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Dumb people and registries
And here is how the conversation went...
ME: "Hope to see you at the baby shower!"
person: "I will be there, What do you need for the baby?"
ME:"everything we do not yet have is on the registry, just type in my name in the registry search bar"
Person:"oh I have already looked at your registry, I was just wondering what you needed...."
The convo ended after that because they were busy, If you have looked at the registry why on earth are you asking me what i NEED? i just told you what we dont have is on there, and you said you looked so I dont get where the question lies?
That is like the 3rd person to say that to me "oh i looked at your registry but what do you need?"....makes no sense.
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Re: Dumb people and registries
Several people have asked me this very question so I thought about what we needed most off the registry (some items we don't need until later, like the high chair) and made a few suggestions.
Now we will have everything we need for the first few months he's here.
I always ask my friends and family what they need. Because sometimes there is things on the registry that a person wants/needs more than other things.
I don't think it's a stupid question at all. And sometimes there are things you need that aren't necessarily on the registry. For example, my sister said she didn't have any nursing wear, so I bought her nursing pajamas.
She was being considerate, not dumb. You sound kind of dumb for complaining about someone asking you what you really needed.
Ha.
I have had a few friends ask me this and I have appreciated it because I could let them know what my "top ten" NEED TO HAVE before baby arrives from my registry were.
I mean, the bottles and tummy time mat would be appreciated, but the things I NEED prior to baby coming are the hats and onesies, bath tub, etc.
So that is probably where they are coming from.
This exactly. My grandma asked my mom if we had a bassinet yet, because she wanted that to be her gift to us. My mom suggested she buy us the pack and play on our registry since we were using that instead of a bassinet or purchase the highchair we had on there. The PnP is a priority item for us, versus some of the other things we have on our registry, but don't "need" right away or would just like to have. My mom also asked me this question so she could pass along the information to people if they asked her (since she is hosting my shower) and people have asked her.
Haha, there are things on my registry from 2- 40 dollars and nothing over. I have already bought all the large items and there's nothing else to get, if my son was born right now he would be set. The hostess made me make a registry so (in answer to first posters comment) I filled the registry with diapers wipes and bottles. And im anything but spoiled. I work for everything I own and have never had anything "handed" to me. HENCE the reason I feel strange having a shower thrown for me especially after I have purchased everything.
I understand where everyone is coming from when you say "maybe they want to get you the key or big items." that puts me in a position because me and my husband have already bought ALL key and large items in the assumption that I was not having a shower. It was a last minute thing and I actually had to come up with stuff to add to the registry because we have next to everything... Maybe I would have sounded less B!tchy if i would have added that tid bit?
Maybe that's exactly why she asked you what you needed..you don't have anything that new moms usually "need" on your registry. Maybe your friend thought you felt bad asking others to buy you the bigger items, so you didn't put them on your registry..and maybe she cares enough about you that she wants to get you one of those bigger items.
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I also do not think that is a stupid question. I know it is easy to register for a whole bunch of things and for me there were things I needed more than others.
I usually ask my really close friends if there is an item they really hoped to get and every time they do have something they really were hoping to get more than others.
At least people are looking at your registry and putting thought in to your gift. I don't think that qualifies them as stupid and I am sure you will appreciate the gifts when you receive them.
FWIW, I missed a good friend's out-of-town baby shower and asked her afterward what she most wanted/needed from her registry to see if there were any particular items she was most excited about.
She ended up telling me that she hadn't really registered for clothes, but lots of people had gotten her warm-weather stuff for the baby since the shower was still during warm weather. She's due in November and lives in Chicago, so she's going to need cold-weather stuff.
I thought asking her was very helpful, because instead of getting her stuff off the registry that she may not have needed as much, I got her the cold-weather clothes she felt she needed more urgently.
Been away from theBump for a while, getting active again for all the good advice
You could have declined having a shower if you felt you had everything you needed and were not anticipating having one. DH and I can afford to buy everything we want for LO, as I'm sure a good amount of people on here can too, but we've purposely not bought certain things because I generously had two people offer to throw me showers and knew that people wanted to buy things for us (my friends flat out told me to stop buying things because they wanted to be able to purchase gifts for us).
par for the course when it comes to this OP.
If someone asks me what I need, I tell them. Yes, I have a registry, yes there are stuff on there. No, most of it we don't "need". If someone asks, I tell them: "There are some things still on the registry, but really what we need are consumable stuff (diapers, wipes, creams) and baby sitting IOU's"
We have everything (minus a carseat) that we absolutely need. Stuff on the registry (cute rugs, wall clocks, books) are stuff that would be nice, but not stuff we absolutely "need".
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
This!!
This. I might argue that you're dumb for not answering with what you'd most like to receive, as that's exactly what they're asking.
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