It doesn't help that I was just talking to my coworker about it and she said "I don't know how you're able to do it.  My kid is four and I have a really hard time leaving her for one night and have only done it a couple times."  Awesome.  I want to cancel my trip.  Crying

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  • MonkeysGirl05MonkeysGirl05

    You are NOT selfish. Your guilt alone tells me you aren't selfish.  :)

    I have to travel some for work, so I've already spent a few nights away from DS. It isn't easy at first, but it gets easier. You will probably have a great time! It will be a good bonding time for for your DH and DS.

    GO and don't feel bad.

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  • mrsolsenk12mrsolsenk12
    Don't cancel your trip. It will be hard to be away from him but you will regret NOT going on your trip if you stay home. You will think about him and miss him but I am sure you will have a great time with your college friends. You will be a well rested and happier mommy when you get back.
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  • PhillySuePhillySue
    You are not selfish and yes you can do it. I was stressed the 2 times I left Katie over night but everything ended up totally fine (I also work FT outside). Jude will be 100% OK without mommy for a few days.  You totally deserve a girls weekend and it is good for both you and Jude.  That is annoying of your co-worker to stress you out like that right before your trip.  Go enjoy yourself!!!!!!
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  • MouseygailMouseygail member
    imagemrsolsenk12:
    Don't cancel your trip. It will be hard to be away from him but you will regret NOT going on your trip if you stay home. You will think about him and miss him but I am sure you will have a great time with your college friends. You will be a well rested and happier mommy when you get back.
      This!!!  You are NOT selfish!!  You are a wonderful mom and Jude is a very lucky little man!  you are going to dread it until you get there, and then you are going to have a good time adn come home feeling refreshed and so blessed to have such a great family to come home to.  ((((HUGS)))))
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  • BoxTerBoxTer
    Wow, your coworker would have a field day with me. DH and I were away from N for a week when she was 11 months old and then another week earlier this year just before she turned two, and we just got back from five days away for our anniversary. We've also been on shorter trips too. AND I work, too. Do NOT feel bad about going. Your son will be fine and you will come back refreshed and energized. Have a great time!
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