trying to have a baby

Re: trying to have a baby

• meltoine member

  October 2010

  Hi and welcome. Glad you are healthy again.

  I understand your fears. DH was told, after he sustained a combat injury, that it would be very difficult if not impossible for him to have children. We got pregnant after being married for about 6 weeks. It can happen.

   Just out of curiosity, why on earth are you trying for a baby while he's in basic? Yes, it will be loads easier when you get to his station because you'll actually see each other, for one. 

  When are you getting married?

  And FYI: fiancee = female. fiance = male.  

  
  

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• Smudges*Mom member

  October 2010

  I'm sorry to hear about your experience with cervical cancer. Did your doctor talk to you about your fertility post treatment? Have you gotten the all clear to try? I understand your concern and rush to procreate, but if you can put the breaks on things for a bit, I would. When do you plan to get married? Settling into married life and military life can be quite an adjustment. Plus, after basic, your FI will have AIT, and, in many cases, the family/loved ones do not go with the service member to that post. Then, there is always the chance that your FI's new unit could deploy. Are you two prepared to be apart of part of the pregnancy, birth and or months of the baby's life. My DH missed half of my pregnancy, the birth and the first 9 months of our LO's life--but, we'd been trying for nearly two years, married for two plus years, I was 37 years old and, we had to do IVF. Let me tell you, if I had been eve two years younger, we would have likely waited.
  
  Again, I do understand why you feel a sense of urgency, but, IMO, there are too many other things for you get under control before getting pregnant. Moving as a military spouse can be challenging. If you move with him and you are not yet married, it can be even more challenging (though, often, this is a better option if the only reason you are getting married is to be in the same area). I don't mean to be s downer, but as a mom who was apart from her DH for 14 months. . . I share what I do from my personal experiences. Best of luck.

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• SoftSpot member

  October 2010

  I'm also curious as to how you are actively trying while he is in basic. Take the pp's advice and wait. Get settled into this life for a bit, find out if he will be deployed in the near future and then talk about babies. There will be a lot of adjustments coming up and a pregnancy could make things a lot harder.

  

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• Green*Flamingo member

  October 2010

  Trying to get pregnant after Basic training will be incredibly easier- namely because you can see each other and actually have sex.

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• JoBieger05

  October 2010

  Green*Flamingo:

  Trying to get pregnant after Basic training will be incredibly easier- namely because you can see each other and actually have sex.

  This. It's kind of hard to have a baby when you aren't actually together. 
  

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• danamh83

  October 2010

  Did you have a LEEP?  If so, make sure your doc has approved your TTC plans and also express concerns with him.  I had a LEEP after an abnormal pap and my doc made us wait 6 months before TTC.

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