Would you want your husband to come?

mrsf123 · October 2010

We have a meeting with a pediatric group tonight. It's not a private interview, it's an information session with other expecting couples. DH just told me that he has too much work to do and do I really need him to go.

On the one hand, I think he should be there, see what the practice is like and whether he likes the doctor.

On the other hand, I don't want him to have to work even later than necessary.

He says that he'd just go with whichever practice I wanted anyway, which I do know is true.

WWYD?

~Flossie~ · October 2010

I would want my husband to come, but if he isn't able to go then he isn't able to go. If you end up picking this doc to be your LO's pedi then set up a time for your DH to meet him at a later date.

ktwilley · October 2010

I was in the same boat. I'm going to be the one taking LO to the Dr. all of the time, and it was just an info session. DH did come with me, and I was glad to have him there. Of the 6 moms there, 2 did not have husbands/partners with them. I told DH if he was too tired (he works very hard and has long days) that if he didn't want to come it was fine with me (and it would have been). I don't think it's necessary for your DH to be there, especially if he's going to have to work even later because of it. They just gave us an info packet and told us about their practice and people asked questions about vaccines. It really wasn't that helpful, and I knew in advance that I was going to use the practice regardless.

themissizz · October 2010

I'd go by myself.

welcel · October 2010

I would want my husband to come because he would have opinions on who to choose and he asks great questions when it comes to those things. But, if this isn't the case in your relationship and you are making the decision, then I would think it's not necessary.

mrsf123 · October 2010

welcel:
I would want my husband to come because he would have opinions on who to choose and he asks great questions when it comes to those things. But, if this isn't the case in your relationship and you are making the decision, then I would think it's not necessary.

My husband would normally have opinions and would voice them, which would help in the decision making process, but would ultimately let me make the decision. (Unless he felt very strongly one way or the other)

Jaimers375 · October 2010

DH didn't go with me to some of the info sessions, his work schedule is pretty crazy and just didn't fit into the times of the sessions. We ended up going with a pedi that he was able to meet beforehand anyway. You do what you have to do.

Mrs.Johns · October 2010

welcel:
I would want my husband to come because he would have opinions on who to choose and he asks great questions when it comes to those things. But, if this isn't the case in your relationship and you are making the decision, then I would think it's not necessary.

This. My H really likes to be involved in decisions like these. However, if your H doesn't care, then I'd let him skip out. I'd probably pre-arrange some sort of agreement that he can't complain after the fact about your choice. Whenever H can't be around for something I always say that to him-- full and fair disclosure.

pawcall · October 2010

crazystace:
I'd go by myself.

I would too.

I'd love for my husband to come, and I'm sure he will if he's not working, but I won't take any heroic measures to make sure he can be there. I don't think he'll add much to the discussion, honestly, and he'll go with whoever I'm comfortable with (I'm the picky one).

chewbecca · October 2010

Would I want my husband to attend? Absolutely. Would I be ok if he couldn't attend because of prior commitments/work schedule? Although it'd sting a little bit, I think I would understand.

If his decision would have deferred to your choice any way, then I'd much rather he take the time away from work to help with another appointment. I do like the suggestion about having DH meet the doc later just to make sure he gets the same vibes you do. Most docs (at least in my area) are willing to talk with potential clients via phone - could he arrange a phone call with him/her?

utlawgirl · October 2010

chewbecca:
Would I want my husband to attend? Absolutely. Would I be ok if he couldn't attend because of prior commitments/work schedule? Although it'd sting a little bit, I think I would understand.

This. In the end, if he's willing to let you make the decision, and you understand what's important to him, I'd let him off the hook. Doesn't mean it isn't frustrating, though.

m&m2006 · October 2010

i made my dh come with me when we were interviewing pediatricians. then again, he's a physician, and i wanted his immediate feedback on their practice.

teshy1 · October 2010

Ideally, yes, I'd like my hubby there at least for support, but he also trusts me to make decisions regarding health care for us. I work in health care, and I tend to be pretty inquisitive in matters like this -- I'd probably be asking the pedi group tons of questions.

cittycat · October 2010

Nah, not a big deal if he misses it.

Coleslawcat · October 2010

I'd go by myself. There will be plenty of opportunities for him to meet the doctor at a later date. If any major objections come up later you can always switch pediatricians, it's easy to do.

GenRN45 · October 2010

i want DH to come to all of the pediatrician interviews with me, but then again, we plan on only interviewing pedis that meet 1:1 and have already eliminated groups that only use this group meeting thing for info sessions.

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