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crownedbee
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Do you really think I needed to know that?
crownedbee
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(I'm on my phone so please forgive any spelling errors.)
Before dinner last night, my grandmother shared some awful news about a distant relative of mine. They have been trying for awhile and had 3 miscarriages (bless her heart) so the doctor suggested they do a lap to see if there is anything going on that is keeping her from having a take home baby.
Doctor says it will be a 2 to 2.5 hour surgery. Two hours in, he comes out to speak with the family (her husband and mom) and says that her situation is every doctor's worst nightmare and they have perforated her colon and vagina--presumeably because they can't see where they are and what they're doing. Six hours later she comes out of surgery and is told what happened. Grandma says they said "screw it, we'll just adopt."
Besides the fact that there are a couple issues with the way she told me this and some of the things she said, this is the exact reason I'm scared to death of having a lap.
Thanks for making me feel better, grandma.
Before dinner last night, my grandmother shared some awful news about a distant relative of mine. They have been trying for awhile and had 3 miscarriages (bless her heart) so the doctor suggested they do a lap to see if there is anything going on that is keeping her from having a take home baby.
Doctor says it will be a 2 to 2.5 hour surgery. Two hours in, he comes out to speak with the family (her husband and mom) and says that her situation is every doctor's worst nightmare and they have perforated her colon and vagina--presumeably because they can't see where they are and what they're doing. Six hours later she comes out of surgery and is told what happened. Grandma says they said "screw it, we'll just adopt."
Besides the fact that there are a couple issues with the way she told me this and some of the things she said, this is the exact reason I'm scared to death of having a lap.
Thanks for making me feel better, grandma.
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Re: Do you really think I needed to know that?
OMG! That is horrible.
That would scare me to death too.
((hugs))
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Omg Yikes. That has to be like statistically extreme or completely off the mark of what actually happened.
It is your grandmother after all, can we really trust what she says?
Talk to Dr. M and have him walk you through everything.
OMG! that gave me chills.
I'm sorry hun!
Scary, but very rare I would imagine!
Just make sure you ask your dr. lots of questions and if you don't feel comfortable, don't do it.
I am sure what happened to your cousin is extremely rare. If you have concerns talk with your doc. Your grandmother reminds me of DH's. She has no filter and just lets things out.
She probably had a few complications in a 3 hour surgery and was told there would still be some work to get KU so they decided to adopt.
I forgot for a minute I had to remove all the crap from her story.
My Dr had color photos of my lap and all the anatomy appeared identifiable. I am no Dr, but why would a hole in the colon or vagina (which I assume were closed) prohibit IVF or other fertility measures?
I had a lap to remove fibroids and to correct a uterine septum. For me, recovery wasn't bad at all.
I am definitely concerned about the Lap (which isn't even set in stone yet) but I know it can be a very good thing. I had a Lap in 2004 for a different reason, but in the same exact area where this Lap will be, and the recovery was longer than I was led to believe but not horrible.