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Aimlc1281
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MIL strikes again (sorry for the rant!)
Aimlc1281
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On Friday I wrote about how MIL bought a bunch of groceries for us and I couldn't help but feel like she was trying to comment on our food choices for LO.
On Saturday she watched DS. I pre-made his bottles with the correct ratios of BM and whole milk since we're attempting to wean him. So what happens? She decided she didn't like the ratio and gave him more BM which kinda defeats the purpose when you're trying to wean! That night she had a talk with DH about why I would be mad at her for such a thing...gee let's think about that one.
Then, just to show how passive aggressive she is, she came to watch DS today who is home sick. She brought breakfast for herself and DH but nothing for me. I guess I forgot I'M the one in the wrong here! GRRRR....
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Re: MIL strikes again (sorry for the rant!)
I wouldn't let her watch your kid if she can't respect your parenting decisions. That's ridiculous.
Emeline 5.28.13
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Post-Baby PRs
Esri 5K 7.16.2014 - 21:30
Heart Half Marathon 3.16.2014 - 1:43:30
Canton City Marathon 9.8.14 - 3:30:56
Ditto! And if she is bringing breakfast for everyone but you that is just plain rude. Does your DH see this? Will he talk to her?
this!
also, I wouldn't feel the need to explain to her the milk to BM ratio. Just tell her the bottles are fixed and leave it at that.
I am really interested to hear what your H said when she brought breakfast for the two of them but not you.
You are going to have serious problems going forward if you and H are not on the same page. Are you on the same page? And if not what are you and he willing to do to get there?
Completely agree!
I couldn't agree more. I've had similar issues with my MIL in regards to what we feed DS. When I take the time to select food for him and package it up and send it along for you to feed him while you are watching him then that's what I want him to eat. She likes to feel that she has the right to choose what he eats. This is fine as long as she checks with me first, but sometimes she doesn't and that's when I get angry.
A few weeks ago she watched him while I went to a funeral. I had to meet her out to pick him up. His cup of milk was not with him and his cup of watered down juice had not been touched. He hadn't had anything to drink in the 3 hours that she had him. When I asked about the full cup of juice she responded "we tried to give him sprite, but he made a face at it and wouldn't drink it" No S%&t! What in the world would make you think that he needs to drink soft drinks when I don't even really like him having juice????
Rant away. I'm sure we've all been there.
DH is all about excuses. Maybe she forgot that you'd be home when she got there since the schedule is newer (up until recently I would have been gone but not for the past 3 weeks). DH says I shouldn't put him in the middle of me vs her. I tell him he needs to stick up for me and support the decisions WE make as parents. He just isn't seeing it...
No way, that's not right at all. It's not a "him being in the middle" issue, it's about him laying down the ground rules with his mother and standing up for you (your family unit) as a united front. TOTAL BS. Tell him to grow a pair.
Emeline 5.28.13
My Blog
Post-Baby PRs
Esri 5K 7.16.2014 - 21:30
Heart Half Marathon 3.16.2014 - 1:43:30
Canton City Marathon 9.8.14 - 3:30:56
Well said. If she had just forgotten you'd be there, wouldn't that be something that would have come out of her mouth as soon as she saw you along with an apology for not bringing you anything?!
The way I see it, once you're married, there is no choice. DH is my No. 1 priority. Thankfully my parents are respectful and kind to him, but if they weren't, it would be my responsibility to deal with that because he is my partner and my family and he comes first.
It's not a matter of you making your husband choose. In my mind, he made his choice when he married you. As long as you're being reasonable, which I think you are, he needs to step up and stand up for his wife and his family. He should not be putting his wife in a position to have to confront his mother. That is his job. Just like it would be your job to deal with your parents if the situation were reversed.
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