Quit your biitching

picklesx · October 2010

Dear Facebook friend,

Your pregnancy status updates annoy the crap out of me. You had to drink the drink for the gestational diabetes test and it tasted gross? Poor you. Have doctor appointments every 2 weeks because you're 30 something weeks along? Your life is so hard. You put on weight during your pregnancy? How sad. Can't go on any of the rides at the amusement park you went to? What a shame.

I'm sorry that your pregnancy has inconvenienced your life so much, but before you type out all of your annoying complaints about how much you can't wait for your 9 months to be up, take a minute to think that a lot of women would kill to be able to experience these terrible "inconveniences".

Here's to you quitting your biitching and counting your blessings.

Thanks,

pickles.

kjgilhoo · October 2010

The title of this post reminds me of Will on Fresh Prince of Bell-Air. "Quit yer biitchen, just quit yer biitchen". Oh how I wish I could say this to so many people!

Sorry about your facebook friend. I feel for ya. It's awful when pregnant women complain about it. I had a friend who is 34 weeks now (who knows we are TTC) ask me if I wanted to trade backs with her one day because hers hurt so much. I looked at her and just said "I wish". She shut-up pretty quick.

greenbean79 · October 2010

Hahahahah - good one. Ya my BP raises slightly when I read FB status like that. Especially those of us who are TTC and would gladly go to Drs. appointments and have stay off amusement parks rides ...and many other things if it means having a baby.

At least this experience might make us more grateful and more tolerant of such things once we do conceive. At this point, I would welcome morning sickness!

LJR 84 · October 2010

Why don't you delete her as a friend?

faydre · October 2010

I get it, I do. I mean.. the twinges of jealousy, and the moments of feeling angry that other people are complaining about what you would love to have happen, can be rough sometimes. But, I hope you are also taking time to celebrate their joys, and to be happy in and of yourself.

Also, If that bothers you so much... How do you make it through a week here on the bump with the daily drive-by bfp's, the same 10 questions being asked 20 times a day, and the ridiculous overposted cycle/testing updates? ((ie.. I"m gonna test, i tested, i'm not sure what it says, i'm testing again, i think it's positive, it's positive, i re-tested and it's a bfp!)

Not trying to be mean or anything, just my opinion.

picklesx · October 2010

kjgilhoo:
The title of this post reminds me of Will on Fresh Prince of Bell-Air. "Quit yer biitchen, just quit yer biitchen". Oh how I wish I could say this to so many people!
Sorry about your facebook friend. I feel for ya. It's awful when pregnant women complain about it. I had a friend who is 34 weeks now (who knows we are TTC) ask me if I wanted to trade backs with her one day because hers hurt so much. I looked at her and just said "I wish". She shut-up pretty quick.

Just because I love Fresh Prince of Bel Air & you mentioned it..

picklesx · October 2010

LJR 84:
Why don't you delete her as a friend?

Stupid as it sounds, that never crossed my mind. I haven't spoken to her IRL since high school anyway. A nice facepalm for myself there.

picklesx · October 2010

faydre:
I get it, I do. I mean.. the twinges of jealousy, and the moments of feeling angry that other people are complaining about what you would love to have happen, can be rough sometimes. But, I hope you are also taking time to celebrate their joys, and to be happy in and of yourself.

Also, If that bothers you so much... How do you make it through a week here on the bump with the daily drive-by bfp's, the same 10 questions being asked 20 times a day, and the ridiculous overposted cycle/testing updates? ((ie.. I"m gonna test, i tested, i'm not sure what it says, i'm testing again, i think it's positive, it's positive, i re-tested and it's a bfp!)

Not trying to be mean or anything, just my opinion.

I am happy for her, because she did experience a few miscarriages prior to this pregnancy. However, it's just annoying that every single status update (daily) is a complaint about her pregnancy.

In regard to the posts on here...I pick & choose which posts I read.

But as a previous poster suggested & I stupidly never thought to do, I removed her from my friends list.

cantalopes24 · October 2010

faydre:
I get it, I do. I mean.. the twinges of jealousy, and the moments of feeling angry that other people are complaining about what you would love to have happen, can be rough sometimes. But, I hope you are also taking time to celebrate their joys, and to be happy in and of yourself.

