Telling family about Infertility?!

kshoe19 · October 2010

After TTC for 2 years, I'm thinking about telling our family about our infertility... any advice?

periwnkl10 · October 2010

DH and I told both of our families from the beginning because we knew we needed their support. Some of our closest friends also know. I honestly feel relieved with them knowing because I don't feel like I'm hiding anything, and while they may not "understand" what I'm going through, they are able to provide comfort and support through the process.

If you are comfortable with it, I think it's a good idea to tell them. Good luck!

Sarah&royale · October 2010

Hi.. I don't really have advice for you, but in my situation, I didn't tell our family for the first year. Then my doctor scheduled me for a hysteroscopy and a d&c and I felt my mom deserved to know in case something bad happened while I was under general anestesia. I know the odds are slim to none that anything would have happened, but my mother would have never forgiven me. For me, it's a huge weight off my shoulders because I'm very close to her and it makes life easier for me to have her know. Good luck!

redsoxbono · October 2010

We haven't shared with our families, but my best friend struggled with IF for years. She was great about letting us know what she needed. I think that was really important. For example, when they had a failed cycle she would just withdraw. She let us know that is how she dealt and not to feel hurt if she didn't return calls, etc. Or, she told her MIL that they would fill her as to how cycles were going, and that it was painful when she asked. Stuff like that.

I think most people want to help and be supportive, so letting them know how they can do that is one of the best things you can do.

MSaksa · October 2010

We've been pretty open with our family and close friends about our IF struggles. I blog about most of it and after we told them left it at 1. read my blog or 2. feel free to ask me so that they could chose how involved they wanted to be. Good luck...its not an easy conversation to have but I definitely feel better that its out in the open