It's 2am and for the third time this week I am up sitting in the glider holding DS while he sleeps. Every time I put him down he screams. I am exhausted. Like to the point of tears exhausted. Between working 10 hour days and getting no rest at home, I have hit breaking point. I am not sure I could do this all over again... Have another baby I mean. I love being a mom so much, but going at this nigh time stuff alone is really starting to get to me. I never wanted C to be an only child, but maybe it's what's best for all of us. Admitting that makes me really sad
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Re: DS may end up being an only child after all
*hugs*
I am in the same boat.
*passes DEE some PB&J*
Oh I SO understand your frustration. I've always wanted to have a big family, and tonight after waking up for the 3rd time in 2 hours, I started to reconsider. lol
Don't be sad though. It's not like you're making a concrete decision right now and you're gonna send DH to get a vasectomy tomorrow. You have time to really consider your options.
This is the point in my evening where I just pull DD in bed with us. This is where I feel I am failing her as a parent.
I should be able to tough it out and get her to sleep in her crib all night, but I get tired and I'm over-it. She has been in bed since 7:30 tonight and up every hour on the hour since. I haven't slept more than 4 hours in a row in 8 months.
Ayyyand, she's up. I'm out.
Dee- this made me giggle.
**hugs**
It is sucky! I have to admit that since I hurt my ankle and can't walk, DH has been forced to step it up. I have to take off my walking boot in order to sleep, so DH has to get up and get the baby and put her back in bed. He know has a better understanding for what I have been going through.
Can you fake a fall? Seriously, this has been a life saver. If it wasn't for the excruciating pain it would be totally worth a trip down the stairs on my @ss every couple of months.
I hope she goes to bed and you get 12 uninterrupted hours of sleep.
I could have written this myself when my son was about 8 months old. He was having a horrible time sleeping and was waking up all the time. I was getting no sleep. Here we are 18 months later and I am now sitting up with his little sister
We made our decision to have another child because of the joy and love DS brought us(he still brings it too
). Some people really do need time to decide if 2nd child is in the cards for them. I hope you come to a solid decision soon.
I hear you.
DD is up with a teething fever. She's playing with mail on the floor. I tried to get her to go to sleep and then gave up. H is asleep, as usual. I just keep telling me that this too shall pass (and that I'll miss it when it's gone. Not the sleep deprivation, but this age. And even the nighttime cuddles that H misses out on).
Hope you get some rest soon!
This is going to sound sanctimonious, but it's not intended that way.
Stuff like this is exactly why we made the conscious decision to bed-share all night, every night. Momma likes to sleep and baby likes to sleep when he's cuddled with momma (or, right now, with daddy while mommy pumps) and I'm too much of a fan of sleep to get him into his crib. Lazy? Hells, yes. But usually well-rested.
I'm so sorry you guys are having sleep issues. It won't always be this bad, though, and baby number two could be a completely different sleeper.
DS had a party night last night, complete with mommy feeling hungover this morning, DH got up this morning and said "oh, I didn't even hear anything." Of course not, because I was the one up with him for 2 hours.
*hugs*
My two angels
I agree.
DD was doing well for awhile, but then it got worse and worse. As much as I love sleeping with her, she would need me there all night and I couldn't go to bed at 7 pm with her. Add the fact that she is a short napper, and I was going crazy.
I'm not working, so I felt like I should just put up with it, but DH reasoned with me.
Last night was night 3, but from the 1st night I was able to put her down after her night feeding and she stayed asleep. It was glorious. And she's SO much happier during the day.
ETA: I've also read that the sleep they get while being held is a lighter sleep and is not as quality as when they're on their own.
BFP(4) DD2 born 2.14.13 @ 35w5d due to pPROM
I'm sorry Dee. Hopefully you've gotten more sleep since writing this
I have certainly been there (awake all night because C won't sleep anywhere but in my lap) and it's not a fun place. And I'm sure I'll be there again, because he will get more teeth, or get sick, etc. I try to tell myself that he will not be this age forever and I will sleep again! lol. Also I try and tell myself that he will one day be too big to fit in my lap, nor will he want to and I will miss those nights. Sounds crazy, but that's how I get through. And so will you!
Ditto, us too! Only took one night. It was amazing.
I'm so glad others are going thru this! Obviously not truly happy you are losing sleep but good to know my DS is like others! I was beginning to think that I was just stuck with the crappy sleeper. All of my mommy friends had babies that slept perfectly and have had no one to turn to about the things I could do or try. The only thing that is working for us right now is when I get to that breaking point I just bring DS in bed with me. It's a happier night and next day for everyone!
I just keep telling myself that I am not going to have a 3 year old that gets up every hour...at least I hope not!
Hope you get some sleep soon!