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RadicalDreamer143
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Ugh, WWYD - sleeping arrangements
RadicalDreamer143
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Very long story short - We're going on a family vacation to the mountains. BIL and SIL arranged this, and invited MIL (FIL won't come, long story). As soon as I was invited, I asked SIL if we could stay at their house the night before driving up, since they are 1 1/2 hours from us, and 1 1/2 closer to the destination, which is 7 hours from our house. SIL says sure, since she knows Liam hates the car.
MIL just a week or two ago says she bought her plane ticket... to BIL/SILs house. She was supposed to fly into the area where the destination is, and meet us there. So, she is expecting BIL/SIL to drive her to the resort.
Now, I ask DH if he spoke to his brother about sleeping arrangements. He said yes, and that they are putting MIL in the guest bedroom, and we would have to sleep in the room over the garage (no bed, I'd have to bring an air mattress), and share bathrooms with BIL/SIL, which is across the house and down stairs.
I told DH, fvck this, I'd rather stay home tonight, and drive tomorrow - we had planned to go to an apple picking place which, driving straight from our house, would be five hours away (instead of 3, 3.5). He is scowling about this - but little does he remember how poorly we sleep on air mattresses.
WWYD? Would you go there anyway and sleep on the floor? Or leave from your house? I told DH he could go to BIL's house tonight with Liam, and I would pick him up in the morning, but he is side-eyeing me.
Edit to clarify: The apple picking place was just intended to be a rest stop, a break from the drive so we could get out, stretch legs, enjoy the weather, get Liam out of the car, etc.
MIL just a week or two ago says she bought her plane ticket... to BIL/SILs house. She was supposed to fly into the area where the destination is, and meet us there. So, she is expecting BIL/SIL to drive her to the resort.
Now, I ask DH if he spoke to his brother about sleeping arrangements. He said yes, and that they are putting MIL in the guest bedroom, and we would have to sleep in the room over the garage (no bed, I'd have to bring an air mattress), and share bathrooms with BIL/SIL, which is across the house and down stairs.
I told DH, fvck this, I'd rather stay home tonight, and drive tomorrow - we had planned to go to an apple picking place which, driving straight from our house, would be five hours away (instead of 3, 3.5). He is scowling about this - but little does he remember how poorly we sleep on air mattresses.
WWYD? Would you go there anyway and sleep on the floor? Or leave from your house? I told DH he could go to BIL's house tonight with Liam, and I would pick him up in the morning, but he is side-eyeing me.
Edit to clarify: The apple picking place was just intended to be a rest stop, a break from the drive so we could get out, stretch legs, enjoy the weather, get Liam out of the car, etc.
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Re: Ugh, WWYD - sleeping arrangements
I'll draw a map.
{ Vacation spot } ------2 hours ------- {Apple picking} ------ 3.5 hours ------ { BIL house } ---------1.5 hours ---------- { Our house }
DH wants to drive to BIL house tonight and sleep on the floor, to only have Liam in the car 3.5 hours before resting tomorrow. I do not think it will be a restful option, since a) his mother is BSC, and I think we'll be forced to stay up late entertaining them and b) air mattress and no bathroom except off of BIL's master bedroom - MIL doesn't share bathrooms. There's another bathroom downstairs, but only a half bath.
I say, we stay home tonight and drive 5 hours to the apple picking place, making a brief stop beforehand to feed Liam and stretch our legs. Possibly stop at BILs, but really, I could do without that since his mother will try and ride with us in the car - we have NO room, but she would try anyway. She tagged along when FIL picked us up from the airport... meaning, she sat in the back seat with me AND our giant carseat, and she is not a small woman. She's not considerate that way.
DH thinks the drive will be too much for Liam (duh, why I didn't want to do this vacation in the first place), and while I do agree with him, I don't see a reasonable alternate option.
It seems like a PITA to put up with all that for 1.5 hours time save, especially since you guys are not driving together the next day. I could see doing it if you are all driving the remaining 5 hours together, but otherwise I'd pass on that.
I mean, did you have plans to caravan the next day and make some fun stops together? like stop for lunch or something? Are you guys missing out on anything by not going to their house first?
OK nvm I get it now. You are still all meeting up at the apple place, so it's a non-issue.
It sounds like what is really going on isn't so much about the air matress as not wanting to be cooped up for an extra night with your BSC MIL. I don't blame you.
No, no one has a car big enough for all of us to go together - we drive a Honda Fit, and BIL drives an Insight.
They plan on waking up at 10am (no kids, and MIL is retired and that is just when she wakes up), hanging around the house till 1pm, then driving to the cabin - check in is at 4pm. DH and I are going to be up around 7am-ish, and we figured we would drive to that apple picking place and have some fun before continuing up to the cabin. MIL wouldn't be much fun there - she pees more often than Liam does, so any extended amount of time outdoors (like 1+ hours) is not fun with her. Plus, she doesn't do "walking." Her idea of fun is sitting around watching TV - can you tell I am not looking forward to this?
I brought up the apple place to them, and no one seemed interested.
Yeah, I'd rather stay home than save a measly 1 1/2 hours. I'd probably still plan on stopping at the apple orchard to break up the trip.
We've done two long car trips (7 and 8 hours) with DD2. The first trip, MIL came with us and helped keep DD2 entertained, but we still had to stop so she could nurse. The second trip, we split up the trip so that we drove halfway after DH got home from work, stayed in a motel, and finished the trip in the morning; DD2 slept the entire time. (The ride home wasn't nearly as smooth, as we drove straight through and hit traffic. Ugh.)
Have you tried playing kids' music in the car for him? DD1 used to hate driving in the car, but during one trip, DH and I kept her calm by singing nursery rhymes. I went out the next day and bought this set, which, to be honest, has a few strange choices, but from then on, we'd just turn it on whenever she started getting upset, and she'd immediately calm down.
We don't have a CD - maybe I can pick one up tonight. I do have some of those Rockabye Baby CD's, but they are just SO weird, lol.
I did go out and buy a mirror that plays music, by Baby Einstein, and some new carseat toys. I dunno, Liam isn't much of a "toy" baby, he much prefers to socialize with people. We'll see how it goes - I don't mind singing to him in the car.
My DS does the best in the car right at bed time. He is usually out within 20 minutes and we could drive all night, if needed. Anyway you could leave when LO goes to bed and drive straight there?
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Yeah, we didn't mind singing either ... for a 30-minute trip. For seven hours, though, I'd definitely prefer a CD!
I actually like my Rockabye Baby CDs
but we save those for sleepy time. The nursery rhymes are a little more entertaining for babies.
this.
OMG do we have the same MIL?