Also, If that bothers you so much... How do you make it through a week here on the bump with the daily drive-by bfp's, the same 10 questions being asked 20 times a day, and the ridiculous overposted cycle/testing updates? ((ie.. I"m gonna test, i tested, i'm not sure what it says, i'm testing again, i think it's positive, it's positive, i re-tested and it's a bfp!)

Not trying to be mean or anything, just my opinion.

This, also I am saying right here right now I will give anyone on this board $100 if they can prove they went an entire pregnancy without ever complaining about 1 pregnancy related thing.

soontobemrsdavis · October 2010

Some people are just very negative and like to complain a lot. Most likely her other posts pre-pregnancy were complaints to, but they just never hit home as much as these. I have deleted or blocked updates from many people on FB that just seem to be debbie downers all the time. I rather see the "I just used the bathroom" posts than "uuugggghh traffic/school/boyfriend/friends/work sucks, fml" every day.

LJR 84 · October 2010

cantalopes24:
faydre:

I get it, I do. I mean.. the twinges of jealousy, and the moments of feeling angry that other people are complaining about what you would love to have happen, can be rough sometimes. But, I hope you are also taking time to celebrate their joys, and to be happy in and of yourself.

Also, If that bothers you so much... How do you make it through a week here on the bump with the daily drive-by bfp's, the same 10 questions being asked 20 times a day, and the ridiculous overposted cycle/testing updates? ((ie.. I"m gonna test, i tested, i'm not sure what it says, i'm testing again, i think it's positive, it's positive, i re-tested and it's a bfp!)

Not trying to be mean or anything, just my opinion.

This, also I am saying right here right now I will give anyone on this board $100 if they can prove they went an entire pregnancy without ever complaining about 1 pregnancy related thing.

VERY true. As happy as I was to be pregnant, there was still lots of complaining! Not necessarily IRL as much as on the boards, though. However, not once did I b!tch and complain on fb. That's just obnoxious in my opinion. Those people irritate me. I have MANY friends that b!tch day in and out on fb...I've deleted quite a few. Works wonders!

youngin12 · October 2010

cantalopes24:
faydre:
I get it, I do. I mean.. the twinges of jealousy, and the moments of feeling angry that other people are complaining about what you would love to have happen, can be rough sometimes. But, I hope you are also taking time to celebrate their joys, and to be happy in and of yourself.

Also, If that bothers you so much... How do you make it through a week here on the bump with the daily drive-by bfp's, the same 10 questions being asked 20 times a day, and the ridiculous overposted cycle/testing updates? ((ie.. I"m gonna test, i tested, i'm not sure what it says, i'm testing again, i think it's positive, it's positive, i re-tested and it's a bfp!)

Not trying to be mean or anything, just my opinion.
This, also I am saying right here right now I will give anyone on this board $100 if they can prove they went an entire pregnancy without ever complaining about 1 pregnancy related thing.

I've never complained before because I've never been pregnant. Does that count? Can I have the $100 pretty, pretty please with sugar on top?

kjgilhoo · October 2010

You're right, people do complain and that's fine. But complaining to a good friend while being sensitive about it and blasting on FB are two different things. If anything, TTC has taught me to be sensitive in how I'm talking to people. Will I complain to friends who have LO's or to my SO, yeah probably a bit. Will I complain to friends who I know are TTC or over FB, highly doubt it.

picklesx · October 2010

LJR 84:
cantalopes24:
faydre:

I get it, I do. I mean.. the twinges of jealousy, and the moments of feeling angry that other people are complaining about what you would love to have happen, can be rough sometimes. But, I hope you are also taking time to celebrate their joys, and to be happy in and of yourself.

Also, If that bothers you so much... How do you make it through a week here on the bump with the daily drive-by bfp's, the same 10 questions being asked 20 times a day, and the ridiculous overposted cycle/testing updates? ((ie.. I"m gonna test, i tested, i'm not sure what it says, i'm testing again, i think it's positive, it's positive, i re-tested and it's a bfp!)

Not trying to be mean or anything, just my opinion.

This, also I am saying right here right now I will give anyone on this board $100 if they can prove they went an entire pregnancy without ever complaining about 1 pregnancy related thing.

