how would you feel if MIL took LO for their first haircut w/o your permission?

Jessalicious01 · October 2010

I am so freaking mad right now I can't sleep! I want to kill her for taking that 1st/mother-daughter thing away from me. I don't know where she thinks she gets the right to do something like that without asking me.

craziheazo · October 2010

There would be lots of yelling. She overstepped her bounds... big time. I would be super mad too. What does your DH think?

Jessalicious01 · October 2010

craziheazo:
There would be lots of yelling. She overstepped her bounds... big time. I would be super mad too. What does your DH think?

He actually does not know yet, he's away for an Army thing right now. I'm sure he would just brush it off and say it's not a big deal.

stephanier1126 · October 2010

i would totally FLIP. that is so not cool and overstepping boundaries for sure IMO.

12bailey18 · October 2010

I would be soooooo mad!! As a mother, she should know better. What did you say to her? I would definitely speak my mind about that. I wouldn't even acknowledge that "1st haircut" in the baby book, scrapbook, etc. The only one that would go down in my books would be the one where *I* was there seeing it and taking pics. I'd be livid.

Abinormal · October 2010

I would be very upset and so would my husband. Tegan has a lot of hair and I've been wanting to get it trimmed for awhile, but DH wants to wait till she's a year old, since that's the tradition in his family. I've thought about taking her on my own and having it cut, but I know it'd really upset him to miss out on the first haircut. I can't even imagine my reaction if someone else took her without my permission.

Sassystace · October 2010

I'd be REALLY mad too. Totally out otf line.

Tonya_G · October 2010

That would really piss me off. I waited forever for DS's first hair cut, b/c he had the absolutely cutest little curls, and I knew when I cut them, they'd be gone forever. If someone would have gone ahead and cut them without my permission... it would have been on. I would be giving MIL some harsh words. She'd probably cry. And I wouldn't feel even the slightest bit guilty about it.

mariahcohen · October 2010

No judge would convit me for what I would do if that happend here!!! I have been putting off cutting LOs hair so daddy could come with. My MIL always askes when it is getting cut and I tell her when I am ready! UGH!!!!

I am so sorry that you are going through this! What a thing to miss! I would be furious! I hope you let her have it!!

simplyatomic · October 2010

mariahcohen:
No judge would convit me for what I would do if that happend here!!!

This. I don't think my relationship with my mil would survive.

jdp · October 2010

Mad, mad, and more mad!!!

heather121709 · October 2010

Why are MILs so obsessed with cutting OUR LOs hair, mind your own damn business! LOL I'm sorry she did that to you, you haveevery right to be livid with her.

Sizzline · October 2010

I would be pissed. I know it's just hair, but that is something that I personally feel is reserved for the parents.

jessicaclare · October 2010

I'd be pissed if someone took either of my DD's for a haircut without my permission (but more pissed for the first one). You don't take a kid to get her hair cut without her mother's permission. WAY overstepping boundaries.

mrs.dovey · October 2010

Seeing post like this make me exceptionaly glad that we have almost *like 90%* cut MIL out of our lives. She is certifably crazy and after the *** she said to me during our pg. Dh is about done with her.

*I had a loss in 2004 before I met DH. Her words when finding out about this pg. was "It doesn't matter, it won't live anyway* and later when we found out gender said, "Good, she can take down that OTHER picture" I carried my first son almost full term and had ONE picture in the house, in MY room. It is now in the living room!!

LuckyBride06 · October 2010

I'd be SO MAD!! It's ridiculous that she actually thought that that was ok. First haircuts are a big deal!

umgrl · October 2010

Sorry! I'd be pissed. I get upset when my FIL just jokes about cutting DS's curls. Every time the come to visit (which is once a month), he'll say "Oh I forgot my clippers again." I usually come back with, "No way are we cutting those curls anytime soon." Even when he didn't really have any hair FIL would say we needed to brush it. What is their obsession with the hair?

Kasia&Mike · October 2010

I would be pissed of too! It seems that a lot of MIL's are overstepping their boundaries these days.

Jessalicious01 · October 2010

I talked to DH and of course he doesn't think it's a big deal, he never does. We were so busy yesterday with her first birthday party that I didn't really notice it until she woke up in the middle of the night last night. They are at church now, so I can't really call her and yell at her yet. She told me she took DD with her to the salon when she took her mother in to get her hair done. She just let out the part about how she decided to get DD a little trim too. Obviously she knew she was wrong or she wouldn't have omitted those details.

She watches DD on the nights both me and DH are working. She begged me to keep her until Saturday since she doesn't see her all that much. Well that's the LAST time! Next thing I know she'll come back with her ears pierced!!

This is not the first time she's done things like this. Just another example is when she decided to give DD some dairy products (like cheese and regular yogurt) a while back, even though I would send along baby food and tell her what to feed her. I specifically said "NO DAIRY, NO CITRUS FRUITS, NO HONEY, NO EGGS, and NO PEANUT BUTTER" multiple times, I'd told her that. Yet she decides it's ok to do whatever she wants because she raised 3 kids and that's what she did 20-30 yrs ago. The woman is out of control and this is the last straw!

epphd · October 2010

Usually I find things like this to be no big deal, but honestly, I would be hurt, angry, upset... all of the above. I would feel cheated. I would feel like that was a memory stolen from me. I would have no qualms about going off on my MIL for a transgression like that.

She deserves to be told how hurt you are - turn it around on her. She had HER time to have HER baby's first haircut and she stole yours. How is that even kind of sort of OK????

Regarding dairy though - that IS no big deal. Yogurt and hard cheeses are totally fine starting at 6-8 months since they are lactose free. What most people agree is that cow's milk itself (which is high in lactose) is better left to 12months plus. DS has been getting yogurt for months and now also gets cubes of cheddar or spoonfuls of ricotta.

Still -the fact that she won't respect your wishes IS exasperating - I'm sorry.

Joey-Roo · October 2010

I would knock the b!tch out. I am not kidding.

juliane2004 · October 2010

AHHH! I'd be mad if it was my mom, I'd be pissed if it was MIL.

kreeper611 · October 2010

epphd:

She deserves to be told how hurt you are - turn it around on her. She had HER time to have HER baby's first haircut and she stole yours. How is that even kind of sort of OK????

This exactly.

JLGY · October 2010

I'd be pissed for sure. It's not even the fact that it's her first haircut, I'd be livid if MIL took DD for a haircut at any age without running it past me first (and I would say NO if she did ask). Not even close to okay. I would be saying something... I'd be nice, but very firm about it.

erinb31 · October 2010

I would be absolutely livid. I'm so sorry that happened!!! But listen, just focus on all the beautiful firsts you do have with your baby. And honestly, just pretend her next hair cut is her first-- it'll be her first with you and that is what matters. Also, definitely set some better boundaries with your MIL!!!!

SpartanGirl · October 2010

I would seriously FLIP out.

creativejuices · October 2010

Oh he!! no! My face just got beet red for you.

sorry...

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