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Postpartum Depression
Baby Blues vs. PPD
I had my baby last Monday (10/4). She was early, I had my c-section scheduled for that Thursday (10/7). I had some complications which has made me feel even worse than I did with my other two c-sections. Now having 3 kids adds more expectations. I feel like I was hit with everything at once this time around! I left the hospital and the next day my breasts were engorged (I can't BF...tried but b/c I had a reduction years ago, the milk ducts were severed), my incision is infected, I have a pain in my upper stomach that shoots to my back (they think could be from taking a lot of Ibuproferen or it is an ulcer), and now a stiff neck because of the way I slept last night.
I did have the baby blues with my previous deliveries, but I can't remember how long they lasted. I just want to get back to life. I feel so bad for DH. He is doing everything and trying to get to work when he can. I feel useless. I hate relying on others to take care of me. I can't sleep. I am not hungry. I hate that I came home and didn't have those extra days to get stuff ready. I can keep going...
I do love my kids, all 3 of them. My baby is absolutely beautiful and I wouldn't trade her for anything! I don't have any thoughts of hurting her or myself...just that I wish there was more meaning in life. 
This delivery was by far the worst of my three, that's for sure!
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Re: Baby Blues vs. PPD
Girl you need to get on that phone and call some people up. You need help with those kids and your house. You sound like you need some rest and someone to take care of you. I had a horrible experience with my labor and c section and couldnt imagine coming home to 2 more kids.
You need time to heal too...poor thing. I feel foe you. But baby blues last up to 2 weeks anything longer is when they say PPD is usually the case. Mine however happened already at one week. But if it was baby blues happened before hopefully that all they are this time. Hopefully you can get some friends or family over there and catch up on taking care of urself. GL
Wow, that is a lot to deal with, I'm sorry that you're in so much pain! My c-section recovery was hell as well, so I can relate. But you really, REALLY need to just let the guilt go of others doing all the work and helping you - you had a THIRD major surgery! You MUST recover!! Give yourself that time and enlist the help of everyone you can. Just do it, and don't think anything else about it.
I'm obviously not a doctor, but if i had to say, I would say you are probably just having a little Baby Blues right now. Adjusting to three small children after having major surgery and it being a few days earlier than expected is a huge change , and anyone would expect to be feeling some difficulty dealing with all that, on top of the fact that your recovery has been way worse than before. That's not to say you don't or won't have PPD, but I think right now you need to focus on just getting well and learning your new family routine rather than worrying if you are experiencing PPD. For me, at least, I knew my sad feelings had gone over the line of just "blues" when I was having uncontrollable crying over things that shouldn't have been that big of a deal, when I was feeling irrationally anxious about very minor things, and when I just felt like I didn't want anything to do with my daughter and that I was a bad mother and that she would have been better off not having me as her mother. My head just...wasn't right. My thought proccesses were not normal, and they became increasingly abnormal/repetitive/disturbing.
Anyway like I said I'm not a doctor, so I can't tell you what you're experiencing (and I think PPD is different for everyone), but IMO there's definitely a sense that something is just not right when you have PPD. Good luck, I hope you are able to feel better soon and that your recovery gets progressively easier!