VERY true. As happy as I was to be pregnant, there was still lots of complaining! Not necessarily IRL as much as on the boards, though. However, not once did I b!tch and complain on fb. That's just obnoxious in my opinion. Those people irritate me. I have MANY friends that b!tch day in and out on fb...I've deleted quite a few. Works wonders!

I don't doubt that when I am pregnant I will inevitably complain about some things, however, I agree that posting it on FB is just obnoxious, especially when almost every single status is a pregnancy complaint.

Oh well, I went through and deleted a handful...never realized how much complaining they actually did until my most recent news feed didn't include them and there were no "FML FML FML"s all over the place! Yay!

picklesx · October 2010

kjgilhoo:
You're right, people do complain and that's fine. But complaining to a good friend while being sensitive about it and blasting on FB are two different things. If anything, TTC has taught me to be sensitive in how I'm talking to people. Will I complain to friends who have LO's or to my SO, yeah probably a bit. Will I complain to friends who I know are TTC or over FB, highly doubt it.

This. Well said.

cantalopes24 · October 2010

youngin12:
cantalopes24:
faydre:
I get it, I do. I mean.. the twinges of jealousy, and the moments of feeling angry that other people are complaining about what you would love to have happen, can be rough sometimes. But, I hope you are also taking time to celebrate their joys, and to be happy in and of yourself.

Also, If that bothers you so much... How do you make it through a week here on the bump with the daily drive-by bfp's, the same 10 questions being asked 20 times a day, and the ridiculous overposted cycle/testing updates? ((ie.. I"m gonna test, i tested, i'm not sure what it says, i'm testing again, i think it's positive, it's positive, i re-tested and it's a bfp!)

Not trying to be mean or anything, just my opinion.
This, also I am saying right here right now I will give anyone on this board $100 if they can prove they went an entire pregnancy without ever complaining about 1 pregnancy related thing.
I've never complained before because I've never been pregnant. Does that count? Can I have the $100 pretty, pretty please with sugar on top?

Hmmm, have you ever had a really annoying/pregnant friend or coworker? I think not complaining about how annoying someone you see all the time who is pregnant counts too. That is also hard to do!

maybebride · October 2010

cantalopes24:
faydre:

I get it, I do. I mean.. the twinges of jealousy, and the moments of feeling angry that other people are complaining about what you would love to have happen, can be rough sometimes. But, I hope you are also taking time to celebrate their joys, and to be happy in and of yourself.

Also, If that bothers you so much... How do you make it through a week here on the bump with the daily drive-by bfp's, the same 10 questions being asked 20 times a day, and the ridiculous overposted cycle/testing updates? ((ie.. I"m gonna test, i tested, i'm not sure what it says, i'm testing again, i think it's positive, it's positive, i re-tested and it's a bfp!)

Not trying to be mean or anything, just my opinion.

This, also I am saying right here right now I will give anyone on this board $100 if they can prove they went an entire pregnancy without ever complaining about 1 pregnancy related thing.

Yes Yes

youngin12 · October 2010

cantalopes24:
youngin12:
cantalopes24:
faydre:
I get it, I do. I mean.. the twinges of jealousy, and the moments of feeling angry that other people are complaining about what you would love to have happen, can be rough sometimes. But, I hope you are also taking time to celebrate their joys, and to be happy in and of yourself.

Also, If that bothers you so much... How do you make it through a week here on the bump with the daily drive-by bfp's, the same 10 questions being asked 20 times a day, and the ridiculous overposted cycle/testing updates? ((ie.. I"m gonna test, i tested, i'm not sure what it says, i'm testing again, i think it's positive, it's positive, i re-tested and it's a bfp!)

Not trying to be mean or anything, just my opinion.
This, also I am saying right here right now I will give anyone on this board $100 if they can prove they went an entire pregnancy without ever complaining about 1 pregnancy related thing.
I've never complained before because I've never been pregnant. Does that count? Can I have the $100 pretty, pretty please with sugar on top?
Hmmm, have you ever had a really annoying/pregnant friend or coworker? I think not complaining about how annoying someone you see all the time who is pregnant counts too. That is also hard to do!

Oddly, I've never had a pregnant coworker and won't anytime in the next few years.

