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LO sleeps great on own, is bed-sharing a bad idea now?

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DH is terrified we'll start bad habits by bringing DD into bed with us some nights. But I'm starting to really crave it.

But, I don't want to start something I'm not prepared to continue indefinitely, and also I'm not even sure DD will like it. She's always been fine in her PnP in our room and after 3 months, her crib in her own room.

Any experience in slowly adding in occasional nights of bed sharing?

We're camping this weekend and will wind up bed sharing then I'm sure but it's such a completely different environment I know that nothing we do then will stick once we're back at home (including nursing to sleep, etc, which I am fully prepared to do).

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Re: LO sleeps great on own, is bed-sharing a bad idea now?

  • 149jen149jen
    I know too many couples who can't get their kids out of their beds and they are now 5-9 years old! It's best not to start that habit, but I totally understand where you are coming from and both DH and I every single night have to force ourselves to put DD in her own bed. Our compromise is that when DH goes to work every morning (he goes in at 7am), he grabs DD and puts her in with me until we get up for the day. DH gets to sleep with her on weekend mornings and afternoon naps. It's a good compromise. She'll understand she can come in in the mornings for a snuggle but has to sleep in her own room at night.
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  • nwagner1nwagner1 member
    Our LO slept in our bed for almost 4 months, and we loved it!!!  Now she sleeps in her crib and she does great.  Every once in a while she sleeps with me when my DH is out of town.  She always goes right back to her crib without a problem.  GL
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  • jiliciousjilicious

    imagejeknigh8:
    I know too many couples who can't get their kids out of their beds and they are now 5-9 years old! It's best not to start that habit, but I totally understand where you are coming from and both DH and I every single night have to force ourselves to put DD in her own bed. Our compromise is that when DH goes to work every morning (he goes in at 7am), he grabs DD and puts her in with me until we get up for the day. DH gets to sleep with her on weekend mornings and afternoon naps. It's a good compromise. She'll understand she can come in in the mornings for a snuggle but has to sleep in her own room at night.

    I work four days a week so I can't do this then but I am off weekends and Wednesdays. Maybe tomorrow instead of nursing her int he den where we usually do that, I'll side lie and see if she drifts off with us. EXCITING, this can happen tomorrow! LOL. Thanks for the reply!

    I worried too about it becoming a habit we can't kick. My work does a Love and Logic class and one mom still let her FOURTEEN YEAR OLD SON sleep with her. No thanks!

    PS I know that's an extreme example but still, I shudder

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  • hikerbethhikerbeth member

    I totally understand what you're saying.  Very occasionally I have nursed my babies down for naps and snuggled with them for a nap, but not bedtime.

    I crave it, too, but I'm just not willing to bed-share long term.

    They have definitely bedshared camping/on vacation/etc. and it never seems to screw things up for home.

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  • buffalo_buckeyebuffalo_buckeye member
    Personally I wouldn't. I would maybe hold her and rock her to sleep for a bit if you are missing that cuddle time but like pp, I know a lot of people that are having trouble getting their 4-6 yr old out of their bed bc they let them sleep there "one time" lol.
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  • jiliciousjilicious

    Damn! DH will revel in knowing he was right, haha!

    I just want to hold her forever sometimes, ugh

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  • Lambie.Lambie. member
    Yeah, my parents couldn't get my sister out of their room until she was in high school. And not a freshman either. No thank you.
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    Yeah, my parents couldn't get my sister out of their room until she was in high school. And not a freshman either. No thank you.

    WAT

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    imagejilicious:

    imageLambie.:
    Yeah, my parents couldn't get my sister out of their room until she was in high school. And not a freshman either. No thank you.

    WAT

    No joke. And I'm not exactly sure when this started either since she slept in her room as a baby. It was a toddler thing.
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  • valetdecoeurvaletdecoeur
    We currently bed-share when DH is away for work, which he is now for 2 weeks, but when he gets back we are going to try to get DS in his crib all night. I wanted to wait until he slept more at night because he still wakes at least 4-6 times, but I think he would wake less if he was in his crib. We haven't done it yet mostly because I keep telling DH that I'M not ready yet, even if DS is!
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  • *Laney**Laney*
    I wouldn't do it.   I think it's harder to break a habbit than to start one
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