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Follow up to my T&P request re: breast cancer awareness...

Winter*MommyWinter*Mommy
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https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/43866154.aspx 

Thanks for all of your sentiments, everyone.  DH took the kids this morning - the first time I've asked him to take them to school in 2.5 years... he has a long commute, so taking them sets his work day back by about 2 hours.  I was so thankful.  I was also glad I didn't go because one of DD's friends gave her a pink bracelet she made and that would have started the waterworks.  I did pick them up though, but that's totally different from drop off.  The two kindergarten classes were wearing pink ribbons that one of the room moms had made but other than that, it was just a sea of pink-clad kids, teachers, moms and stay at home dads.  

Thankfully, none of my friends asked why I didn't drop them off - they said "We missed seeing you this morning - figured you were either in labor or taking it easy."  I said I wish I'd been doing both, actually!  :)

Thanks again for the T&P and for letting me get my emotions out.   

Also - I AM planning to send something to the headmaster... just that I think there are other ways to recognize Breast Cancer Awareness Month that are more beneficial rather than making it seem like a party to a bunch of kids.  Survivors definitely should be celebrating their lives... but there is an entire other population of people that have lost their lives or someone close to them, and to us - it isn't a celebration.  Some ideas I'll include are to put a flier in the kids folders, have a coffee/light brunch symposium with a representative from a local imaging center, send a reminder e-mail to schedule a mammogram/annual, just have the teachers wear pink, etc.

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Re: Follow up to my T&P request re: breast cancer awareness...

  • sinisterkat01sinisterkat01

    (((HUGS))) again.

    You have a very interesting perspective, and I hadn't thought of how some of the events lately seem more "celebratory".  I don't have any personal experience with the issue, thank god, so it is interesting to hear your POV.  I think that you should definitely write your letter.

    Glad that your DH could help you out this AM.

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  • Amanda78Amanda78 member
    Big hugs to you.  I'm glad you're going to address this with the school. I'm glad your DH took care of you and your kids this morning.
    BFP 4/23/09. D&E 7/17/09 16W5D. BFP #2 3/10/10. EDD 11/15/10 Babycakes was born 11/5/10! Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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  • TravelinMamaTravelinMama member

    I'm so sorry you feel this way.

    I really think you're taking the "wearing pink" in much the wrong way. I think for them wearing pink is the same as wearing Red for our troops on Friday's (we do this all over military bases in Canada) or wearing a poppy on Remembrance Day, etc.. It's not a celebration but rather a reminder.

    ::big hugs:: 

    Marie, wife to Ron, mom to DS
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  • Winter*MommyWinter*Mommy
    imageMarieGranados:

    I'm so sorry you feel this way.

    I really think you're taking the "wearing pink" in much the wrong way. I think for them wearing pink is the same as wearing Red for our troops on Friday's (we do this all over military bases in Canada) or wearing a poppy on Remembrance Day, etc.. It's not a celebration but rather a reminder.

    ::big hugs:: 

    I'm okay with wearing pink - I will wear it when I do a 5k or anything in honor of my mom.  I think that, in general, "breast cancer awareness" has become a cool thing to be a part in and thus, people try to jump on the bandwagon and glamourize it.  I am 100% about the AWARENESS of it, but not what it has become.  Of all people, those of us that have battled or have lost someone to the battle completely understand the importance of reminding people to get mammograms, set up an annual appointment, etc... but I think having a bunch of 1.5 - 5 year olds walking around in pink isn't the way to go about reminding people.  I highly doubt that any mother or father at the school felt educated or encouraged today to call and set up an appointment.  That is the purpose of Breast Cancer Awareness month - but too many people and organizations now are using it as an excuse to throw a big party, have a band or "fun run" and are completely missing the point and I was really upset to see that that mindset is filtering into my kids PRESCHOOL.  I love that y'all wear red on Fridays in honor and remembrance of the troops - but I am certain that if it ever becomes a "party" like breast cancer awareness month has become, people would not be happy - I personally would be appalled.  

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  • TravelinMamaTravelinMama member
    imageWinter*Mommy:
    imageMarieGranados:

    I'm so sorry you feel this way.

    I really think you're taking the "wearing pink" in much the wrong way. I think for them wearing pink is the same as wearing Red for our troops on Friday's (we do this all over military bases in Canada) or wearing a poppy on Remembrance Day, etc.. It's not a celebration but rather a reminder.

    ::big hugs:: 

    I'm okay with wearing pink - I will wear it when I do a 5k or anything in honor of my mom.  I think that, in general, "breast cancer awareness" has become a cool thing to be a part in and thus, people try to jump on the bandwagon and glamourize it.  I am 100% about the AWARENESS of it, but not what it has become.  Of all people, those of us that have battled or have lost someone to the battle completely understand the importance of reminding people to get mammograms, set up an annual appointment, etc... but I think having a bunch of 1.5 - 5 year olds walking around in pink isn't the way to go about reminding people.  I highly doubt that any mother or father at the school felt educated or encouraged today to call and set up an appointment.  That is the purpose of Breast Cancer Awareness month - but too many people and organizations now are using it as an excuse to throw a big party, have a band or "fun run" and are completely missing the point and I was really upset to see that that mindset is filtering into my kids PRESCHOOL.  I love that y'all wear red on Fridays in honor and remembrance of the troops - but I am certain that if it ever becomes a "party" like breast cancer awareness month has become, people would not be happy - I personally would be appalled.  

    Yes I can certainly see your point that lately it has become the "in" thing to do. I definitely see a lot more "awareness" around it than before. 

    Marie, wife to Ron, mom to DS
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