Living with parents and ttc...too weird??

CrazyCurls · October 2010

DH lost his job this past May, since we had no family where we were living we decided to move back to where we both grew up. We didn't make any money on selling our house so are living with my parents to build up our savings again. Our daughter is 16 months old and I want our kids to be around 2 yrs apart.

I am thinking 9 months out and know that we will be on our own by then, if not in our own house, we own a condo and the renters would be out by next Summer so we could move in.

Would it be too weird to ttc while living with my parents? To suddenly announce that 'hey! we're expecting!'. DH thinks so but I'm just trying to think ahead! I'm also thinking I'm 2 yrs older so it could take longer this time to get a BFP

boymamaco · October 2010

No,I think they'd be thrilled for you!

MrsLee22 · October 2010

I mean, you have one kid already, plus you're married, so it's really no secret that you're doing the dirty dirty ANYWAYS. I say go for it!

brockli · October 2010

Why not give it a try?! Probably wouldnt abstain while living there, why not make a baby!

brookelynpaisley · October 2010

That would be too weird for me, yes. I'm not even able to muster up the balls to have sex in my parents' house, much less look at my parents and tell them I'm pregnant and have everyone realize we concieved under their roof. Ew.

Jelliebean1982 · October 2010

They already know you are having sex.

Lakerchic7272 · October 2010

We lived with DH's parents for a while so I say its not weird at all. You are married and have a kid already, so like pp said whats the big deal. Everyone has got to assume that you have sex.

NinaBean1982 · October 2010

I don't think it's weird at all!! You guys are married, already have a child...Go For It and Good luck!

megd06 · October 2010

brookelynpaisley:
That would be too weird for me, yes. I'm not even able to muster up the balls to have sex in my parents' house, much less look at my parents and tell them I'm pregnant and have everyone realize we concieved under their roof. Ew.

this would be me....but like most pp's said--they obviously know that you are having sex, so it's really not a big deal.

My only concern would be your living/job situation--if you are POSITIVE you will be able to move into the condo next summer, go for it--but if there's any chance it won't work out, I'd wait to make sure you won't be living with your parents with 2 LO's.

ccam · October 2010

You might be living with your parents until next summer - your parents obviously don't think you're going to abstain from sex until then! They would probably be too excited to be grandparents again to worry about where you conceived!

Ceridwen21 · October 2010

It's not the having sex in your parents house that would bother me, but rather just your financial situation. I wouldn't TTC until my DH was employed.

picklesx · October 2010

Ceridwen21:
It's not the having sex in your parents house that would bother me, but rather just your financial situation. I wouldn't TTC until my DH was employed.

This exactly.

LauraElizabeth85 · October 2010

I have to say I think that is not the best idea.

First off, I'm sure they will be able to do the math and having everyone know that is just too creepy. As well, if you are trying to save money to buy a new home and living with your parents, it's probably not the best time to be having another baby. You want your kids to be two years apart.... well unfortunately life isn't always fair and you need to be realistic and realize that having secure finances is more important than an age gap.

Just my two cents.

maybebride · October 2010

Like others, my concern would be more on the financial end than the when you have sex end. That's where I would give you the side eye when it came to conceiving while living with your parents because you have no money/jobs.

First, I don't think it would be odd to conceive while living with your parents. If anybody does that math and thinks anything about it, then they have a problem. You are married adults. Certainly nobody assumes you are not having sex, even living with your parents.

You haven't mentioned if you and/or your husband actually have jobs. I hope you do, but that would definitely impact my answer. That and how long those jobs have been held. If you were in dire straights when you moved and didn't find employment right away, I would wait until you have more money saved up and can clearly establish that you can pay bills on your current income.

TrueToLife · October 2010

I think as long as you know by the time the next one is born that you'd be on your own then NO, it's totally fine. Yeah, you might think that they'd jump right to thinking that you did the nasty at their house, but seriously, the news of a new baby overshadows that! And, I'm sure they assume it anyway

brookelynpaisley · October 2010

Ceridwen21:
It's not the having sex in your parents house that would bother me, but rather just your financial situation. I wouldn't TTC until my DH was employed.

This too. You said you owned a condo, so you have a housing situation available to you. What would bother me tand make me judgey is that he's out of a job and you're making another mouth to feed. I realize you're probably living with the parents to save money, but it seems irresonsible to me at least to have another kid when your situation isn't set just because you want them some certain number of months apart.

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