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mrs.littlejeans
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Help! Need Encouragement...
mrs.littlejeans
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Please tell me that someone else has experienced this!
Although E's behavior hadn't been perfect the past few months, it's become worse since we brought the baby home from the NICU a week ago. She's very contrary, does things she knows she's not supposed to do purposely, doesn't listen to us, whines & yells, etc. I've definitely noticed that her behavior is worse with me.
I also spoke to one of her daycare teachers this morning and she also said that E's had a big change in her behavior recently. It has made me so sad. Ugh...I want my sweet girl back!
I guess the bright side is that she's been very sweet with the baby.
Has anyone else experienced this with their first child? How did you handle things? How long did it last?
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Re: Help! Need Encouragement...
because Marion has just turned two, we're not dealing with this as much. But, she definitely has her moments for sure, especially when I'm BFing Eliza Jane.
I just try as much as possible to put Eliza down when she's sleeping and spend as much time one on one with Marion.
I've also gotten into the (bad?) habit of having something new for her every few days, particularly new books. Our worst time of day is from 3 - 6 when she's home from school but Josh isn't home yet. Having something new helps to keep her occupied and in a slightly better mood.
Also, I don't know if Esme still takes a nap or not, but there have been times when I've just had to tell Marion if her behavior doesn't improve, she has to take a nap. She doesn't always sleep, but has quiet time for 30 minutes and comes out in a better mood.
Lastly, as much as we can, we stay outside. Being outside improves her mood by 100%
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We didn't have it at first...it's hit more recently and with a vengeance.
I've had to distance myself from Juliet and just focus on Amelia a few times a day. We do puzzles together, build block towers, sing songs, look for toys on the computer (crazy girl loves Amazon), watch little videos of cats and stuff on youtube together, bath time, etc. I am working harder to give her my affection and let the baby cry a bit and sit by herself longer.
By doing this I've given Amelia more confidence and she's doing more things by herself, insisting that she can do them (ie: going potty by herself, picking clothes, getting dressed). It's almost reverse psychology with her...the more I give her the more she wants to do things on her own.
I know it's rough, but do what you can when you have help/your hubby around to spend time with Miss E. I know it's tough, hugs to you!
Oh yes we did. O had a very, very hard time with the new addition. He reverted back to a lot of his old behaviors. He would hit and bite and fight me. He would beg me not to feed C. He would purposely act out while she was crying to see if I would do anything. Everything was a battle. Ugh, it was bad.
We just went with it. If he hit he sat in time out. He wanted me to do everything for him again, I'm sure as a way to get my attention, so I did. We did a lot of hugging and reassuring and we did our best to keep his schedule the same. We still went to swimming and the park and all the other activities we used to do.
It just took time. After a few months, C was less demanding of my time and he got used to her being around. Now they are best buddies and he loves her very much. Hang in there. This is the hardest time.
In addition to what everyone else said...she will be 3 in just a couple of months, right? That is prime time for the change from easygoing to rebellious. The change at home might have acted as a catalyst for it, but I truly believe that it would have happened regardless. That's usual 3-year old behavior, and that's about the time Hannah started to get difficult. I thought I would get lucky because she never seemed to really hit that "terrible 2" stage, but at around 2 1/2, she became just how you described Esme's behavior. She's still my sweet girl--she just has a mind of her own now.