who's with me? last woman standing...

kthappy76 · October 2010

This weekend/last night I learned that the last two of my roommates (from my college and roommate days) are both now pg. Not a big surprise, since I'm 34. I'm very happy for them, but then they both felt the need to go into great depth complaining to me about what it means for them (their careers, lifestyles), and they know exactly what we've been/are going through. Nice.

I think they thought we were just commiserating about our situations together, but as you can imagine I have a hard time feeling very bad for them, as they just seem like they aren't mentally prepared for even minimal change/sacrifice for whatever reason.

I'm starting to think there should be a mandatory waiting period for getting pg, so noone ever takes it for granted. Man IF blows...

Rachael07.07.07 · October 2010

(((hugs))) I'm for a waiting period, lol. I think I am one of the last few standing of my various circles of friends that doesn't have any kids/is pg. Sucks big time.

vanessagorc · October 2010

A very fortunate thing about living in Manhattan....

Most people wait till they are a bit older for kids. I am 34, and have a lot of unmarried friend still. Many of my friends don't have kids yet, which is really nice for our IF situation.

DH is from the south, very different. His friends all have kids, and their wives are much younger than i am. I got married when I was 32, and they were telling me to "get on it". Ironically we are MFI, so my age isn't a factor...but I get a few questions about my "old eggs" everytime we see his college crew. Super fun Angry

lyse2143 · October 2010

I actually agree with you on that mandatory waiting period. Some people are just complainers though. I can't stand those types.

kthappy76 · October 2010

vanessagorc:

A very fortunate thing about living in Manhattan....

Most people wait till they are a bit older for kids. I am 34, and have a lot of unmarried friend still. Many of my friends don't have kids yet, which is really nice for our IF situation.

DH is from the south, very different. His friends all have kids, and their wives are much younger than i am. I got married when I was 32, and they were telling me to "get on it". Ironically we are MFI, so my age isn't a factor...but I get a few questions about my "old eggs" everytime we see his college crew. Super fun

I can totally relate. A lot of my friends don't have kids yet either, though there has been a huge wave lately (including the roommate who now lives in Manhattan). My DH is from India, where we would be expected to have had several by now...

I would lose it with the "old eggs" comment, I would tell them you have super eggs. Wink

vanessagorc · October 2010

kthappy76:
vanessagorc:

A very fortunate thing about living in Manhattan....

Most people wait till they are a bit older for kids. I am 34, and have a lot of unmarried friend still. Many of my friends don't have kids yet, which is really nice for our IF situation.

DH is from the south, very different. His friends all have kids, and their wives are much younger than i am. I got married when I was 32, and they were telling me to "get on it". Ironically we are MFI, so my age isn't a factor...but I get a few questions about my "old eggs" everytime we see his college crew. Super fun

I can totally relate. A lot of my friends don't have kids yet either, though there has been a huge wave lately (including the roommate who now lives in Manhattan). My DH is from India, where we would be expected to have had several by now...

I would lose it with the "old eggs" comment, I would tell them you have super eggs.

Last yr we went to a wedding of DH's friend. He was 35 and married a 26 yr old girl. Nite of the RD, she tells me she is off the pill and will ovulate on their honeymoon...also odd bc we aren't tight LOL. Well, that 1 cycle was a BFP.

They have a 5 month old baby and are already trying for number 2. She is VERY concerned about my old eggs. I had to bite my tongue a few time!!!

kthappy76 · October 2010

vanessagorc:

Last yr we went to a wedding of DH's friend. He was 35 and married a 26 yr old girl. Nite of the RD, she tells me she is off the pill and will ovulate on their honeymoon...also odd bc we aren't tight LOL. Well, that 1 cycle was a BFP.

They have a 5 month old baby and are already trying for number 2. She is VERY concerned about my old eggs. I had to bite my tongue a few time!!!

What a peach!!

vanessagorc · October 2010

kthappy76:
vanessagorc:

Last yr we went to a wedding of DH's friend. He was 35 and married a 26 yr old girl. Nite of the RD, she tells me she is off the pill and will ovulate on their honeymoon...also odd bc we aren't tight LOL. Well, that 1 cycle was a BFP.

They have a 5 month old baby and are already trying for number 2. She is VERY concerned about my old eggs. I had to bite my tongue a few time!!!

What a peach!!

I rationalize that her punishment for being a moron is...her hubs is a D-bag. lol.

abbe19 · October 2010

RIght there with ya! I am the last woman standing in my circle of friends yet to conceive. It is exhausting and I am so sick of hearing that I am lucky to not have to get up with any little ones in the morning every single time we go out to dinner. I know that the friend that regularly utters this is just trying to get me to feel better about my situation so I just smile but enough is enough. When is it our turn?

hollymichael · October 2010

Even though I am 39, I have several friends without children for various reasons. One of the benefits of living in a big city, I guess.

On the opposite side of the fence, I grew up in a very small town and some of my high school classmates that have friended me on FB are grandparents. Yep, they are grandparents and I am TTC #1.

jamielynnohio · October 2010

Def one of the last in our circle. We just met a new couple this past year that are like our only childless friends. We find ourselves wanting to make plans with them more and more!

HUGS!!!! IF does blow...

bbakersgirl75 · October 2010

I'm so sorry, I know that's never easy. ((Hugs))

KDR1979 · October 2010

I'm 31, DH is 4 months younger than me. Of course, most of his friends are married to ladies a little younger than me too.

We are pretty much the only married couple in our group w/o kids.

I got married at 28-which was later than most of my friends (from a small town east of Cincinnati).

Most of our friends are having # 2 now. My BF is newly pg with #3!

It's so sad that I don't even want to hang out with large groups of friends anymore b/c it makes me so sad.

hopefulmommy · October 2010

I'm with you! Every one in my circle of friends now has children. The last one to get pregnant was my best friend. She has a 2 month old now. We struggled together for awhile as she suffered 3 miscarriages and I went through treatments. It was a little of "misery likes company" for me. I'm very happy for her and all of my friends but I feel all the more alone now. IF certainly does blow big time!

illinigal · October 2010

I'm 33 and will be 34 in January-- I can't believe another one is around the corner already. Yeah, I feel like everyone I know is pregnant but me. I want my turn, dammit.

kekis · October 2010

If you're still standing, then I'm impressed. It really sucks when you feel surrounded by everyone else and their cute baby bumps and precious little families.

Not to trump you by any means - just perspective, but I'm 42. A couple of my friends that had children really young are already grandparents. UGH.

MrsRumpf · October 2010

Girly, I agree completely.

And NO, you are not the last one standing . . . I wish no one was standing in that place.

MoFree · October 2010

Me, me, me, me. My sister, SIL and all my first cousins except for a guy who is 10 years younger have all started and/or completed their families. The high school and college friends I kept in touch with also have children. I am expecting to receive a pregnancy announcement from a friend who got married in May because I know she and her DH are now TTC. DH's first cousin announced that she expects to be pregnant in April because that's when they are going to start TTC (and I'm sure she will);

I feel that not only am I the last person standing among my friends and family but I will be the last person standing on the IF board. I've been TTC for 2 1/2 years an due to DH's initial reluctance and then his near life ending accident, I haven't even seen a RE yet. Our issue is MFI but that does not mean that I also don't have fertility issues. Given his insistence on going away on an adventure vacation in May, the earliest I can even begin an IVF cycle is June or July, so even under the best case scenario I'll be waiting another 10 months.

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