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I am an awful person

Today, my mom texted me that my cousin and his wife are pregnant. I immediately started to cry.  Then she texts, "they are saying it happened their wedding night." (They got married in August).  I just want to say fvck it.  It's the first time I have felt so ANGRY about it. and I know its unreasonable but man am I p!ssed.

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  • I'm sorry. I hate feeling that way. 

    Big hugs. 

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  • Big (((hugs))).

    I felt the same way when we got the text from DH's cousin a few weeks ago. I got my second BFP on the day of their wedding, so it was even more of a blow. I literally felt like my heart was breaking when I heard they were pg.

    It's so unfair.

  • (((hugs))) I would feel the same way.

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  • I'm sorry. You're not an awful person, you've just been through an awful thing. You're an awesome person!
  • (((hugs)))  You are not an awful person at all.  Those feelings are totally normal, all things considered. 
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  • you are not awful for feeling that way {{{HUGS}}}}
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  • I'm sorry.  You are not a terrible person at all - I have felt the same way.  It's just so hard.  ((hugs))
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  • You are not an awful person.  That is a completely natural feeling.  Big hugs to you.

    And to be honest, I find it a little odd when people feel the need to tell people about when it was they conceived. 

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  • I'm sorry. That's rough. ((hugs))

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  • Thanks everyone, I had a really rough day yesterday
  • it's very tough.  i find myself becoming more and more upset w/ each of my friends pregnancy announcements.  i wish it wasn't like this.
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  • You're only awful if totally normal and human is awful. ((hugs))
  • There is no need whatsoever to share the fact that you conceived on your wedding night, unless you're bragging about it. Period.

    They suck. You don't. 

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  • That doesn't make you awful, it makes you human. I completely understand those feelings (((HUGS)))
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  • I feel the same way.
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  • ((hugs)) so sorry, each time it stinks (was trying to type stings, but they both work).  I'm kinda a little greatful each time now that I find out vitrually-- it give a little cushion so I can have my feelings without the BFP being all excited in my face with their "what about you?"  ?s.  I bet your mom was trying to give you the heads up she figured you'd need. 
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  • I'm so sorry, and no, you are not an awful person.

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