You are right though, sometimes it's hard not to complain about a pregnant friend who is constantly complaining about her pregnancy.

Guess I don't get the $100. Boo!

notkateanymore · October 2010

cantalopes24:
faydre:
I get it, I do. I mean.. the twinges of jealousy, and the moments of feeling angry that other people are complaining about what you would love to have happen, can be rough sometimes. But, I hope you are also taking time to celebrate their joys, and to be happy in and of yourself.
Also, If that bothers you so much... How do you make it through a week here on the bump with the daily drive-by bfp's, the same 10 questions being asked 20 times a day, and the ridiculous overposted cycle/testing updates? ((ie.. I"m gonna test, i tested, i'm not sure what it says, i'm testing again, i think it's positive, it's positive, i re-tested and it's a bfp!)
Not trying to be mean or anything, just my opinion.
This, also I am saying right here right now I will give anyone on this board $100 if they can prove they went an entire pregnancy without ever complaining about 1 pregnancy related thing.

Exactly. And if somebody was posting how great their pregnancy was all the time, people would just start to complain that they were bragging, being a AW.

soontobemrsdavis · October 2010

KateMW:
cantalopes24:
faydre:
I get it, I do. I mean.. the twinges of jealousy, and the moments of feeling angry that other people are complaining about what you would love to have happen, can be rough sometimes. But, I hope you are also taking time to celebrate their joys, and to be happy in and of yourself.
Also, If that bothers you so much... How do you make it through a week here on the bump with the daily drive-by bfp's, the same 10 questions being asked 20 times a day, and the ridiculous overposted cycle/testing updates? ((ie.. I"m gonna test, i tested, i'm not sure what it says, i'm testing again, i think it's positive, it's positive, i re-tested and it's a bfp!)
Not trying to be mean or anything, just my opinion.
This, also I am saying right here right now I will give anyone on this board $100 if they can prove they went an entire pregnancy without ever complaining about 1 pregnancy related thing.
Exactly. And if somebody was posting how great their pregnancy was all the time, people would just start to complain that they were bragging, being a AW.

LOL. I was thinking that too. So pretty much when it comes to pregnancy just don't post anything on FB or keep it simple, 3 posts per* pregnancy: 1. We are having a baby. 2. It's a Boy/Girl. 3. Awwww the baby is here! The end!

cantalopes24 · October 2010

soontobemrsdavis:
KateMW:
cantalopes24:
faydre:
I get it, I do. I mean.. the twinges of jealousy, and the moments of feeling angry that other people are complaining about what you would love to have happen, can be rough sometimes. But, I hope you are also taking time to celebrate their joys, and to be happy in and of yourself.
Also, If that bothers you so much... How do you make it through a week here on the bump with the daily drive-by bfp's, the same 10 questions being asked 20 times a day, and the ridiculous overposted cycle/testing updates? ((ie.. I"m gonna test, i tested, i'm not sure what it says, i'm testing again, i think it's positive, it's positive, i re-tested and it's a bfp!)
Not trying to be mean or anything, just my opinion.
This, also I am saying right here right now I will give anyone on this board $100 if they can prove they went an entire pregnancy without ever complaining about 1 pregnancy related thing.
Exactly. And if somebody was posting how great their pregnancy was all the time, people would just start to complain that they were bragging, being a AW.
LOL. I was thinking that too. So pretty much when it comes to pregnancy just don't post anything on FB or keep it simple 3 posts pre pregnancy: 1. We are having a baby. 2. It's a Boy/Girl. 3. Awwww the baby is here! The end!

Meh, thats what the "hide" feature is for. Although I did not once post anything pregnancy related on FB and posted my u/s AFTER E was born, so I personally did not do this, I just don't think people should have to censor themselves on their own personal website others are choosing to read, which in reality is what FB is. Thats like saying people can't complain or say great things about their pregnancy on their blog, or about their marriage bc they might have friends who are sad they are getting a divorce or unmarried, or their house bc they have friends who can't get a loan.

