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XP: DH and PPD

shaadishaadi
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Maybe I am over-sensitive, but my DH does not seem supportive in these difficult times when I am trying to adjust to a new life with toddler+baby+house+job. He really does not seem concerned about the fact that I am stressed out and crying all the time. Maybe he got used to me crying all the time? It hurts me seeing that while I am struggling feeding my 1 mo old baby and I have tears streaming down my eyes, he sits there watching tv. That's when I wonder "why did I get into this situation?"

I am curious to know how your DH reacts to your baby blues (possible PPD?).

TIA
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Re: XP: DH and PPD

  • ImChrisBrideImChrisBride member

    DH did not get it.  At. all.  Until I had a "breakdown" of sorts.  When he realized that I WAS trying to snap out of it, and that I literally could NOT snap out of it (oh yeah, then I had a psychotic episode...), only then did he look at me and say, "I think you need to get some help."  Once he heard from me that my therapist really did diagnose me with PPD/PPA/PPOCD, he started to understand that it was a real illness over which I had very little control, and i needed treatment.

    He's been very understanding and supportive ever since.  But it definitely took a diagnosis and some research into the facts in order for him to "get" it.  Good luck with your DH!  it will get better.  He just needs to be educated about the fact that you can't just snap out of this.  

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  • SaraMaeHeinickSaraMaeHeinick

    I made my DH come to a counseling session with me. Yeah, he felt really bad about telling me to "just get over it."

    He cried that day.

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  • robbie3982robbie3982 member
    DH tried to be supportive, but just did not understand how serious the situation was.  I don't think either of us really did until I went to see a therapist (he came to my first appointment).  It took me having a breakdown at home for me to get there though (DH had to make the call).
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  • Mrs.EisensmithMrs.Eisensmith

    DH had some mild depression when he was in college.  He got past it without too much trouble and a bit of counseling, and has never quite grasped that I can't do the same. 

    I've have anxiety and severe depression since I was a kid, and have been on antidepressants since I was 16.  He's tried to make me feel like I'm a bit of a failure because I can't just feel happy all the time.  He's slightly better about it now, but he still thinks that I use medication as a "crutch," and I need to work to get over depression like he did<.<

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