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when to do the registry, opinions needed

jms26jms26
in March 2011 Moms

Here is a brief overview of our registry situation...

We live about 2 hours away from the city (a city big enough to have BRU and other baby stores).  So I invited my mom and my MIL to go there with us in a couple weeks (i'll be about 20 weeks).  I feel I need to work on the registry for peace of mind, to get some things of my mental list and on to paper (or a computer!)  I want to pick out our nursery theme so I can start decorating and painting if needed.  Plus I figured with the holidays and questionable weather coming, it would be good to get it done sooner than later. 

The problem is that my MIL actually called my mom and told her she would go, but she thinks it is WAY too early and doesn't know why I am doing this now. I only invited her so she wouldn't feel left out, she is very self-centric. 

Anyway, is it too early to at least get my registry started?  Who does it hurt?

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Re: when to do the registry, opinions needed

  • mrs.ptbmrs.ptb member
    I started my registry in August! Now we just have to pick out gender specific things  :)
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  • LesleyH11LesleyH11 member

    20 weeks doesn't sound early to me it actually sounds on time :) but some people are more uptight about things like this.  I would just ignore her rude comment and move on, I'm just curious on what your mom told her.   

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  • KayteagirlKayteagirl
    It's definitely a good time...the last 20 weeks will FLY and if anything comes up (bed rest, early baby, etc.) it might not even be that long.  If you were 4 weeks I would agree with MIL, but at 20 she's way off base.
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  • jms26jms26

    I asked my mom the same thing, b/c she is the type of person that avoids conflict at all cost.  Mom told me this is about what she said, "I'm not really sure?  I guess its up to the kids!"  I was really hoping she would not validate my MIL just to be agreeable! 

    I often have to make a special effort to ignore the things my MIL says. I don't know why it even bothers me anymore!

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  • anna2029anna2029 member
    I've started mine online and starting thinking about what I want and doing research on things. Now, I'm just trying to decide where all to register! I'd like to go to the store and register for things prob. later on with my mom, right now things are too crazy busy for me. I think it's a good time though!!!
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  • redkt97redkt97 member
    20 weeks sounds perfect!
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  • Klmorgan83Klmorgan83 member
    If you're planning on getting mostly gender neutral stuff....which most people do since they plan on using if for more than one child, then it's never too early.  Most likely the only gender specific stuff most people register for is blankets, bibs, maybe clothes....so you could do it whenever!  20 weeks sounds like a good time.
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  • buckeyemombuckeyemom member
    I started my registry with DD at 20 weeks.  I think that's pretty typical as most people start to make them after they find out the gender and get good results on the anatomy scan.
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  • mrsbmw09mrsbmw09
    DH and I went to register right after we found out the sex, that was at 16 weeks. I don't think 20 weeks is too early. IMHO it's none of your MIL's business. She doesn't have to go if she's so against it.
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  • AimesHAimesH

    I find out what the baby is today and will start my registry ASAP,and I'll be 20 weeks Thurs.  The only reason I waited it so I could do the gender specific stuff at the same time.

    This is also why only my husband and I are going Smile

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  • SheasSheas member
    I started mine already... and plan to finish after we find out gender (21 weeks).  In my head, it seems to make sense to have it done earlier so it is out of the way and you can work on other things.  I plan on adding and subtracting from it along the way if needed, but having it done would be a huge relief.
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  • awaymire79awaymire79
    No way is that too early. I know what you're going thru tho, it's torture to not be able to start preparing for LO. I say go for it. You're mother and your mil will have a great time...and you will feel so good after you get started. Check out BRU for workshops too...my mom and I hit up a Modela workshop the day that I started my registry, it was extremely informative...and it gave me a little break from the overwhelming act of picking and choosing the exact right and perfect stuff for LO. =) Have fun!
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  • CbethanisCbethanis
    I don't think it's too early either.  We started our registy a couple week ago at the doctors suggestion, actually.  My pregnancy is really "up in the air" we call it, the doctor's don't know what to expect due to a genetic disease I have, so they suggested I do the registry, hospital tours, classes etc. as soon as they told me my chances of carrying through were well over 98%.  We have planned to do everything before December and my shower is planned for January.  It's just a precaution for us, but it also makes the fact that we really are having a baby more "real" and exciting.  I think you MIL Is just trying to control the situation, I would ignore it.  I do suggest that you only take people to do the registry that make you calm, because it is a super stressful process, very overwhelming.  Good luck and Congratulations on your twins!! 
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