soontobemrsdavis · October 2010

cantalopes24:
soontobemrsdavis:
KateMW:
cantalopes24:
faydre:
I get it, I do. I mean.. the twinges of jealousy, and the moments of feeling angry that other people are complaining about what you would love to have happen, can be rough sometimes. But, I hope you are also taking time to celebrate their joys, and to be happy in and of yourself.
Also, If that bothers you so much... How do you make it through a week here on the bump with the daily drive-by bfp's, the same 10 questions being asked 20 times a day, and the ridiculous overposted cycle/testing updates? ((ie.. I"m gonna test, i tested, i'm not sure what it says, i'm testing again, i think it's positive, it's positive, i re-tested and it's a bfp!)
Not trying to be mean or anything, just my opinion.
This, also I am saying right here right now I will give anyone on this board $100 if they can prove they went an entire pregnancy without ever complaining about 1 pregnancy related thing.
Exactly. And if somebody was posting how great their pregnancy was all the time, people would just start to complain that they were bragging, being a AW.
LOL. I was thinking that too. So pretty much when it comes to pregnancy just don't post anything on FB or keep it simple 3 posts pre pregnancy: 1. We are having a baby. 2. It's a Boy/Girl. 3. Awwww the baby is here! The end!
Meh, thats what the "hide" feature is for. Although I did not once post anything pregnancy related on FB and posted my u/s AFTER E was born, so I personally did not do this, I just don't think people should have to censor themselves on their own personal website others are choosing to read, which in reality is what FB is. Thats like saying people can't complain or say great things about their pregnancy on their blog, or about their marriage bc they might have friends who are sad they are getting a divorce or unmarried, or their house bc they have friends who can't get a loan.

Oh I agree with you. I was saying that more as a joke. Because the pp said you can't complain and you can't be happy so essentially people are only "allowed" to post what I wrote in fear of offending or annoying others.

I personally do not care what others post. And if I am bothered by people I hide them. It truly is a great feature on FB.

notkateanymore · October 2010

cantalopes24:
soontobemrsdavis:
KateMW:
cantalopes24:
faydre:
I get it, I do. I mean.. the twinges of jealousy, and the moments of feeling angry that other people are complaining about what you would love to have happen, can be rough sometimes. But, I hope you are also taking time to celebrate their joys, and to be happy in and of yourself.
Also, If that bothers you so much... How do you make it through a week here on the bump with the daily drive-by bfp's, the same 10 questions being asked 20 times a day, and the ridiculous overposted cycle/testing updates? ((ie.. I"m gonna test, i tested, i'm not sure what it says, i'm testing again, i think it's positive, it's positive, i re-tested and it's a bfp!)
Not trying to be mean or anything, just my opinion.
This, also I am saying right here right now I will give anyone on this board $100 if they can prove they went an entire pregnancy without ever complaining about 1 pregnancy related thing.
Exactly. And if somebody was posting how great their pregnancy was all the time, people would just start to complain that they were bragging, being a AW.
LOL. I was thinking that too. So pretty much when it comes to pregnancy just don't post anything on FB or keep it simple 3 posts pre pregnancy: 1. We are having a baby. 2. It's a Boy/Girl. 3. Awwww the baby is here! The end!
Meh, thats what the "hide" feature is for. Although I did not once post anything pregnancy related on FB and posted my u/s AFTER E was born, so I personally did not do this, I just don't think people should have to censor themselves on their own personal website others are choosing to read, which in reality is what FB is. Thats like saying people can't complain or say great things about their pregnancy on their blog, or about their marriage bc they might have friends who are sad they are getting a divorce or unmarried, or their house bc they have friends who can't get a loan.

I agree with you. I'm only friends with people I want to be friends with and who would want to know about my pregnancy. I don't have friends from HS or other times of my life that I don't keep up with. I'll ignore a person like nobody's business. I wouldn't post all my complaints, but I wouldn't hesitate to post something. Of course, I'm one of the last of my friends that is considering kids, so they're probably all laughing at my madness anyway. I have a couple of FB friends who are pregnant right now and I've never once thought anything about them posting something about it. It's fun, since it's friends that I don't live close to and won't get to see pregnant.

maybebride · October 2010

youngin12:
cantalopes24:
youngin12:
cantalopes24:
faydre:

I get it, I do. I mean.. the twinges of jealousy, and the moments of feeling angry that other people are complaining about what you would love to have happen, can be rough sometimes. But, I hope you are also taking time to celebrate their joys, and to be happy in and of yourself.

