Plans for older children during labor?

Ladydianna · October 2010

I'm interested to see what you plan on doing with your older ones. Will DH stay with you in the hospital? Or go home? If he stays who will take care of your little one(s)?

I think DD will stay with my Mom while we are in the hospital, and DH will stay with me and the baby. But if I end up w/ a csec again I don't know that I want her to stay at my mom's for 4 days (she'll be at the hospital with us during the day.) I'm just trying to come up with a (tentative) plan for March!

chicsub · October 2010

I'll have my mom come down (she lives 2 hrs away) and stay with DS. Hoping to VBAC, but last time I had him on a Saturday morning and left Monday morning, so it wasn't too long of a stay. I figure he'll stay at our house so he can come and visit us in the hospital and somewhat keep to his regular schedule with classes/playdates/etc. We shall see how it actually plays out!

Spin313 · October 2010

It really depends on the time of day that I go into labor. If it's at night, then I would call my mom or dad to come to the house and stay with DS. If it's during the day, he would come to the hospital. I plan to pack a small tote for him with some books, crayons, and a travel size magna doodle. I imagine that at some point, DH would either take him home or take him to stay at my mom's house (she lives close to the hospital and has a crib at her house). We'll have to work out a tentative plan with my parents when the date gets closer.

Brittanie_1987 · October 2010

Our whole family practically comes to the hopsital so DH will hang with him while I'm in labor (although they won't be in the room while I'm pushing!).

After that, DH will stay with me and the LO and DS will stay with my in-laws until we come home. They live closest to us and work from home.

mrswright2006 · October 2010

If LO comes in the middle of the night, my parents will come to our house, and sleep in our spare bedroom. If it is during the day, my dad will take her (he is a farmer, so he is able to do his thing with DD along for the ride), and then when my mom gets off work, my dad will drop DD off at my parent's house. DD will stay with my parents at their house until we get home from the hospital, and probably get to stop in at the hospital several times to see LO.

stacylu · October 2010

Tenative plans are for DD to go to a friend's house (we've started a list already of friends) while my mom travels to our house (2.5hr drive). My mom will watch her while we're at the hospital and DH will probably go back and forth but spend the night with me and baby 2.

secondtimemommy31810 · October 2010

My MIL is a source of conflict in our house and made a scene at the hospital when DD was born. So DD will go and stay with her while I am in labor- DD loves her and this will keep her out of my hair,lol. After the baby is born and we are settled DD will come visit us and her new sister and DH will take will go home with her to sleep so she won't be away from home the entire time I am in the hospital.

Ladydianna · October 2010

secondtimemommy31810:
After the baby is born and we are settled DD will come visit us and her new sister and DH will take will go home with her to sleep so she won't be away from home the entire time I am in the hospital.

This is my conflict. Does Dh stay with me and the new baby or take dd home to sleep in her own bed?

secondtimemommy31810 · October 2010

DD is three so DH will go home with her after labor is over so she can sleep in her own bed. She is really big on her routine and I want her to feel secure keep things as normal as possible for when the LO comes. Plus DD being home with her dad at night will give me time to rest and bond with the new baby.

on_the_move · October 2010

I am so concerned about this! We just moved to a new area and aren't near any family or friends. We are trying to make friends at church fast, but they don't even know that I am pregnant yet! My MIL got to the hospital before DS was even born so I am sure she will get to be with DS within the day, but it is the inbetween time I am worried about.

kbergo · October 2010

Ladydianna:

secondtimemommy31810:
After the baby is born and we are settled DD will come visit us and her new sister and DH will take will go home with her to sleep so she won't be away from home the entire time I am in the hospital.

This is my conflict. Does Dh stay with me and the new baby or take dd home to sleep in her own bed?

My son is 2, and sleeps from 7:30pm-7:30am. My mom will stay at my house while Im in the hospital, and I think DH will take DS home, put him to bed, and then come back to the hospital. It is very feasable that he could also come home in the morning to shower and try to plan it so that he is there when DS wakes up. That way DS will still have his own bed, his own routine, and even have daddy there to put him to sleep, but I will still get help in the middle of the night. Im hoping for a VBAC, but if I have another csection, I know I needed dh's help with each nursing the first few days.

We have no friends or family in the area, though, so Im totally stressed about what we will do if I go into labor in the middle of the night. It will take 4 hours for my mom to get here. I have considered asking a coworker to be 'on call', but Im so worried that it will scare DS if he wakes up in the morning to a complete stranger! I have been there every morning of his entire life; this is going to be strange no matter what, but I would prefer it at least be my mom, who he knows and loves, or DH there with him.

JLW10 · October 2010

DH will stay with me and DD will stay with my mom.

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