3rd Trimester

baby bump (stupid vent)

A lady came into the bakery I work at today and remembered me as the girl who is 8 months pregnant and you can't tell. Sigh. I know you guys hate it, but I really wish I had strangers coming up and asking how far along I am and giving me unsolicited advice. I'm a shy person so the only way I'm told congratulations is when a coworker or family member gush to strangers that I'm 35w along.?

One of my regulars came in wednesday and asked how I was. I told her I'm leaving in two weeks and she asked why. When I told her I'll be full term then, she was shocked. I've known her since at least april. Did she think I was just getting chubbier? Ugh. What a way to ruin my 35/35..

Please don't tell me I'm lucky to not be huge. I still have a baby in my uterus that pushes on my bladder and kicks my ribs. I've gained 30 lbs and have horrible stretch marks all over my stomach. My feet and legs are swollen and I can't wear my wedding ring. And yet my maternity clothes fall off me. And I have no bump to get maternity pictures of.

?Just had to get that out. Stupid hormones. Ok I'm done.?

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  • Lol can I share some? I have had a belly since 4 months when I had to quit my job as a school bus driver because I couldn't fit behind the wheel safely anymore. Now the husband and I are barley making ends meet and hope we can last through December without my pay. We have gone through all are savings at this point which was only 4k but its been tough. I tell myself it could always be worse. At least we make ends meet at this point.
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    I was the SAME WAY with my dd. I was small. It was SO annoying- people would ask if I was 5 months and I would be like "No, Im due in a week". THEEEEEN theyd have the audacity to ask if the baby was ok since I wasnt huge. SO ANNOYING. Yes my babys ok. Yes Im sure. No I dont have to gain 25719379 pounds to produce a healthy baby thankyouverymuch. Oh yes, I get it. ;) **hugs**

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  • I can totally understand, while yes I do have a bump is is not what you would call a "normal" baby bump. Due to a birth defect I have a VERY large scar along my belly about 3 inches above and 3 inches below my belly button. Because of this scar tissue, I will not round out like most pregnancy ladies do so I will never have a cute little bump to show off. You can't really tell that I am pregnant unless you know me, then you can tell. It is very annoying. I really wanted to be able to go out and someone give me the unsolicited (unwanted of course) advise and be able to gripe about it. Stick out tongue But no luck.
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  • I'm not saying I wish I didn't have a big bump, but I do wish I was a little bit smaller. I'm 5'1", and I broke down in tears yesterday afternoon after a lady at Chick-Fil-A told me I was going to have a 10 lb baby.

    The grass isn't always greener on the other side.

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  • I have gotten bigger since week 35 so you may too.  I saw a group of people at 34 weeks- they were like "no way" and then I saw them around 37 weeks- and they were like "oh we see you are coming right along".  Don't get discouraged.

     And this is my third pregnancy and the first time my prego pants fall off of me- and I am 38 weeks pregnant!  IT STINKS!  Obviously I don't feel the cutest I ever have, and that really makes it worse!  My baby belly is always getting flashed and I KNOW it is not cute!

  • Well I get huge when pregnant so I have the opposite problem. You really can't win either way- people will say rude comment on your size whether too big or too small!!
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  • 2 months ago I was "having twins!!" as people would say, now when I tell them I'm due Monday I get looks of shock and comments about how I'm not big enough....after all this I'm going to write a manual about what NOT to say to pregnant women - which would include pretty much everything except for 'You look amazing"! :)

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  • You are not alone. I haven't had one single stranger come up and touch my belly and I'm the weirdo that wants them to!

    My bump is small as well (I can still fit into most of my regular clothes) and get annoyed that it's not more obvious. I get the same reaction as you do from people and it's annoying to try and explain that I only have 6 weeks left even though I look like I'm barely out of my second tri.

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    (2nd tri's boring so Im lurking...LOL)

    I was the SAME WAY with my dd. I was small. It was SO annoying- people would ask if I was 5 months and I would be like "No, Im due in a week". THEEEEEN theyd have the audacity to ask if the baby was ok since I wasnt huge. SO ANNOYING. Yes my babys ok. Yes Im sure. No I dont have to gain 25719379 pounds to produce a healthy baby thankyouverymuch. Oh yes, I get it. ;) **hugs**

     

    This exactly. In the last 2 weeks I've finally gotten some stranger comments, but when I tell people how far along I am, I definitely get some strange looks and comments. Everyone just carries differently. Are you still wearing your normal clothes? I am, and I think my bump is actually less clear in them than it would be in maternity clothes (I.E. Empire waist shirts, ect)

    ...That being said, from about week 35 to now, I have definitely gotten bigger. Hell from week 37 to now I think I am noticeably bigger. Maybe you'll be like me and just really fill out at the end

  • I am the same way. People always claim that they can't tell i am pregnant and I am 31 weeks. I don't know if they forgot what i looked like before but i most definately have a belly. The other day at work the receptrionist grilled me on how much weight i have gained and a friend of mine who has never been pregnant and knows nothing about confronted me to ask me if i was eating ( apparently a friend of hers was much bigger than i am when she was only 5 months along) Aside from people that i have told or find out through the grape vine i haven't had one person ask me when i am due or how far along i am. i can totally understand how the opposite "you are so huge" is annoying as well but i am starting to get annoyed of being accused of not taking care of my baby
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    imageflowerchild77:

    (2nd tri's boring so Im lurking...LOL)

    I was the SAME WAY with my dd. I was small. It was SO annoying- people would ask if I was 5 months and I would be like "No, Im due in a week". THEEEEEN theyd have the audacity to ask if the baby was ok since I wasnt huge. SO ANNOYING. Yes my babys ok. Yes Im sure. No I dont have to gain 25719379 pounds to produce a healthy baby thankyouverymuch. Oh yes, I get it. ;) **hugs**

     

    This exactly. In the last 2 weeks I've finally gotten some stranger comments, but when I tell people how far along I am, I definitely get some strange looks and comments. Everyone just carries differently. Are you still wearing your normal clothes? I am, and I think my bump is actually less clear in them than it would be in maternity clothes (I.E. Empire waist shirts, ect)

    ...That being said, from about week 35 to now, I have definitely gotten bigger. Hell from week 37 to now I think I am noticeably bigger. Maybe you'll be like me and just really fill out at the end

    Same here. I get scowly looks and rude comments after I tell them I'm 7 months along.. and they all tell me I'm not eating enough and should go see my doctor and have him prescribe me some pizza or something.. Which.. is.. really lame and makes me sad and reminds me of the middle school days of being a scrawny knob-kneed dork who all the fat girls made fun of for "being anorexic". No fun at all :[

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  • I got this with Kate. I didn't even tell my students until I was 8 months along because you really couldn't tell.  And I delivered a 9.5 pound baby.

    You can't win either way.

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