Also, If that bothers you so much... How do you make it through a week here on the bump with the daily drive-by bfp's, the same 10 questions being asked 20 times a day, and the ridiculous overposted cycle/testing updates? ((ie.. I"m gonna test, i tested, i'm not sure what it says, i'm testing again, i think it's positive, it's positive, i re-tested and it's a bfp!)

Not trying to be mean or anything, just my opinion.

This, also I am saying right here right now I will give anyone on this board $100 if they can prove they went an entire pregnancy without ever complaining about 1 pregnancy related thing.

I've never complained before because I've never been pregnant. Does that count? Can I have the $100 pretty, pretty please with sugar on top?

Hmmm, have you ever had a really annoying/pregnant friend or coworker? I think not complaining about how annoying someone you see all the time who is pregnant counts too. That is also hard to do!

Oddly, I've never had a pregnant coworker and won't anytime in the next few years.

You are right though, sometimes it's hard not to complain about a pregnant friend who is constantly complaining about her pregnancy.

Guess I don't get the $100. Boo!

Oooh! Oooh! Can I play?

When my co-workers were pregnant last year/earlier this year, I would actually give them reasons to complain. Tell them why it was okay to go ahead and complain about their backs hurting or feet swelling or being tired. Of course, these girls also happen to be two of my closest friends, so maybe that's why.

Do I win?

cantalopes24 · October 2010

maybebride:
youngin12:
cantalopes24:
youngin12:
cantalopes24:
faydre:

I get it, I do. I mean.. the twinges of jealousy, and the moments of feeling angry that other people are complaining about what you would love to have happen, can be rough sometimes. But, I hope you are also taking time to celebrate their joys, and to be happy in and of yourself.

Also, If that bothers you so much... How do you make it through a week here on the bump with the daily drive-by bfp's, the same 10 questions being asked 20 times a day, and the ridiculous overposted cycle/testing updates? ((ie.. I"m gonna test, i tested, i'm not sure what it says, i'm testing again, i think it's positive, it's positive, i re-tested and it's a bfp!)

Not trying to be mean or anything, just my opinion.

This, also I am saying right here right now I will give anyone on this board $100 if they can prove they went an entire pregnancy without ever complaining about 1 pregnancy related thing.

I've never complained before because I've never been pregnant. Does that count? Can I have the $100 pretty, pretty please with sugar on top?

Hmmm, have you ever had a really annoying/pregnant friend or coworker? I think not complaining about how annoying someone you see all the time who is pregnant counts too. That is also hard to do!

Oddly, I've never had a pregnant coworker and won't anytime in the next few years.

You are right though, sometimes it's hard not to complain about a pregnant friend who is constantly complaining about her pregnancy.

Guess I don't get the $100. Boo!

Oooh! Oooh! Can I play?

When my co-workers were pregnant last year/earlier this year, I would actually give them reasons to complain. Tell them why it was okay to go ahead and complain about their backs hurting or feet swelling or being tired. Of course, these girls also happen to be two of my closest friends, so maybe that's why.

Do I win?

Bhahahha, you would have gotten double if you would have gotten them to admit to "greatest story of peeing your pants". That is always my favorite game to play with preggos!

DaniSev · October 2010

Here are my unsolicited thoughts on the whole facebook/complaining deal:

Most likely, this only bothers you because you are currently TTC. I'm sure you wouldn't give a second look to status updates like that prior to TTC.

Also, if this is someone you don't really talk to IRL, chances are, she doesn't know that you are TTC. And even so, it is quite common to have your moments of complaints while you are pregnant. I can guarantee that it doesn't mean she doesn't appreciate her unborn child or how lucky she is to be pregnant. But sciatic pain, morning sickness, water retention, etc. aren't pleasant things to experience.

It's her facebook page so she can post whatever status updates she's chooses. You are the one who is sensitive about the topic, so it's your choice to either remove her from your friend list or hide her from your news feed.

Can you imagine if we had to think of how any and all status updates might make others feel? You can't vent about your job because it might make any friends who are unemployed feel a certain way. You can't complain you have a stomachache from eating too much ice cream because it might offend your lactose intolerant friends.

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