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Need some nestie dust

futrkingsleyfutrkingsley member
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We are on day 4 of preschool and the tears have been out in full force this week.  DS is really really upset to be left at school "alone." I know it is hard for him, and I know it's what he needs.  I know he'll adjust.  I don't know if my mama's heart can survive leaving him at school while he sobs and screams for me much longer though.

So I need some nestie dust that the transition goes quickly and he finds his happy place soon.  It's breaking my heart to see him so upset.

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  • AvaLikeLavaAvaLikeLava member

    Our transition (granted, G was 4m old) took 2 full weeks. Also the first day following a week-end was pretty hard too for a few weeks after that.

    It will get better. Give him (and yourself) time.

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  • green*eyesgreen*eyes
    We had a good first day, and then tears for the next three or more.  And for the next couple of days after that, he was clingy and fussy when I left.  For the last few weeks it's been good, but he still clamps onto me when we get into the classroom and has a hard time letting go.  But once he's waving byebye to me through the window, he's all smiles.  That seemed to really help - having that ritual of another goodbye after I'd let go of him and gone out the door (plus he loves getting up on the stepstool to see out). Not sure if there's an option like that at your school, but it worked well for us.  Lots of dust for a smooth transition!
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  • chillycoochillycoo

    Buckets of nestie dust!!!

    It will get better, I promise. Just think that in about a month from now, it'll be a thing of the past. It won't be cake but it will eventually get easier and easier. Pretty soon he'll just run in and say "BYE Mama!" like it's nothing. HUGS. 

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  • ashleyhuneyashleyhuney member
    Hugs Sarah, that would break my heart too :(
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  • soon2Bkranzsoon2Bkranz member
    That is so hard...so much dust for all of you
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  • SweetiePSweetieP
    Lots of dust that it gets easier for everyone!!!
    Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.
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  • NCSWNCSW
    I'm sending dust your way!! I hope the tears don't last much longer. 
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  • My.ABC.LifeMy.ABC.Life
    Hang in there Mama!!!
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  • tri_bride05tri_bride05
    Sending lots of dust and good thoughts your way. Have you tried having your DH do the drop off? Another mom at M's preschool suggested it and helped us a lot - for some reason he just cries less over daddy leaving. Good luck! Hope he gets throught he transisiton quickly.
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  • jsugrinjsugrin member
    I hope it gets better soon and that he starts to love it.
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  • futrkingsleyfutrkingsley member

    imagetri_bride05:
    Sending lots of dust and good thoughts your way. Have you tried having your DH do the drop off? Another mom at M's preschool suggested it and helped us a lot - for some reason he just cries less over daddy leaving. Good luck! Hope he gets throught he transisiton quickly.

    A, did it really help?  It's certainly an option for us as if we are on time, we all leave at the same time but in two different cars.  He's asked for daddy (and Gramma) mid sob fest so I know he's not just feeling deserted by me, but by all three of us when he's there.  Dh offered to do drop off but I resisted because I felt like then he'd really feel like I ditched him (by not going with him to school).  But if others found that it resulted in less emotion then I'm willing to try it.

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    imagefutrkingsley:

    imagetri_bride05:
    Sending lots of dust and good thoughts your way. Have you tried having your DH do the drop off? Another mom at M's preschool suggested it and helped us a lot - for some reason he just cries less over daddy leaving. Good luck! Hope he gets throught he transisiton quickly.

    A, did it really help?  It's certainly an option for us as if we are on time, we all leave at the same time but in two different cars.  He's asked for daddy (and Gramma) mid sob fest so I know he's not just feeling deserted by me, but by all three of us when he's there.  Dh offered to do drop off but I resisted because I felt like then he'd really feel like I ditched him (by not going with him to school).  But if others found that it resulted in less emotion then I'm willing to try it.

    It really did make a difference for us - I think it's worth a try. If nothing else, it will give you a day off from the stress.

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  • futrkingsleyfutrkingsley member
    imagetri_bride05:
    imagefutrkingsley:

    imagetri_bride05:
    Sending lots of dust and good thoughts your way. Have you tried having your DH do the drop off? Another mom at M's preschool suggested it and helped us a lot - for some reason he just cries less over daddy leaving. Good luck! Hope he gets throught he transisiton quickly.

    A, did it really help?  It's certainly an option for us as if we are on time, we all leave at the same time but in two different cars.  He's asked for daddy (and Gramma) mid sob fest so I know he's not just feeling deserted by me, but by all three of us when he's there.  Dh offered to do drop off but I resisted because I felt like then he'd really feel like I ditched him (by not going with him to school).  But if others found that it resulted in less emotion then I'm willing to try it.

    It really did make a difference for us - I think it's worth a try. If nothing else, it will give you a day off from the stress.

    Thank you.  I'm going to try this next school day.  It can't be worse, right? 

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